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  • #1091588
    DaMoshe
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    Joseph: I don’t know. Nobody knows. We don’t understand how schar is allocated. So why bother asking stupid questions?

    Joseph, do you think someone who chastises others because he enjoys it, not because he is truly trying to get them to improve, receives schar for it?

    #1091589
    golfer
    Participant

    True, syag.

    As I was just saying…

    May I direct you also to T613T’s comment way up there.

    #1091590
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    golfer – i had actually meant to post that but she already had…

    joseph – nomenclature? Ha! As if it is all the same halachically.

    #1091591
    Joseph
    Participant

    ubiquitin, DM: It is fine for you to acknowledge that the answer whether they receive more schar for avoiding CS “is above my paygrade”, but an answer can be ascertained and in fact needs to be ascertained. If there is schar or if it is a positive, then people who hold CS is muttar may still choose to be machmir. So certainly the need to know what Hashem wants and considers a plus (even if not mandatory but “only” lifnim meshuras hadin) is an answerable question.

    Syag: You are mixing up the terms Cholov Stam with Cholov Akum. The term Cholov Stam, just as Cholov HaCompanies, is a neutral (and interchangeable) term. It is Cholov Akum that has the negative connotations from halacha that you are thinking of, not Cholov Stam.

    #1091592
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    Joseph: that is why you have a Rav to ask. Unless, of course, you follow the Coffee Room Rebbe, the self-appointed Gaon (yeah right!) R’ DaMoshe. If that’s the case, let me know, and I’ll give you some direction.

    #1091594
    ubiquitin
    Participant

    Joseph

    “but an answer can be ascertained and in fact needs to be ascertained”

    I disagree with both. For example in your OP if the Ribono shel olam where to aks my opinion, I would say if guy A avoided CY so he can brag to others what a baaal nefesh he is or to gloat on an online forum how frum he is while guy b is a “fine righteous” yid who followed his posek then guy b would get more olam haba.

    But again I have no idea, none of us do. This is a question that cannot be answered nor should it be. Be the best you can be, dont worry about getting more olam haba than the next guy. That is a very immature way to approach life.

    #1091595
    Joseph
    Participant

    DM, ubiquitin: I see, there should never be halachic discussions since everyone has a Rov. The CR should be for politics only. That’s simply wrong. There are many halachic discussions and this is one of them. No one should be paskening off this. But this is certainly a legitimate issue and discussion.

    Let’s put aside the gan eden/olam haba issue, if that’s contentious. But the question whether someone who holds CS is muttar has any reason to refrain from eating CS, either all the time or some of the time, is a very relevant question and point to many people. If you hold that CS is muttar wouldn’t you want to know if there’s ever any spiritual reason to spend more money on a gallon of CY milk or buy CY chocolate or ice cream rather than CS milk, chocolate or ice cream?

    #1091596
    ubiquitin
    Participant

    p.s.

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    (I added that last part)

    #1091597
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    It’s not a halachic issue, it’s a hashkafic issue. If you want to have a discussion, that’s fine, but recognize that you’re not looking for an actual answer – the main thrust is the discussion, not the result of the discussion. If you want an answer, ask your Rav.

    #1091598
    ubiquitin
    Participant

    Jospeh

    “I see, there should never be halachic discussions since everyone has a Rov.”

    I never implied or said otherwise!

    “If you hold that CS is muttar wouldn’t you want to know if there’s ever any spiritual reason to spend more money on a gallon of CY milk or buy CY chocolate or ice cream rather than CS milk, chocolate or ice cream?”

    sure! though

    a. thats not the way you laid it out in the op.

    b. It is my firm belief that once we enter the land of muttar. “spiritual reasons” involving higher levels are not for anonymous posters to decide, since by defintion they depend on each persons level which you cannot possibly know. See these threads:

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/the-requirement-for-everyone-to-give-tochachah

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/halachick-dinner-what-do-you-think-about-it

    Maybe Im the biggest baal nefesh who ever lived in which case youd be right to push me to avoid chlav stam. Maybe I just started keeping kohser and struggle daily with it in which case you would be wrong. The point is once mutar, and when trying to get “spiritual levels” or “more olam haba” Worry about yourself not others!

    #1091599
    Joseph
    Participant

    Let’s rephrase the discussion:

    The premise here is that Cholov Stam is muttar.

    Is there any spiritual benefit for a person to choose not to eat Cholov Stam?

    Either to not eat any CS altogether – or certain foods or times that he chooses not to eat CS.

