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July 17, 2025 5:17 pm at 5:17 pm #2426649ujmParticipant
See the sources again. They say (including the ones you cited) that teaching women or girls a curriculum of Torah Shebksav is bad but teaching them a curriculum of Torah Shebalpeh is even worse.
In other words, both are bad but one is worse than the other.
July 18, 2025 10:08 am at 10:08 am #2426722none2.0ParticipantSee ujm I don’t have a temple I connected directly to G-d. That’s the difference between me and you.
July 18, 2025 10:08 am at 10:08 am #2426804Non PoliticalParticipantThe OP wrote:
“the majority of women are not intellectual prepared to be taught”
There are 2 distinct points:
1) A minority of women do have the motivation and ability to learn. Those women should learn, and always have.
2) Should there be a curriculum in schools teaching women aspects of Torah that are not needed for practical observance (including da’os). Here the answer is no.
However, the crux of the question is what is, in fact, needed for fully engaged, practical observance. This will depend on the level of literacy women have in a particular time and place. One thing is certain. There is no virtue in perpetuating ignorance.
July 18, 2025 1:30 pm at 1:30 pm #2426844anonymous JewParticipantTo ujm et al,
Most people outside your bubble really couldn’t care less what you think. You hold according to your rabbis and they hold according to theirs. It’s that simpleJuly 18, 2025 1:30 pm at 1:30 pm #2426848none2.0Participant_all_ humans have discernment and especially woman have wisdom. G-d said don’t eat from the tree of _knowledge_ cuz it will disconnect you from reality and you will have to work and struggle for your food. Cuz you are no longer living from activated abundance. Knowledge is not wisdom. That’s why the Torah was written in the most simplistic manner so it only activated the internal part of you that lives in reality and not your cerebral mind which separates you from G-d.
July 23, 2025 5:21 pm at 5:21 pm #2428950aheimisherenglisherParticipant@Non Political I am just repeating the opinions of the gedolim of previous generations but you are free to make up your own opinion
July 24, 2025 12:00 pm at 12:00 pm #2429005none2.0ParticipantOk so a gadol said it and ujm is also a person with a brain and he can also think for himself same way they had an opinion so does he. Who are they G-d? That they can’t be questioned. This is idol worship. Excuse me. There’s one thing to respect someone and another to make their words as if it’s coming from G-d himself. Every single person is connected directly to source and we _all_ have wisdom. Even if some things we think are delusional doesn’t make people before this generation not delusional either. Wt…
July 24, 2025 12:00 pm at 12:00 pm #2429029Non PoliticalParticipant@ aheimishe
It’s either disingenuous or ignorant to quote one side of a nuanced issue then accuse people who disagrees with you of making things up. There where some excellent responses to the OP. You may want to go back and re-read the thread.
July 24, 2025 12:01 pm at 12:01 pm #2429080ujmParticipantAnonymous Jew: That’s what the Reform and Conservative Jews say as well. They’re just following their “rabbis”.
July 24, 2025 3:34 pm at 3:34 pm #2429370none2.0ParticipantI doubt that’s true ujm conservative and reform and less sheeple. I don’t think you’ll hear them arguing about which rabbi said what like its gospel and holds weight. Some how I doubt that
July 25, 2025 9:45 am at 9:45 am #2429460Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantnone2 > I don’t think you’ll hear them arguing
Be gentle here, most of them (in my experience) do not even know why their places of worship are called “temples”.
July 25, 2025 9:46 am at 9:46 am #2429533Non PoliticalParticipant@ none 2.0
The very sheeple are the ones who do not even recognize that they, and their whole heard, are being lead. All the while they imagine that they are thinking for themselves.
