March 29, 2009 10:32 pm at 10:32 pm #1099949
i’m feeling really bad now. life is so unfair!!!
anyone around? even a hangman game would be nice now…March 29, 2009 10:34 pm at 10:34 pm #1099950
AOB, life does seem really unfair sometimes. With this, I can really sympathize. If you want to talk, I’ll listen.
~a~March 29, 2009 10:37 pm at 10:37 pm #1099951
i do, but you (or someone else) will think i’m really horrible. i’m not sure it’s a good idea to say anything but it’s driving me a little crazy.March 29, 2009 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #1099952
AOB, there are absolutely no judgements here. You are welcome to say if something’s really bugging you. If you’re not ready to talk yet, that’s fine, too. Your decision.
~a~March 29, 2009 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #1099953
i don’t think anyone’s horrible. unless they are a creep of a person… 😉 what bugging you?March 29, 2009 10:57 pm at 10:57 pm #1099954
AOB I’ve heard it all. You’re safe with me, but I’m here for like 3 minutes only. I’ll be glad to help you if you post now, and I could try to comment later.
Is this the thread where people turn when they’re down?
anonymisss are you doing any better?
*kapusta*March 29, 2009 11:09 pm at 11:09 pm #1099955
AOB, also, you’re human, and you’re allowed some down time. Dont be so hard on yourself, never helps.
*kapusta*March 29, 2009 11:24 pm at 11:24 pm #1099956
kapusta: yes (its where ppl turn to 😉 )
sometimes it feels unfair in my favor! sure, i have little annoyances & difficulties but so many people have it so much worse. like i’m hogging the easy life while others have to struggle. but i have nothing to do with it & no control – can’t bear someones pain for them. not that i’m asking for hard stuff but i really don’t want others to suffer. & i don’t get those stories of gedolim depriving themselves of something to feel others’ pain – it’s not like it’s taking away from anything, so whats the point??March 29, 2009 11:29 pm at 11:29 pm #1099957
who said it’s not? When Hashem has to punish someone, He takes into account everyone who will be affected. everyone. If a tzaddik gave of himself, why wouldn’t it take away from the punishment?March 29, 2009 11:38 pm at 11:38 pm #1099958
i don’t know…this sounds sort of weird. are you saying if someone tortures themself they can lessen the pain of others around them? somehow that doesn’t sound rightMarch 29, 2009 11:39 pm at 11:39 pm #1099959
here’s an example: how would you feel if you were broke and couldn’t afford a thing and your friend had everything – whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted. deprived, right? so if he toned it down and didn’t get himself the world so that he could empathize, you feel more of a connection.
pathetic example, but you get the point. it’s just a way of caring. and no one said torture. just a little holding back.March 29, 2009 11:40 pm at 11:40 pm #1099960
Well I can’t talk for you, but I know me (and probably most people) are not on the level that those tzaddikim were on, and it was/is also for a tzibbur.March 29, 2009 11:41 pm at 11:41 pm #1099961March 29, 2009 11:41 pm at 11:41 pm #1099962aussieboyParticipant
Misery loves companyMarch 29, 2009 11:43 pm at 11:43 pm #1099963YW Moderator-39Member
Would you eat a cake in front of your friend who is starting a diet?
Would you drink a beer next to a friend who is in rehab?
How about this one: I remember hearing a story about an 11 year old boy who lost his hair undergoing chemotherapy, in order to make sure he wasn’t embarrassed in school, the other boys in class also shaved their heads.March 29, 2009 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #1099964
well that’s more like, don’t flaunt it (which i do try not to), not, afflict yourself so you can feel their pain.March 29, 2009 11:47 pm at 11:47 pm #1099965
wow really, 39? i know in camp simcha the counselors all wear caps.March 30, 2009 12:49 am at 12:49 am #1099966
thanks, amesMarch 30, 2009 1:26 am at 1:26 am #1099967
AOB, you didn’t sound too good before, do you want to talk or something or just ask random questions?March 30, 2009 1:44 am at 1:44 am #1099968
AOB, I give you a very sincere bracha that Hashem give you menuchas hanefesh and answer all your bakashos l’tova and make whatever your going through lessened to the most possible! 🙂March 30, 2009 1:50 am at 1:50 am #1099969
thanks guys. it helps that you answered
kapusta: thanks, wish i could stay but i really really have to go now (parents & their crazy ideas 😉 )
ames: not much mine, it’s mostly those i loveMarch 30, 2009 2:28 am at 2:28 am #1099970March 30, 2009 3:40 am at 3:40 am #1099971
the name of the thread needs a title chance-carrots, eggs, and coffee just do not sound right anymore!March 30, 2009 10:01 am at 10:01 am #1099973YW Moderator-39Member
Sorry Kapusta, the story did not take place in a Yeshiva. It was a public school somewhere in the USMarch 30, 2009 10:15 pm at 10:15 pm #1099975areivimzehlazehParticipant
Jax- it’s actually the perfect title. Before, during or after the situation we should look back at the original post and determine if that person is a carrot, egg or coffee. We can plan ahead, change direction or learn a lesson for the futureMarch 31, 2009 2:07 am at 2:07 am #1099976
areivimzehlazeh: ok if you think of it like that then the title fits!April 3, 2009 5:48 am at 5:48 am #1099978
Thread falling off page.
~a~April 3, 2009 5:54 am at 5:54 am #1099979April 3, 2009 6:06 am at 6:06 am #1099980
kapusta: or wish we did!April 3, 2009 6:15 am at 6:15 am #1099981
~a~April 3, 2009 6:52 am at 6:52 am #1099982April 3, 2009 5:42 pm at 5:42 pm #1099983
kapusta: thanx i’m doing well!April 5, 2009 2:18 am at 2:18 am #1099984
ames: you have a new topic to start?September 10, 2015 9:50 pm at 9:50 pm #1099985👑RebYidd23Participant
Coffee destroys itself in doing what it does.
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