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Hey! So, you should definitely do a lot of research and ask people who had had a positive experience, and ones who have had a negative one.
It can be a tricky place to go to… You really have to make sure you’re up to it… If it’s right for you – you’ll gain tremendously, if it’s not… All I can say is good luck.
As for your questions above, Most of them were already answered, so I’ll answer the ones that weren’t. They have 2 dorms, one called “Willow” (short for Willowglen), and one called 138 (which is the address). Willow is the larger dorm with more girls, but 138 houses the dining hall and office. Each has a kitchen, but Willow’s is for personal use, as opposed to the one in 138. I dormed in Willow and I don’t remember if 138ers were able to use the main kitchen for personal use… Willow has fridge space, and many people buy George Formans (mini grills) to make their own food. You absolutely cannot use any electrcal cooking appliances in your room, as they are afraid it will be a fire hazard.
As for shabbos, you have to come to the meals (in 138) and Rabbi Katz gives a mussar shiur in the afternoon on shabbos. It’s generally very interesting and inspirational. They don’t really have activities, you basically sleep and chill with your friends.
Good luck! I’d be interested to know if you decide to go 🙂
I went a few years ago, and I know some things have changed, but if you have any more questions I will do my best to answer. Hatzlacha with your decision!
There is a book about being shomer negia by Gila Manolson, called “The Magic Touch.” It is written with sensitivity and is not explicit, but is very educational in an extremely logical sense. It explains the practical benefits of being shomer, and the negative outcomes of breaking it.
IMHO it is teenager-friendly, and if this is something that this boy is struggling (or will be) with, then you should not worry about tiptoeing around… From what you said about his environment, I would assume he is not naive and you should be open and honest with him.
There are many, many people who read it and became shomer negia. It definitely helped me when I was younger… I would highly recommend it.
You can read it first yourself and use that as a guide for what to tell him, but I would suggest giving it to him to read himself. It is a very easy read; it’s thin and has no fluff.
Good luck, I would like to hear how it goes!
Enough said.
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