July 27, 2025 9:55 am at 9:55 am #2429706none2.0ParticipantTrue
July 29, 2025 3:44 pm at 3:44 pm #2431186HaKatanParticipantsimcha613:
No, having an elective gemara class for girls is not at all “perfectly in line with this halacha”. It is forbidden to teach them Torah sheBaal peh, particularly gemara and the like, as Rav Moshe Zatza”l noted. If women choose to do so on their own, that’s their business. But their possibility of learning it improperly obviously does not then permit rabbis to violate the halacha so that the women should learn properly.The answer is likely that you seem to feel, with no actual basis, that it’s an eilu viEilu, so this is how you seek to justify it. But, in reality, it is simply forbidden.
none2.0:
Why do you post here? This is intended for Orthodox Jews (and not people with an extreme imagination). Your libel against the Rabbis and the gemara is silly and baseless. The gemara is G-d’s truth, regardless of whether or not any women choose to learn it.July 30, 2025 7:32 am at 7:32 am #2431271simcha613ParticipantHakatan- that logic is so backwards. They get reward for learning so it therefore must be permitted. But in order to prevent them from learning Torah improperly, they are not allowed to be taught. Therefore, the only permissible way for them to learn is completely on their own with no teacher? That would only exacerbate the problem! Not having a teacher would guarantee that they would learn it improperly… Isn’t that what Chazal is trying to avoid? How could they permit learning Torah Shebeal Peh but only without a teacher in order to prevent them from learning it improperly?
July 30, 2025 7:33 am at 7:33 am #2431400Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipant> and the like, as Rav Moshe Zatza”l noted
And your explanation for R Moshe’s granddaughter learning gemora is … She was raised by R Moshe’s daughter and his SIL whom he personally suggested to his daughter ….> If women choose to do so on their own, that’s their business.
Good, so you permit something. Now, we simply need to define what is “on their own”. Beruriah attended classes by 300 teachers (in one day) as mentioned by Rabbi, I think. In my view and probably in yours, this qualifies as women learning on their own rather than father teaching her. So, the same in our times – I agree with you that having rigid programs where girls have to learn gemorah as part of graduation requirement either for high school or Jewish college is not appropriate, but giving them an opportunity to do so on their own decision is fine.
July 30, 2025 7:33 am at 7:33 am #2431418Non PoliticalParticipantI am taking this very rare opportunity to completely agree with what HaKatan wrote
July 30, 2025 7:33 am at 7:33 am #2431482none2.0ParticipantWho says im not Orthodox. It’s not lible. If you want to live in your echo chamber forever you can but people need a new perspective grounded in reality. And you can say it’s G-ds truth and I’m here to say it isn’t. Truth needs to be able to withstand scrutiny and fallow common sense. G-ds created common sense
July 30, 2025 7:33 am at 7:33 am #2431484none2.0ParticipantAlso hakatan human beings need to operate from truth if they want to be real, healthy vibrant and connected to G-d and I’m here to bring a magnifying glass on things that never truly has ever been scrutinized before and has _glaring_ inconsistencies. I mean can I not have an opinion or I must conform to yours to be considered. We are not boxes. We all have different life experiences understandings and opinions. Me and u are not the same therefore our perspectives are different sorry I don’t conform to your viewpoint don’t be stupid
July 30, 2025 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm #2431628ujmParticipantAAQ: He did not suggest him at all to his daughter. His daughter met him in the New York Public Library and from there it just went from there. Rav Moshe accepted it because by time he knew about it, it was too late. The son in law misrepresented his father in law on multiple occasions.
July 30, 2025 2:28 pm at 2:28 pm #2431634Non PoliticalParticipant@AAQ
Nice to see you bringing the thread back to the subject of the OP
You wrote regarding HaKatan’s post: “the only permissible way for them to learn is completely on their own with no teacher?”
I don’t think that’s what he meant. The objection is to a program of formal instruction on a community level. I think it’s obvious that a girl or woman who pursues learning would need competent instruction.
July 30, 2025 5:03 pm at 5:03 pm #2431948simcha613ParticipantNon political – ok… Once we accept that point where teaching is allowed and a competent instructor is necessary, I don’t see the halachic distinction between a teacher learning with a female student one on one, or a teacher teaching a class of women (assuming they chose to be there and were independently motivated to pursue that learning)
July 30, 2025 8:58 pm at 8:58 pm #2432060ujmParticipantsimcha613: Virtually all of the Modern Orthodox (MO) girls schools and co-ed schools that teach girls Gemora, its part of the regular curriculim and the girls aren’t asked if they want to join, they are effectively enrolled in it without them having a real choice.
July 30, 2025 8:58 pm at 8:58 pm #2432100Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantNP > The objection is to a program of formal instruction on a community level. I think it’s obvious that a girl or woman who pursues learning would need competent instruction.
