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April 12, 2011 1:08 am at 1:08 am #596264
i feel like im being followed wherever i go today i feel like i see a certain person im getting very nervousApril 12, 2011 1:30 am at 1:30 am #763467
Call 911.April 12, 2011 1:43 am at 1:43 am #763468truth be toldMember
psst: (they’re in the coffee room. shhhah)April 12, 2011 1:48 am at 1:48 am #763469
i feel like some one i know is behind this and im really scaredApril 12, 2011 2:00 am at 2:00 am #763470
Speak to your parents and call the cops.April 12, 2011 2:01 am at 2:01 am #763471am yisrael chaiParticipant
call shomrim & a friend/neighborApril 12, 2011 2:19 am at 2:19 am #763472TikkunHatzotMember
Are you saying that you have actually spotted a certain someone watching you? Or are you saying that you have paranoia & want help?
I’m just confused as to what is going on with such little info.April 12, 2011 2:22 am at 2:22 am #763473cshapiroMember
restraining order….dun dun dunApril 12, 2011 5:49 am at 5:49 am #763474My .02Member
“i feel like some one i know is behind this”
Yoyo-cover the mirrorsApril 12, 2011 12:34 pm at 12:34 pm #763476
basiclly everytime i walk out of a certain store within the next half hour i see a certain person and its getting me nervousApril 12, 2011 1:40 pm at 1:40 pm #763477mewhoParticipant
then find another store to go toApril 12, 2011 1:45 pm at 1:45 pm #763478ZeesKiteParticipant
Check for horns. If yes then it’s me!
(Actually I’ve got a small antenna, but its not noticeable)April 12, 2011 2:24 pm at 2:24 pm #763479SacrilegeMember
Did you forget your meds this morning?April 12, 2011 2:58 pm at 2:58 pm #763480adorableParticipant
yoyo- you have a real issue- not that ppl are following you but because its in your head! Sac- well said i was going to say the same! can you be more specific with what type of “following you” is meant in your post? I am very [email protected]!April 12, 2011 3:24 pm at 3:24 pm #763481
ha ha not fuuny i never so this person and all of a sudden i feel like wherever me or my friend who went shoopin with me turn we see this person im just nervous seome guy is behind this and its really gettin me nervousApril 12, 2011 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm #763482
Did the cops apprehend the suspect after your police report?April 12, 2011 5:08 pm at 5:08 pm #763483mytakeMember
Please don’t take offense, but you need some excitement in your life ASAP. Get busy with something. Quick.April 12, 2011 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #763484adorableParticipant
maybe a husband if possible…..same here btwApril 12, 2011 5:26 pm at 5:26 pm #763485am yisrael chaiParticipant
Why is everyone so keen on blaming the victim or making fun? Is it possible that she is indeed being stalked?
Speaking for any stalking victim out there, this is not a joking matter.
& we in the CR do not know if this is what is actually going on.April 12, 2011 5:47 pm at 5:47 pm #763488mytakeMember
am yisrael chai
You’re right. It’s not a joking matter. So if it’s really happening, this isn’t the place to get help.April 12, 2011 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #763490ZeesKiteParticipant
OK. I was kidding.. It really is noticeable!April 12, 2011 6:14 pm at 6:14 pm #763491ha ha ha haMember
hey zees i see tonz of ppl with antennas you got to be more specificApril 12, 2011 8:41 pm at 8:41 pm #763492SacrilegeMember
If she was being followed/stalked/harassed instead of just being bored…. She would take REAL steps to stop it, not post in the CR.April 12, 2011 9:26 pm at 9:26 pm #763493
Is this the same person (at that store) that you mentioned in your other thread? Or is this in another store?
