June 25, 2010 9:58 am at 9:58 am #591845
I am trying to become more observant and have been invited to a shabbos dinner. For medical reasons I cannot eat any bread, especially white flour bread. What should I tell my hosts and how can I be part of the mitzvah of hamotzi? Thanks, sorry for the ignorance.June 25, 2010 11:32 am at 11:32 am #687399
I don’t know the answer to your question . . . but this is a question you should ask a Rav (one who knows you and that you trust), not strangers on a board who may or may not give you the correct answer. (No offense intended to those in the Coffee Room!) Hatzlacha with your journey, and Shabbat Shalom!June 25, 2010 11:33 am at 11:33 am #687400
I can only tryMember
You can tell your hosts that “For medical reasons I cannot eat any bread, especially white flour bread” – I’m sure they’ll have no problem with that.
There are breads made with non-wheat grains that people with allergies and intolerances use.
If those aren’t an option either, you may want to ask a Rabbi what alternatives exist for hamotzi in your case.
Health is important – there’s no obligation to eat foods that make you sick.
Good luck.June 25, 2010 11:37 am at 11:37 am #687401
More than likely, your host wants you to enjoy their hospitality and would be devastated were you to suffer an allergic (or other) reaction to something they served.
You really owe it to them, as well as yourself, to explain your situation.
If you know, for example, that you can digest bread made from Spelt or some other grain, you might suggest that alternative. Some bakeries and supermarkets sell kosher baked goods made from spelt, etc.
Perhaps, though you cannot eat bread, you can eat Matzoh. Discuss your dietary options with your physician.
Enjoy your Shabbos.June 25, 2010 12:01 pm at 12:01 pm #687402
Aura: Best of Luck on your new journey. Most bakeries sell whole wheat challos/bread. You can also buy spelt bread, challos, or matzos.June 25, 2010 12:24 pm at 12:24 pm #687403
Aura, there are enough frum people on the Crohn’s diet (don’t know what’s up with you, but I know a little about SCD) that this is not an alien concept. You can drop that you have a rav you ask these shailos of, e.g. what you have to do on Pesach, to allay any concerns that you’re not aware of the ramifications. If you don’t have such a rav, find one.
To whomever else it may concern, good suggestions with lower gluten grains, but there are some diets that preclude ALL grains.June 25, 2010 12:32 pm at 12:32 pm #687404
Aura, it is so exciting to hear that you are trying to observe Shabbos! I went through the same journey myself and … Hashem gives you lots of help along the way in every area you need. Every Yid is precious to Hashem, but a baal teshuva is like a baby, so Hashem literally carries us, you’ll see. Good luck and Gut Shabbos!June 25, 2010 4:21 pm at 4:21 pm #687405
Speak to a Rabbi, but perhaps Matzah can work for you.
Good luck!June 25, 2010 5:25 pm at 5:25 pm #687406
“What should I tell my hosts and how can I be part of the mitzvah of hamotzi?”
If there is some sort of bread that you CAN eat, then ask if they mind if you bring it along (just make sure it’s an acceptable hechsher for that family). If you cannot have cannot have any hamotzi, then just let them know. Most hosts are very understanding if other people’s situations and are quite willing to accommodate as much as they can.June 25, 2010 5:38 pm at 5:38 pm #687407
I use spelt matzah. Hatzlacha (success) on your journey and Good Shabbos!!June 25, 2010 5:40 pm at 5:40 pm #687408
misspelt matxah is also goodJune 25, 2010 5:45 pm at 5:45 pm #687409
corn may not be good for them either;).June 25, 2010 5:48 pm at 5:48 pm #687410
You are quite rice.June 25, 2010 5:49 pm at 5:49 pm #687411
But enough joking, maybe now it’s time to get cereal.June 27, 2010 6:40 pm at 6:40 pm #687412
80, you sure like making jokes!!!
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