I really don’t have patience to read the whole thread but I just want to point out one thing. (someone might have said this though)
People tend to pity the parents and families of these children and think of the children as horrible. Being that I was at risk myself and b”h returned, I want to say that the pain is excrutiating *spelling lol* for those who are in it. Every time I would do something I knew was wrong but felt that I needed to do it I would just cry and cry after. I knew Hashem was there but I just was angry. And yes, the smartest do go off. People go through intense hardships that you just may not even believe but I can’t say always but definitely most of the OTD kids had some trouble in school or at home. Many times it has to do with parents and then the parents are the ones who are pitied when they’re the ones at fault-NOT always the case thought.