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  • #590147
    Be Happy
    Participant

    My husband went to a new Shul and told me about a man he stood near, He davens so special. He has such a melodious voice, and says each word clearly.

    So, I asked me did you tell him? He said “No you don’t do such things!”

    This got me thinking – Why should we not compliment people when they do something nice, or something kind? Why are we unable to compliment people around us freely and happily? I meant truthful compliments!

    #720909
    YW Moderator-72
    Participant

    good point estherh.

    In addition, it is always a good idea to compliment a young fellow when he starts davening from the amud – even if it wasn’t perfect. and each time tell him how much better he is getting and then if he is making a mistake (usually because they are nervous) you can show gently point it out to him. Sadly, I know adults that will not daven from the amud because of experiences as a recent Bar Mitzvah.

    #720910
    ambush
    Participant

    how true…

    But we can change!

    I personally know of so so many people who are who they are today,

    JUST BECAUSE OF A COMPLIMENT…

    how true…

    how scary…

    So… i would like to compliment the moderators of YWN CR for doing such an amazing job… Thanx!

    Huge compliment to estherh, who if you notice and follow her posts ALL of them are positive, complimentary and by doing such she adds SO much to the CR and I’m sure to life in general! 3 cheers!

    One more cheer from me…80

    #720911
    feivel
    Participant

    like all words spent by a Yid, compliments too, even with so much potential for good, nevertheless must be spent with measure, and with seichel

    for example:

    praising someone in the presence of those who dont like or are jealous of him is avak loshon hara

    praising a baal givah can be lifnei iver

    praising someone of the other gender, especially if married can be non-tznius, and lead to innapropriate endearment

    #720912
    equeen
    Member

    If someone compliments a close one of yours, f.e. spouse, friend, neighbor etc…and you dont pass it on to them, it indicates selfishness on your part. agree??

    #720913
    Be Happy
    Participant

    Thank You so much ambush.I just had a major operation five weeks ago and will have another one next week. It has really got me thinking about life. I am stronger with the determination to remain positive, Bezras Hashem. It makes such a difference.

    #720914
    cherrybim
    Participant

    feivel-“praising someone in the presence of those who dont like or are jealous of him is avak loshon hara…praising a baal givah can be lifnei iver…praising someone of the other gender, especially if married can be non-tznius, and lead to innapropriate endearment.”

    Great! Now let’s get this message to all the yeshivos who have their big shebang dinners and heap praise on people who don’t deserve it, but just to get the big bucks. And you know what’s going through the minds of those hearing this don’t you…

    #720915
    Be Happy
    Participant

    If you look how I began this thread – I mean truthful compliments! – Complimenting husbands or wives for doing regular tasks. Lets try not to take them for granted eg husband takes out garbage or does the shopping. How many times do we compliment our children? neighbours? for a task well done? How many times have you told someone they look good or you like their dress, shietel, or perhaps even their flowers in their garden? etc.

    #720916
    feivel
    Participant

    esther if your last comment was towards me, i was also talking about truthful comments.

    i agree with you wholeheartedly

    i just want to make it clear that one has to use judgment in their actions always, even with such a positive thing as paying compliments

    #720917
    ambush
    Participant

    estherh i just wanted you to know that more people are smiling in this world because of you. One of my campers was put in a group with no friends for an hour activity- and dealt with it admirably! After thinking about this thread i decided to call the camper and compliment…

    #720918
    oomis
    Participant

    “Thank You so much ambush.I just had a major operation five weeks ago and will have another one next week. It has really got me thinking about life. I am stronger with the determination to remain positive, Bezras Hashem. It makes such a difference.”

    Refuah shelaima, Esther, and to all cholei Yisroel. You should be posting here again in good health.

    oomis Please put quotations in quotes or italics or something, not doing so makes your posts confusing…80

    #720919
    Be Happy
    Participant

    Try complimenting your postman (Thank You for being so reliable and happily bringing my mail every day) Your city bus driver (thanks for being so reliable or happily driving us smoothly) you mother/ wife (thanks for being there – your the best – your the best cook) You will be presently surprised

    #720920
    volvie
    Member

    Thank you for this post and thread.

