it seems both of these individuals went to the same kiddush (b’h)so its an isolated incident though the 2nd individual wrote what the first one chose to leave out for good reason
having said that i fully agree 100% with both letters (though living in lakewood b’h we(so far)dont have these problems.
i think credit goes to these 2 individuals who took the time out to bring this to the publics attention and rabbonim will definatly come out and give speeches about tznius most do anyway especially now b4 the summer etc but it definatly gives backbone to the rabonim when they see that torahdik baalebatim are behind them and support there efforts
may hashem keep our machne kodesh from outside influenses and behaivor
these issues have to be practiced by the parents at home and reinforced in the bais yaakov schools AT AN ELEMENTRY LEVEL NOT 11/12th grade HS. if we have the zechus to be born frum we should take advantage of it and be mechanach our childrent to be proud of tznius and not feel suffocated by it! its all a matter of how we are mechanech our children