    Or, once we are working on the premise that Cholov Stam is muttar, then we should accept there is no spiritual reason to ever avoid CS and instead choose CY (if the CY is less convenient or more costly)?

    #1091600
    Sam2
    Participant

    Joseph: If you assume like R’ Moshe, then some people are told to try to worry about CS while others are told *not* to try to worry.

    If you assume like the Chazon Ish, Pashtus is there’s no difference and being “Machmir” is just a waste.

    #1091601
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    I think it depends on the person. I’ve heard some Rabbonim say that if you can, you should only have CY. If you follow one of those Rabbonim, then yes, there is a benefit to only having CY – not because of the CY itself, but because you are following your Rav.

    For the benefit of CY in and of itself, I think we need to define what a “Baal Nefesh” is.

    #1091602
    ubiquitin
    Participant

    Joseph

    Im not that well versed in “spiritual benefits”

    But “Is there any spiritual benefit for a person to choose not to eat Cholov Stam?” Probably for some people, probably some times.

    then again I am sure that there are also spiritual benefits for a person to choose to eat chalav stam. Though again, depending on the person and situation.

    #1091603
    Joseph
    Participant

    Sam: So I take it that when you made your comment several hours ago, without qualification, that HKBH will don folks why he did not enjoy Haagen Daazs, you are holding like the Chazon Ish and not Rav Moshe?

    DM: I’ve heard some Rabbonim say that if you can, you should only have CY.

    Why do these rabbonim hold that it is preferable to use CY if CS is muttar?

    #1091604
    gavra_at_work
    Participant

    Please define “spiritual benefit”.

    Knowing our outward looking society (which insists on hats for walking in the street but allows copying music because no one (besides God) sees), keeping CY will probably get your children a better shidduch, while not keeping it may mean that your children are relegated to being home schooled (as if anyone would accept a Chalov Stam child). So yes, there is a “spiritual benefit” (as per above) in keeping CY.

    #1091605
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    Joseph: I don’t know. Nor do I really care. My Rav says that ChC is perfectly fine, so that’s what I use. Not only that, but the few times I’ve bought CY milk, it has spoiled within 2 days, and I ended up spilling out most of it. The same goes with the CY cheeses.

    #1091606
    apushatayid
    Participant

    “There is the fact that a baal nefesh should refrain from CS even though its muttar.”

    1: I think that people should stop referring to it as chalav stam. It is a pejorative term created by those who disagreed with r’ moshes psak. His psak covers what he calls chalav hacompanies.

    2: the discussion should not focus on the milk or ice cream one consumes, but how to reach the level of baal nefesh where r’ moshes charge to baalei nefesh applies.

    #1091607
    apushatayid
    Participant

    “Why do these rabbonim hold that it is preferable to use CY if CS is muttar?”

    Perhaps their mispallelim are baalei nefesh or close enough to that level that they feel it appropriate for them? The citation (n idea where it is snipped from) doesnt imply that those rabbonim say they must.

    #1091608
    oomis
    Participant

    Golfer, thank you for the kind words and APB. I was slightly out of commission recently with a back problem and other assorted time grabbers,so I didn’t get to the computer so frequently. I actually originally typed “incredibly arrogant” but THAT sounded incredibly arrogant…or ME! I just feel that in the zechus of the coming yahrtzeit of Aharon HaKohein Gadol, that we should strive to be more like him, seeking for sholom bein Adam l’chaveiro, rather than for a concept of to whom am I spiritually superior today? The second Bayis was destroyed because of people who didn’t GET that, and we are

    not all that different nearly 2,000 years later.

    #1091609
    Joseph
    Participant

    APY: The quote is from DaMoshe. His statement (as quoted) was “I’ve heard some Rabbonim say that if you can, you should only have CY.” It appears these rabbonim hold that CS is muttar (thus if CY is unavailable they permit using CS) but the rabbonim are saying that if CY is available then “you should only have CY.” I asked DM to clarify why the rabbonim hold that it is preferable to use CY if CS is muttar.

    #1091610
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Don’t be ridiculous. “Cholov stam” is not a pejorative.

    #1091611
    apushatayid
    Participant

    “Cholov stam” is not a pejorative.”

    As it relates to this discussion, yes it is. Just ask those who popularized its use 40 years ago. I admit, its a lot better than the term chalav akum used by some.

    #1091612
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    Joseph, I wrote a reply, but it hasn’t been approved yet – I see it in yellow on my screen. Maybe the mods are trying to figure out my ChC acronym? It means Chalav haCompanies, the term used by R’ Moshe zt”l.

    or they were trying to decide if you were reporting an isolated incident or making an accusation against an industry. I’ll go with the first but cautiously -29

    #1091613
    benignuman
    Participant

    Joseph,

    I think you should rephrase the question with only one person. The same person can choose to each only CY (bli neder) or choose to regularly eat CS. All else being equal, is there any spiritual advantage to eating only CY?