Also, what are the chances that it is coincidence? How often has it happened?April 12, 2011 9:57 pm at 9:57 pm #763494
I think the person in the store is behind this becc once i leave the store i see this person and i dont think this is coincedence u dont normally see a person and the place i saw her are very far apart so its getting me nervous and when i was in the store once she was giving the manager her # or email so…April 12, 2011 10:09 pm at 10:09 pm #763495
If you are afraid of this person, tell your parents or call the cops. If you are not afraid of this person then turn around and walk right up to her/him and confront them.April 12, 2011 10:21 pm at 10:21 pm #763496
what do i saw to her?April 12, 2011 10:27 pm at 10:27 pm #763497
You say? What a coincidence that you have been everywhere that I have been the past couple of days? Where are you going next? Maybe we can just go together?April 12, 2011 10:49 pm at 10:49 pm #763498happiestMember
yoyo, why would she be doing this, do you know? You must be terrified!
Stay safe please!April 12, 2011 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm #763499over a cup of coffeeMember
chillApril 13, 2011 12:03 am at 12:03 am #763500ShrekMember
color war breakout?April 13, 2011 12:05 am at 12:05 am #763501
Yoyo, how foolish do you think she will feel when you confront her? That will be the end of it. What is she going to do? Break your arm?????April 13, 2011 1:50 am at 1:50 am #763502
what will i say to her are u following me?!?April 13, 2011 2:10 am at 2:10 am #763503TikkunHatzotMember
That would be a start.April 13, 2011 2:12 am at 2:12 am #763504
and then what should i say?April 13, 2011 2:14 am at 2:14 am #763505
Yoyo, as I said, don’t ask her, just play the game. That would make her feel foolish. She expects you to ask her “are you following me?” She doesn’t expect you to play nice. That will make her feel awkward and not know how to behave.April 13, 2011 2:17 am at 2:17 am #763506
but im getting a little nervous i want to know why she is following me did a guy tell her to or is she just actin wierdApril 13, 2011 2:22 am at 2:22 am #763507
And what would stop you from asking that? What makes you think a boy is having you followed? Why would a boy do that?April 13, 2011 2:30 am at 2:30 am #763509
i dont know if u read my other post to talk or not to talk??? but basiclly there are a bunch of managers in this store i go to and they want my att and wannt me to talk to them etc they flirt with me… when i was therre the other day this girl was there and she was giving him either her email adress or fone # and then her teacher walked in and she said she cant talk and at that moment the manger looked at me and i just picked up my head and he thought she was wierd but that besides the point so he has or # or @ and i think this whole thing is connected bbec everytime i walk out of that store i see her within the next half hour in wierd places and another time when i was in that store the manager and her were textin eachother lookin at me and laughing something is goin on and its freaking me out ( i think i just say alot hope i didnt give to much away) and the guys there are bored an dlike some ecitement and are very the type to do thisApril 13, 2011 2:33 am at 2:33 am #763510
my life is ruined!!!!!!!!!!April 13, 2011 2:39 am at 2:39 am #763511cshapiroMember
yup ur life is over….may as well leave town now…!!!April 13, 2011 3:55 am at 3:55 am #763512HealthParticipant
yoyo – Do not come to a public forum and expect strangers to solve your private problems. Noone here knows whether this is a figment of your imagination or not. If something like this occurs again, get on your cell and call your parents. This is what parents do. Do not call 911, unless you have reason to believe your life is in danger. Even though Aries means well and she takes you at your word, you might not be explaining the situation properly. If you call the cops and you accuse someone and they investigate and find nothing wrong, you have just committed a crime. Whether they will arrest you or just shrug their shoulders, will depend on a lot of factors. If this happens again call your parents immediately and follow their advice. You do have parents, don’t you?April 13, 2011 4:26 am at 4:26 am #763513
I like aries’ advice. Go up to her and start talking with her. She is not expecting you to go up to her. She will feel awkward if you approach her, especially if you are nice to her. Take charge of the conversation and show confidence. Ask her for her name, where she goes to school. In other words, turn the table – you get info about her. Make her feel hunted.
