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  • #720958
    oomis
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    I know how you might be feeling right now, I am also having things checked out, so I will keep you in mind for a refuah shelaima. If it is permitted to post your Hebrew name here, I will add it when I say Tehillim. B”EH you should already be well on your way to a complete refuah.

    #720959
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Sorry, no names allowed, but I’m sure Hashem knows who you’re davening for if you use a screename instead of a real name.

    Oomis and esther H, may you hear besoros tovos about your health.

    #720960
    YW Moderator-72
    Participant

    THIS will link you to the tehillim thread. in that thread there is an attached google doc that can be accessed and people can sign up to say a kapital or more daily. on the next page, names can be inserted without identifying who posted it.

    #720961
    Be Happy
    Participant

    With the help of Hashem and everyones tefillas I should hear good news. After a week of health complications I have to go next Friday for Decisions. Thank You all for asking.

    Lets keep this thread to giving compliments. I am very interested why it is so difficult for people to give each other compliments. I am also interested to hear of those who went out of their way to give someone a compliment. e.g If your child has learnt something nice in school or cheder did you compliment the teacher or Rebbe? Have you told a neighbour how her help was just so great etc.

    #720962
    pookie
    Member

    compliments of the chef

    #720963
    oomis
    Participant

    “Oomis and esther H, may you hear besoros tovos about your health”

    Thanks Mod26. For some reason, I did not see this post until today, and I wanted to acknowledge your good wishes. Amein. May all cholei Yisroel have a refuah shelaima.

    #720964
    Be Happy
    Participant

    I will begin chemo after Succos iy”H.

    Bezras Hashem we will overcome it.

    #720965
    working
    Member

    esther have a big refuah shelaimah bekarov. Hashem should help you be strong.

    #720966

    estherh-

    A former rebbe had to undergo chemo, and I remember the simcha we felt when he was declared cancer-free.

    oomis1105-

    #720967
    areivimzehlazeh
    Participant

    estherh- our t’fillos are with you.

    I have some close relatives going through the same- keep strong. Hashem is with you, always.

    – areivim

    #720968
    Be Happy
    Participant

    Thank You areivim

    #720969
    bein_hasdorim
    Participant

    estherh; May HB”H send you a “Refuah Shleimah!!!” May you have a full speedy recovery

    B’soich Shar Cholei Yisroel, B’karov!!!

    #720970
    Be Happy
    Participant

    I want to compliment you all for your warm feelings for a speeday recovery Bezras Hashem. It is great to know you care.

    #720971
    oomis
    Participant

    ICOT, thank you very much. Esther, chizki v’imtzi, and may the chemo do its job properly, with a minimum (if any) of negative side effects to you.Refuah shelaima and have a good Shabbos and g’mar chasimah tova.

    #720972
    Jax
    Member

    estherh: may you have a speedy Refuah Shilamah! you’ll be in my daily Tefillos & in my Yom Kippor Tefillos! & May you have an easy year! stay strong!

    p.s. you truly are an asset to the CR always with your positive additive & love for Hashem that is evident in your posts! Htzlacha Rabbah with the treatment!

    -Jax

    #720973
    Jax
    Member

    oomis: may it be nothing & a only good thing for the new year!

    #720974
    Bemused
    Participant

    estherh,

    May Hashem grant you a Refuah Shelaima.

    estherh and oomis,

    May you have a good, healthy year, full of nachas and simcha.

    #720975
    sunflower
    Member

    esther- refua shleima may you be soche to be alwaya bsimcha and always able to be msamaioch others,.i wish u a speedy recovery. may you and all of kllal yisrael only have simchas!

    also about this compliment thing so here is my story:

    there is this girl that i am in school with and it happens to be that we daven in the same room. i was never really friends with her and still not at all but she changed my way of davening. last yeat she sat right near me and the way she davened was unbeleivable. this seating arrangement was “random”. and this year they put us according to our hebrew names in order. and i am right next to her aagain! im telling you that the exxtent of her impact on me holds not only in school but at shul and home too. whenever i daven i feel as if she is right next to me and my davening is so diff! i bentch this girl she should only have bracha in her life. but- I CANT COME TO TELL THIS TO HER FACE tell me if im nuts but if u barely ever speak to her and not friends how should i do it?

    second: i was in a store in flatbush and i saw a more modern looking girl and she was looking to buuy. it doesnt matter what the style was but it wasnt too beffiting. and in front of her friends she said NO i wont buy it! i was so impressed i wanted to stick a note in her urse, but who would actually do it? i just coulnt go adn do it! may we only have to give compliments and brachos!

    #720976
    Be Happy
    Participant

    Sunflower – You are missing a golden opportunity. Why not tell the girl who davens so beautifully what an impression she has on you.

    Think of the worst case scenario that might happen if you tell her. The likelihood is she will smile and thank you and you will have made someone feel good. You will also be working on the middah of appreciation something so many people feel so difficult to do.

    #720977
    sunflower
    Member

    esther, i dont think i will be able to do it. its just not the type. i donot know if you understand it, but it would be really uncomfomtable to me and her. we just dont click.

    #720978
    Be Happy
    Participant

    Oh come on sunflower. You will break the ice and achieve something special!

    B”H i had my first chemo yesterday. Thank you all so much for your chizuk and brochos. It all helps.

    #720979
    mepal
    Member

    How are you feeling, esther?

    #720980
    bein_hasdorim
    Participant

    Esther: emush, We all hope you are feeling well.

    May your strong spirit, and upbeat attitude guide you B”H,

    through these hard times, and may you emerge victoriously!