    #720921
    oomis
    Participant

    “oomis Please put quotations in quotes or italics or something, not doing so makes your posts confusing…80 “

    Mod 80, I usually do. Did I forget to, last time???

    You forgot a number of times. Three times I added them for you…80

    You can use “blockquote” tags around the text you are quoting:

    <blockquote>blah, blah...</blockquote>

    will make it come up as a quote box. – YW Moderator-42

    #720922
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    I would like to compliment Mod 80 for putting Oomis’s quotes in quote marks

    #720923
    oomis
    Participant

    “You forgot a number of times. Three times I added them for you…80”

    Todah rabbah. I do not know how to use the blockquote feature Mod 42 mentioned, or how to italicize, or I would have done it by now. My apologies.

    #720924
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    oomis, test it out in the laboratory thread. Just copy my post from above. It’s pretty simple, the text has to be surrounded by “tags” which are the things that start with”<” and end with “>”. For italics, put “em” inside, for quote, put “blockquote”, for bold, put “strong”. To make things blue use “a”. The “closing tag” at the end of the text should be the same thing except that there is a “/” added before the word so </em> instead of <em>

    #720925
    oomis
    Participant

    Mod 42, you are kind to TRY to enlighten me, but did I ever mention how technically-challenged I am when it comes to understanding directions? I’ll try your suggestion, but I make no promises that I will figure it out. There are parts of my brain that just do not seem to chaap!!!!

    #720926
    oomis
    Participant

    “oomis, test it out in the laboratory thread. Just copy my post from above. It’s pretty simple, the text has to be surrounded by “tags” which are the things that start with”<” and end with “>”. For italics, put “em” inside, for quote, put “blockquote”, for bold, put “strong”. To make things blue use “a”. The “closing tag” at the end of the text should be the same thing except that there is a “/” added before the word so instead of

    Ok, I went to the lab thread, took one look at it and lost my breakfast! Life is way too short to try to figure out what any of that meant, so I will just try to really remember to always use the quote marks. Thanks for trying to help. 🙂

    #720927
    mepal
    Member

    oomis, in his unending kindness, ICOT put it out very simply in the Lab thread. Try it out, I’m sure you’ll pick it up sooner or later! I can try helping along the way, if you get stuck.

    #720928
    Jax
    Member

    I would like to compliment mod42 on complimenting a new mod [mod80] for doing a great job!

    #720929
    mepal
    Member

    And I’d like to (publicly) compliment 80 myself for the superb job he’s doing!

    or: “she’s doing” :-)…thank you…80

    #720930

    mepal-

    Thank you for your kind words.

    All-

    There is a dedicated thread for thanking the mods for their time and efforts:

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/thank-you-mods-and-editor

    being modest in nature coupled with being truly humble servants, Mods do not look for or seek in any manner, shape or form public thanks, however we push aside our own feelings and graciously accept thanks in any and all threads just for you… so feel free to lavish glorious accolades upon us (after all we do deserve it) in as many threads as you desire.

    #720931
    oomis
    Participant

    “oomis, in his unending kindness, ICOT put it out very simply in the Lab thread. Try it out, I’m sure you’ll pick it up sooner or later! I can try helping along the way, if you get stuck. “

    I am brain-addled today.

    “so feel free to lavish glorious accolades upon us (after all we do deserve it) in as many threads as you desire”

    Cash works, too.

    Love your quotes oomis! :-)…80

    #720932
    mepal
    Member

    Oomis, I’d love to help, but tonight wont work out. Prob neither tomorrow or the next day. We’ll have to arrange our schedules to work out somewhat. Otherwise, ICOT’s an amazing teacher!

    #720933

    oomis

    Type this: <X>oomis<Y>

    Now in place of the X type: a (remove the X and type a in it’s place.)

    In place of the Y type: /a

    That’s it.