    I think the answer is, clearly, yes.

    #1091614
    gavra_at_work
    Participant

    or they were trying to decide if you were reporting an isolated incident or making an accusation against an industry. I’ll go with the first but cautiously -29

    In all fairness, it is not necessarily against the companies that create the milk but the long distances that it must travel (instead of being locally sourced), or the stores that carry (or mishandle) the product. I know of one Jewish owned store that I am careful not to buy dairy in the summer, but have no issues in the winter, and buy the same product from my local grocery even in the summer. It is the handling procedures in the Jewish owned store are grossly inadequate, causing the product to spoil much quicker (if not on the shelves).

    #1091615
    simcha613
    Participant

    In a vacuum, I find it hard to argue that, all other things being equal, there is no ma’aleh to eating only CY from the fact that R’ Moshe was matir chalav stam (under government regulation of course), still says that a baal nefesh should be machmir.

    Practically however, all things are not equal. Sometimes being machmir for CY will impose hardships on their family, will impact other areas of life (a lessening of simchas chaim can make it harder for a person to be a kove’a itim, or harder to control other middos like patience and ka’as, sometimes it will give a person an unhealthy amount of arrogance (holier than thou attitude). Maybe being machmir in this will make it harder to be machmir in other areas (like yoshon which is probably a more important area to be machmir in).

    So yes, pashtus is, all things being equal, it is better to be machmir about CY. But all things are never equal and people have to speak to their own rov and make a personal cheshbon hanefesh to determine if this chumra is right for them.

    #1091616
    Joseph
    Participant

    benignuman: TY. Can you clarify how or why you suggested that rephrase? I’m not following how it is different than my rephrase above.

    And can you specify the reason you see a clear spiritual benefit to choosing CY, even if CS is muttar?

    #1091617

    The answer is that the person who eats cholov stam gets more gan eden, but he gets his gan eden in olam hazeh. Aaah, Breyer’s Vanilla Bean!

    #1091618
    benignuman
    Participant

    Joseph,

    It isn’t materially different than your rephrase. I had only read the first page of the thread when I posted that.

    As to you second question, I have two reasons:

    1) It is not clear to me that CS is muttar. Rav Moshe’s heter was a chiddush, not universally accepted, and Rav Moshe himself felt that if a person was capable he should be machmir.

    2) Even if klapei shmaya it is mutar, if you are machmir because you think that there is a solid argument to be machmir then the self-control of your tayva will benefit your soul and you should get “schar halicha.”

    #1091619
    ubiquitin
    Participant

    Joseph

    Somebody earlier mentioned hats, I’m curious as to your take on this.

    There are two fine, and otherwise equal, Yidden. One spent his entire life being careful to only go on Shabbos with a shtreimel. When he traveled he either took along a shtreimel or borrowed one. At home he spent the extra dollars, despite his meager income, on always buying a shtreimel. Despite the extra costs, hassles, he was always happy to serve Hashem.

    The second fine Yid lived a righteous life almost the same way as the first. The only notable difference was that he happily davened with a fedora. He had his hat on at home, work and away. If Borsalino was on sale or cheaper than Kraus’s, Borsalino was the brand he put on his head.

    Will the first Yid get any more Olam Haba than the second for having been careful to only wear a shtreimel?

    Or to use your rephrased question:

    The premise here is that going on shabbos without a shtreimel is muttar.

    Is there any spiritual benefit for a person to choose to wear a shtreimel?

    #1091620
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Veltz, if you’re going to gehinnom for eating ice cream anyway, might as well have chocolate.

    #1091621
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Apushatayid, Syag, and anyone else who thinks the term “cholov stam” is offensive: take it up with the OU and Chof-K, who both use the term in published material, and I believe with Rav Binyomin Forst, who uses it in “The Kosher Kitchen”, IIRC.

    Joseph, of course benignuman’s question is different. Yours reeks of arrogance and discord by comparing the two people rather than simply asking if it’s a maalah.

    #1091622
    Joseph
    Participant

    DY: My intent had only been to ask if it is a maaila. If it came out differently it was due to poor phraseology on my part for which I apologize. (In any event, benignuman confirmed his proposed phrasing is the same how I rephrased it prior to his suggestion.)