    May Simcha & Mazel always chase you, while finding you always

    in the best of healthy & happiness.

    #720981
    Be Happy
    Participant

    B”H all things considered I am doing well, B”H. Hashem should help me go through it with a complete refuo bkorov. I hope I am going through it for all klal Yisroel and no one else need suffer.

    #720982
    mepal
    Member

    Amein. Refuah sh’laimah b’karov! Be strong…

    #720983
    A600KiloBear
    Participant

    BS”D

    Refuah shelema!!

    #720984

    estherh-

    Refuah shelaima bekorov.

    I read that hypnotism can help with some of chemo’s side effects (I’m not a medical professional, this is something I read).

    Googling “hypnotism chemo” brings up many links about this topic.

    #720985
    Jax
    Member

    Refuah Shilamah!

    #720986
    mybat
    Member

    Estherh Hashem should send you a complete refuah shelema!!

    #720987
    sunflower
    Member

    esther, i wish a refuah shilaima bikarov and u should goet thru this difficult time. in response to ure comment , i wish i can say ok fine i will do it, its just not gonna work at all. its gonna be weird awkward for both of us. its bad enough that we sit right next to each other and i barely can talk to her! thanks anyway!

    #720988
    kapusta
    Participant

    sunflower, maybe you can put a note in her looseleaf or bag or something when shes not there. That way you do it awkward-free and get the message across. I’m sure she would appreciate hearing it.

    *kapusta*

    #720989
    sunflower
    Member

    hey kapusta that is a great idea. but how do i like cange my handwriting and what if i want to sign my name? if i do it will be really weird! thanks for ure idea!

    #720990
    kapusta
    Participant

    As long as shes not there when she gets it/sees it, and no one ever mentions it, I can’t imagine why it would be awkward but if you still feel uncomfortable about it then try typing it and if you don’t want to sign your name then just sign with your initials or do something generic like, “a classmate” or something like that.

    Hope I helped!

    *kapusta*

    #720991
    ambush
    Participant

    sunflower- i totally understand your dilemma.

    i just wanted to say two things-

    …1. when I was in high school I remember someone who was about 2-3 years older than me, and the way the person Davened was so inspiring! such kavanah, such an obvious connection, such pureness!

    But because of the awkwardness of the situation (the person was older than me ect.), I never did it.

    I wish I can now remember who that was so that I can tell them how much they impacted my davening- until today!

    …2. When a friend of mine was in sleep away camp, in the older teen division, it was a summer with a lot of conflict in Eretz Yisroel. My friend decided to try to say one Tefillah with real Kavanah, maybe even shed a tear.

    Later, that night by an activity, a counselor tapped my friend on the shoulder and said- “You really inspired my davening today. I couldn’t help but noticed the way YOU davened. Thank You.”

    The friend was so moved, and it’s impact was long reaching…

    GRAB THE MOMENT!

    It might be a little hard or slightly awkward but do it!

    type a note!

    write with your other hand… whatever!

    But know, that one single compliment, can shake the heavens and move the earth, and not only will she have impacted your kavanah, you will have impacted hers

    #720992
    sunflower
    Member

    ambush wow! u are so right but i still cant bring myself to do it. i want it to be only for her and no one else and its so weird because i sit right next to her and i can barely speak to her and if i can we talk for like a second about the most wierdest things that pertain to only then. i dont know……

    #720993
    Be Happy
    Participant

    Sunflower: If you were told that this is the last day of your life would you not grab the moment?

    I think we think too much rather than do what we know is correct.

    #720994
    sunflower
    Member

    eshter, u are totally correct and i know that i am wrong but there is a wall blocking me every time i would like to tell her. i know u will say to smash that wall now , but its very hard!

    #720995
    eclipse
    Member

    Wow.I just dug up a gold mine!

    Whenever I search through the CR’s virtual attic,I always find interesting “artifacts”!

    This thread is so old,it’s a THREADA-SAURUS.

    Anyway,it’s worth reading thru these posts,very heartwarming.

    #720996
    ronrsr
    Member

    Thank you, dear eclipse, what a wonderful job you do of digging up old interesting threads.

    As the sage Al Capone once noted: “You can get more with a kind word and a gun than you can with a gun alone.”

    #720997
    wanderingchana
    Participant

    Eclipse – Threadasaurus??

    Oh no – this thread didn’t evolve, it was CREATED!!!

    (Purim can’t be far away)

    #720998
    wanderingchana
    Participant

    Does anyone know how Be Happy is?

    #720999
    blinky
    Participant

    yes, she still needs your tefillos, please have her in mind when you daven.

    #721000
    Be Happy
    Participant

    Thanks everyone for your concern. It is heartwarming to feel that strangers care so much (That’s a compliment) I had major surgery 6 weeks ago. The next 6 months are critical….

    What shall I tell you? It has made me prioritise my wants and needs in life and made me more careful how I talk to people. B”H i keep positive most of the time.

    #721001
    frumladygit
    Member

    Results from a compliment depend on where they come from in a person and to where they go in the receiver.

    I personally cannot stand compliments from this high ego driven woman in our community who is an attention seeking social butterfly who feels she is on top of the world and better than everyone else.

    When she pats me on the back with her words of flattery I actually feel invaded or robbed by her approval and punching my ticket No one needs that.

    On the other hand if a sincere old heimishe woman stops me in the bank and just says a soft sincere word such as your looking very good these days, it actually makes me feel nice.

    #721002
    oomis
    Participant

    Continued refuos, be Happy.

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