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My friend was on a date, and was deep in conversation walking through the city, and did not notice that do not walk sign had gone on. She continued talking, and as she starting crossing the street (not realizing the car that was about to crash into her) the boy yelled out her name and grabbed onto her shoulder pulling her back. With his hand still on her shoulder he stammered, I’m..um..sorry…I wasn’t thinking you were a girl.. They are happily engaged 🙂 On another date, the same girl saw the front headlight was out, asked the boy to please stop at the side of the road, calmly got out of the car, kicked the headlight until it flickered on, and got back in the car.
I do campus kiruv, and when I first started, I was very intimidated…Here I was, the only frum Jews on campus surrounded by these brilliant students. I realized that I had to be so careful with all my actions and words, and how I present myself because I am representing Judaism..and then I realized, why just on campus?! We all need to constantly remind ourselves that we need to present ourselves as an Am Kadosh, no matter where and when.
The notice was from the Board of Health:
As I said, it is recommended for anyone with a pre-existing condition such as asthma, other respiratory diseases, or any other condition or status that makes you more susceptible to the flu (old, kids, immunocompromised):
Board of Health writes:
that make them more likely to get very sick with the flu or health conditions that make influenza more dangerous. These include asthma, diabetes, chronic heart and lung conditions, kidney failure, or a weakened immune system.
Health care workers who have direct contact with patients and cannot receive vaccine through their employers
The Board writes: “Most people with flu-like symptoms get better on their own,without
medical treatment. Like regular, seasonal flu, H1N1 influenza (swine flu) is a respiratory (lung)infection. It causes fever and a cough or sore throat that can last a week or more. Some people also get diarrhea and vomiting. H1N1 caused some severe illness last spring. But the great majority of infections did not cause complications or require any medical treatment.
You have to know that your kid wants to grow and learn. Even if they don’t seem to be “knowing right from wrong” at this point in their lives. Many many girls come to seminary the way you describe and leave completely different. Had they had not gone to seminary they would have never had that chance to grow and change and define themselves..figure out who they are without their friends and family and community.. Again, this is why that year that seems so unreasonable is so important..otherwise they are stuck as high-school minded girls. And yes..there are guys in yeshiva who have the same issue.
ps. I am now going to try to find an accurate source for the CDCs notice, which I should have done before posting the information
If what Ronrsr says is true, than I retract my post and apologize for relaying false information as it was given to me.
Tzippi..your last post is a whole different topic but I agree, no need to de-program your doing just fine… There are guys sitting and learning with no chashivus hatorah just because that is what your “supposed to do” (dont get me wrong.. there are guys sitting in yeshiva who are real learning guys and very very machshiv torah, and I have a tremendous amount of respect for them..) and there are guys who are working, not because that is their goal in life, but simply to support a family, doing that while keeping sedarim, and going to shiurim, and walking around with a sefer in their hands..that is a person chashivus hatorah as well.
Listen..if a girl is mature and has her head on straight then I agree…
I work with high school girls, and in my opinion most of them don’t know who they are or what they are doing in life.. they are on cruise control. You can do college in Seminary (I finished my degree before girls who opted out of seminary) if your worried about a degree. In a whole year, you figure out who you are, who you want to be, what kind of guy you want/need, what kind of wife you want to be, how you want to raise your kids and run your home. You spend a year without outside definitions of yourself so that you can truly define yourself. Even if your a good frum girl your whole life, it important to still be someone who thinks and chooses to live that way, otherwise we are passing down meaningless traditions to the next generation. PS. just because a girl can support a guy learning doesnt mean she is going to be a good wife and mother and instill good values into the home.
But again, if a girl is Fro-Yo-ing through seminary and coming home all floaty and 18 years old wanting to get married because she found a pretty dress, wants to wear a ring and finally get to have a boyfriend…then yeah, she could have stayed home.
tzippi- im not understanding the conflict… I was talking away from home even for NY girls
Seminary is a really important year for girls who need it/take it seriously ie. If your year is not about Sam’s and FroYos.
That being said..seminary doesn’t need to be in Israel for $$$$$$$. There are other alternatives in US/Canada/UK.
BUT Night seminary; staying at home and being in college while your doing is just not the same at all and the girls do not benefit as much from it.
Coming from a Doctor…
The CDC sent out a warning that there are very high levels of mercury in the H1N1 vaccine, more than advised, and they do not know much about the vaccine and didn’t not have ample time to test it.
If the CDC is admitting to the high levels of mercury, and there are always higher than recommended levels in vaccines..imagine how much is really in there this time.
Swine flu is as dangerous as the regular flu (which is not just a few sniffles) if your immune system can handle it than there is no issue..
Bottom line.. If you have a pre-existing condition such as asthma, other respiratory diseases, or any other condition or status that makes you more susceptible to the flu (old, kids, immunocompromised..) the vaccine is recommended.
Went to Ateres…changed my life..I agree with everything lechlecha says..
I am not one of those girls that comes back and says wow everyone must go here..
I loved it but I understand not every sem is for every girl and it has to be a right fit so that you can get the most out of your year.
Ateres was amazing but you have to be someone who is genuinely looking for a year of introspection and figuring out who you want to be for the rest of your life.. The girls are out of town BY, but still all different types, but good, real, solid growing girls. The school is small and everyone knows eachother and the teachers know each girls which was amazing for me, although some people like bigger schools. The thing with the academics is that its not just reading Rambams and Rashis and writing reports like other schools..it is very intellectually stimulating, for girls who like to think, question, and understand, not necessarily just learn academically. Hashkafa through text, not just fluff, but sources, thats what makes the changes stick..They do have two tracks, for girls who want to work on a more academic level, and girls who would rather not have to prepare meforshim and do assignments. (I was in level aleph and didnt really do well on tests or homework, Level two was not enough of a challenge, I didnt go on a transcript and no one will ever see my terrible grades, shhh don’t tell the shadchan.)
4 Years out of seminary and still inspired 🙂
(Just my persective on Afikei from my many friends who went there, and I actually applied there as well… not so intellectual, but full of amazing hashkafa and growth, it is not considered a BY school at all.)
Good news..my friend, an awesome writer, is currently working on a well written Jewish novel
Some things in Judaism are not black and white, even though the frum society today tries very hard to make it that way. I agree that banning guests is ridiculous but at the same time I have seen (and experienced) many cases where there was actually a real problem. So where do we draw our lines? Do we just have to know ourselves and be honest with ourselves if it applies to us or not? I teach non-religious college students and sadly the answer I give most commonly throughout the day is “Don’t judge judaism by the jews..” They ask me about morality in Judaism and all the issues and problems in Orthodox society and I have to say, Judaism is beautiful..the Jews..sometimes not so much. It makes me nauseous and its embarrassing that this is the answer I have to give. Yes, I understand we are human and make mistakes..no one is perfect, not me you, the gadol hador or Moshe Rabbeinu..but even though Moshe made mistakes you can see what he lived for, his essence, his higher, purposeful way of living. If we lived the ways Jews were meant to live we won’t need to have blanket bans, and takanos that get stranger by the year, and as many issues in marriage, and parenting, and dating as we do now. Start living in a way that allows people to judge Judaism by the Jews.