    You can do it in this thread.

    Go ahead!

    #720934
    oomis
    Participant

    oomis

    Yeah, and now what???????? I TOLD you I am technically-challenged. It makes no sense. I have bo idea why I am so dim-witted at this, but it is what it is. I will just have to remember the quote marks or I won’t quote.

    See, you did it!

    #720935

    ames-

    mepal-

    Sample:

    <blockquote>This is a blockquote</blockquote>

    This is a blockquote

    Sample:

    <em>Italicized text</em>

    Italicized text

    Sample:

    <strong>Bold text</strong>

    Bold text

    4) Attributes can also be combined.

    Sample:

    <strong><em>Bold italicized text</em></strong>

    Bold italicized text

    If it’ll be easier, you can just cut-and-paste the sample lines and replace the sample text with your own text between the tags.

    (no excuses accepted)

    #720936
    Jax
    Member

    oomis: harray! way to go!

    #720937
    kapusta
    Participant

    <strongGOOD JOB OOMIS!!! you’re doing great!

    ICOT, how did you do a sample without it bolding, italicizing…?

    *kapusta*

    #720938

    kapusta-

    Start and end the line with a backtick.

    This tells the browser that you want to display the code “as-is” and not have it interpreted as formatting directives.

    #720939
    mepal
    Member

    See oomis? A new dog can learn new tricks!

    #720940
    #720941

    YW Moderator-80-

    Sure, why not.

    #720942

    Whadda you say?

    Let’s hear it for ?!

    His opinions are well thought out and weighty,

    let’s hear for the new guy, number 80

    His (her?) sense of humor may seem odd,

    but we still like you, newbie mod

    Thank you, well done.

    You have won 1 free “undelete”…80, Champion of the Moderated

    #720943
    Jax
    Member

    I can only try: now all ya gatta do is post in my new thread! i need more posts in there!

    #720944
    mepal
    Member

    Jax, we’re trying…

    ICOT, cute poem! worth all the effort….;-)

    #720945
    oomis
    Participant

    “oomis…

    …See, you did it! “

    I’m not sure exactly what I did, but if all that …. does is make a different color, it took more time to type all that than to put quotation marks in. I will really try to always remember to quote properly…

    #720946
    kapusta
    Participant

    ok, ok! Which mod has a sense of humor?!?!

    ICOT, very cute poem! (the.nurse actually told me to check it out and that it was very cute so thats a double compliment for you!)

    *kapusta*

    #720947

    mepal-

    kapusta-

    the.nurse (by proxy)-

    Thank you for your kind words,

    about my poem which was quite terse

    my skills are very limited

    and my rhymes go from bad to verse 🙂

    #720948
    oomis
    Participant

    ICOT

    I so admire your rhyme

    It really is sublime,

    And though in fact quite terse,

    I really HAVE heard worse!!!!!!

    #720949

    YW Moderator-80-

    oomis1105-

    Thank you.

    #720950
    Be Happy
    Participant

    I had major surgery yesterday. I made a point of telling each nurse what a great job they’re doing albeit under great stress. (19 beds on the ward)They were so appreciative as a few felt that patients take advantage of them – a good word would make such a difference.

    #720951
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    estherh, may you have a speedy recovery

    #720952
    mepal
    Member

    Wow, esther! Refuah shlaimah. Feel better!

    #720953
    ambush
    Participant

    OFFICIALLY NOMINATED

    volvie

    Member

    Dr Pepper, thank you for many times projecting and expressing a positive outlook and attitude. You are an asset to klal yisroel.

    now THATS a compliment!

    #720954
    Jax
    Member

    Thank you Mods & Sir Editor!

    #720955
    oomis
    Participant

    estherh – how are you feeling? R”S.

    #720956
    Be Happy
    Participant

    B”H trying to keep positive. I hope to know on Friday iy”H if I need further treatment.

    Thank you oomis for asking.

    #720957
    areivimzehlazeh
    Participant

    wow- hatzlocha with that. I will have you in mind IY”H

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