    On a side note, am I mistaken in thinking that you still are upset with me (/strike have it in for me) for our dustup in the youtube thread?

    ubiquitin: There is no chilik. Each is following his own minhag. (I also don’t see the shaychus, as that is a matter of minhag [both are covering their heads with their own communities custom] whilst this [CY] is regarding a question of halacha.)

    #1091623
    Sam2
    Participant

    Joseph: No, that was just a debating point. But you can’t be sure and neither can I.

    #1091624
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    Joseph: One thing I do know for sure. Pretty much every Rav will tell you that even if you have a heter to use the internet, there is definitely a spiritual benefit to not using it, and it will benefit your Olam Habah. Many Rabbonim, in fact, will tell you that even with a heter, it can be detrimental to your neshomah, and have a negative impact on your Olam Habah. Maybe you should try following that first before worrying about Chalav Yisrael?

    #1091625
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    Cholav Stam is not a derogatory term. What we all said was that there are those who use it as a derogatory term, they attach negative connotations to it, and Joseph is one of them.

    #1091626
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    DaMoshe, what an excellent point, of course. I crack up listening to people spout religious doctrine while spending hours around the clock on the internet. Just give it a minute and you will hear either excuses, defensiveness or personal digs in response. As I’ve said before, logic cannot compete with denial (or the yetzer hora)

    #1091627
    Joseph
    Participant

    DM: Aside from your post being senseless because it’s premised wrong, if someone smokes on Shabbos do you tell him he shouldn’t worry about driving on Shabbos until he stops smoking?

    #1091628
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    no, but we may tell him so if he starts mussaring people to be more observant while he’s smoking!

    #1091629
    Joseph
    Participant

    Cholav Stam is not a derogatory term. What we all said was that there are those who use it as a derogatory term, they attach negative connotations to it, and Joseph is one of them.

    No, that is factually incorrect. In fact you claimed there was a halachic difference! (“Ha! As if it is all the same halachically.”) When in fact CS and ChC are the same thing. So you got it utterly wrong. And APY, in fact, did claim it was derogatory. So who is this “we” you speak of?

    #1091630
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    Joseph, how is my post “premised wrong”?

    #1091631
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    I think it’s paradoxical for you to think it’s a maalah to be machmir on CY even if your rav thinks it’s OK, but not a maalah to be machmir on the more severe issur of geneivah (even if your rav is mattir).

    #1091632
    Joseph
    Participant

    My rov doesn’t think it’s okay. I’m asking from an educational perspective.

    #1091633
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    it is a derogatory term to you. Your use of it is derogatory. I brought some past examples of you stating that it is the same thing as cholov akum but the mods didn’t post it.

    #1091634
    Joseph
    Participant

    To ease all the tension here, the next question is as follows:

    In Gan Eden will they serve non-Cholov Yisroel?

    #1091635
    apushatayid
    Participant

    Joseph, YOU (and others) use it as a derogatory term. Originally there was NO term for it. People started calling it chalav akum, despite Rav Moshes psak. Kashrus agencies started calling it chalav stam to differentiate it from actual cholov yisroel which was the term used by those who were promoting their milking being supervised by a jew. The term was then coopted by those who share the sentiments of joseph here and user it as a pejorative term.

    In short, everyone uses it as a descriptive term. some choose to use it negatively.

    #1091636
    DaMoshe
    Participant

    Joseph, I think that in the next world they will serve Haagen Daazs ice cream. For those who accept R’ Moshe’s ruling, it is heaven! For those who insult the gaon and refuse to rely on it, it’s the opposite, watching everyone else enjoy it.

    #1091637
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    “In Gan Eden will they serve non-Cholov Yisroel?”

    i guess that would depend on who’s mashgiach!

    #1091638
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    i never really thought haagen daaz was that different from any of the other really good ice creams. I prefer carvel tho. can’t beat soft ice cream. But now that i am makpid on eating only ch”y products, i cannot find ice cream that tastes even similar. Not sure why. i will sometimes splurge and buy heavy whipping cream to make my own (using a ben and jerry’s recipe book).

    On topic tho, we had many reasons why we did not establish a home that was makpid on ch”y products and a major factor was that it would have been a “yet another” barrier for certain relatives.

    Many of my kids have taken it upon themselves over time, (one because his rebbe told him he would rot in hell if he didn’t). When I finally took the plunge, it was only because I had a tremendous bakasha for Hashem. I wanted to give something extra that required much restraint and sacrifice (and did I say restraint?) in exchange for something in return. If my purpose had been to “upgrade” my ruchniyos in the food department, i am told being makpid on yoshon is much more of a priority.

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