One time I was at an ATM getting money when two guys who were talking behind me, then they separated a few feet. One was at 4 oclock and one at 8 oclock. It felt that they were ready to attack. Without saying anything, I looked at them and made them realize that I am not unaware of their tactics. It was enough to stand them down. After I left and walked a half block, I realized that I forgot the receipt. I went back to the ATM and they were still there talking, not expecting me. I barged past them, said “excuse me”, and grabbed the receipt. They were not expecting it and they seemed a bit startled.April 13, 2011 4:31 am at 4:31 am #763514
but im getting a little nervous i want to know why she is following me did a guy tell her to or is she just actin wierd
It sounds like the store manager is interested in finding out why you don’t talk with him. You have not described him as a tsniut person.April 13, 2011 4:33 am at 4:33 am #763515
How about taking a picture of her (like with a cell phone). Ask her if she can pose for you. If she asks why, tell her it’s for the cops.April 13, 2011 6:31 am at 6:31 am #763516mischiefmakerMember
yoyo-calm down! your life isn’t over! Very likely that these ppl are all in it 2gether. Don’t confront them-it would b rly awkward and theyd probably deny anyways. Stare at the person as if theyr nuts, make them feel really stupid. Be a snob. If that doesn’t work then tell your parents or just dont go near that store anymore. Sooner or later theyll give up on you. Ignore the managers, act as if you don’t know them. Hopefully theyll get the point. (I didnt read the other thread)April 13, 2011 1:03 pm at 1:03 pm #763517happiestMember
health- I think you are wrong about the criminal part. If you think a crime has occurred and you are wrong then it just means you’re being a vigilant person. They will not arrest you because you reported a crime. If you MAKE UP a crime to have some fun then yes, there can be some legal trouble for you.
I’m not saying whether I agree or not to call the police (it doesn’t sound like her life is in danger) but you’ve made it sound as if you can get into trouble everytime you call 911. If someone thinks there house was robbed but it wasn’t then they wont get arrested, it’s the same thing here. She thinks she is being followed but (let’s just say)isn’t, she will not get into legal trouble for that!April 13, 2011 2:50 pm at 2:50 pm #763519
Health, It wasn’t I that said to calll the police.
YoYo, again don’t get paranoid. It is probably nothing, and way too foolish. Who has time before pesach to follow another person as a whim for the guys in the store. If you see her walk over to her and stop being so nervous. At best you can both have a good laugh. At worst she will be embarrassed.April 13, 2011 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm #763520mewhoParticipant
yoyo, here’s the deal. i think its high time you speak to your parents. if you absolutely positively cannot speak to your parents then i think you should call someone professional and discuss this with them. feel free to reach out to Met Council 212-453-9500.
In addition, if you carry a cell phone , take it out and use it when you are anywhere near these people. either call a friend and talk to her for support or just a change of subject. if you have no one to call at that moment just open the phone and fake it.April 13, 2011 6:30 pm at 6:30 pm #763521HealthParticipant
happiest – “I think you are wrong about the criminal part.”
I’m not wrong. You’re very naive. Let’s say this a figment of her imagination (I’m not saying it is, but it could be), calling the cops could be (not definitely) considered harrassment.
Would you want someone calling the cops on you because you decided to stare at someone. I offered the most logical advice. I don’t think another high school girl is going to hurt her, nor do I think Frum managers at a grocery store are upto hurting other people.
First of all, she should tell her parents that she is not ever going back to this store and she should say why. Second of all, if she ever feels she is being followed by someone, she should call her parents immediately. They are adults -they can investigate. If they feel it is a matter for the police, they can call. If they feel she suffers from sort of paranoia, they can get her the help she needs. I feel a lot of the advice here is a disservice to this teenager. Noone here is able to judge up the situation and I don’t think anyone here except perhaps Aries is capable of judging up someone’s mental state. And this is difficult to do even for mental health professionals who do it in person.
I’ll reiterate my point – she should seek advice from her parents only and not from a bunch of anon. bloggers. Usually people can come here for advice and a lot of advice is on the mark, but I don’t see how anyone can accurately figure out what exactly is going on here. You need someone to be there in person to see how much this is imagination and how much is truth.
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