I agree with the general direction you are taking. these terms are not precise. We understand that Beruriah was probably the only lady in most classes just because this was rare. Nowadays, even if this were as rare, all Beruriahs from all over the world can get on a plane and get together in a college or seminary. They can also get on zoom.
So, I would clarify ” formal instruction on a community level” as an obligatory/expected program of learning at high school/college level. See: seminary. Whether they teach gemora that leads to shtus or just shtus directly, they became as obligatory as a bas mitzvah, and you can see that it often works out in a funny way.
That said, I don’t see an objection from these halachik sources to girls/ladies who have capacity and interest – to pursue this learning in any form _they_ choose. And, furthermore, I would prefer them learning “gemorah” in the original meaning of Rambam (and probably amoraim themselves): analysis of mitzvos, not necessarily all pilpul on a daf.
July 30, 2025 8:58 pm at 8:58 pm #2432104Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantujm > He did not suggest him at all to his daughter. His daughter met him in the New York Public Library and from there it just went from there. Rav Moshe accepted it because by time he knew about it, it was too late.
I looked into this interesting story and posted here several years ago. I don’t recall whether it was NYPL or Brooklyn College library – where both of them were studying chemistry and that is what Ms. Feinstein used as a pre-text. According to my reconstruction of the events, Ms. Feinstein then subtly planted the idea into her father’s head, and R Feinstein suggested the shidduch to his future shver – with whom they were sitting together on the beis din. The father then asked the son and was shocked to hear that the decision was already made.
You still need to explain how is that R Moshe got into this situation. He was a Rosh Yeshiva – he could not find the right shidduch among his best students? Laughable. His two sons became huge T’Ch, there is very little statistical chance that the daughter turned out differently in such an illustrious family.
Just to help you out of this pickle: you can argue that this is an example of a daughter learning Gemorah (secretly, hiding behind her brothers) leading her to shtus?!
July 31, 2025 9:53 am at 9:53 am #2432177Non PoliticalParticipantYou raised an interesting point about classes for like minded, capable, motivated girls who want to learn. I can think of a couple of issues:
1) What we have is Halachic precedent for is girls / women learning Talmud as individuals.There where even (rare) cases of exceptional women who gave shiur (from behind a mechitza) to men. Organized Talmud classes for girls / women is unprecedented. To be sure, that is not insurmountable. After all, Beis Yaacov was also unprecedented. However, like Beis Yaacov, such an innovation should have broad support from Gedolei Yisroel to be considered legitimate.
2) Such initiatives will surely be highjacked by people with a Feminist agenda.
@AAQ
Can you unpack what you mean about “the analysis of Mitzvot”
There are different ways to analyze Mitzvot. Do you mean: (1) legal parameters, like the Talmud. (2) reasons, like the Chinuch. (3) Something else…July 31, 2025 9:53 am at 9:53 am #2432186none2.0ParticipantIf someone needs “compenetant” instruction how to think or learn something that’s clearly brainwashing. G-d said don’t eat from the tree of knowledge. Knowing things that you can’t figure out from reality itself or from simply understanding something is going to sperate you from reality and from G-d. I call the entire system a hoax. So sorry
July 31, 2025 9:54 am at 9:54 am #2432202ujmParticipantWhat’s so hard to farshtay, AAQ? By time he found out they had already fallen in love and he was powerless to seperate them. They were both over 18, you know. He made the best of the situation by supporting their decision, rather than making a useless fight — and hoping for the best. But the best case scenario didn’t turn out. As the sign in law later defied his father’s positions on more than once occasion, both during and after his lifetime. This fact is available in a public letter from the same Agudas Yisroel than Rav Moshe was the head of.
July 31, 2025 9:54 am at 9:54 am #2432203ujmParticipantTypo/correction: son in law (not sign); and father-in-law’s (not father’s).
July 31, 2025 9:54 am at 9:54 am #2432213simcha613ParticipantUJM- I don’t know much about most MO schools, I’m sure you are right about some of them, not all of them (especially the separate gender ones). But I agree, in my humble opinion based on my understanding of the sugya, having a required Gemara class would be more difficult (though I assume and hope they have their own poskim making these decisions). But that’s not what I was talking about, I was talking about an elective Gemara class for girls. That doesn’t seem to be nearly as problematic (if at all) based on my understanding of the sugya, and that the girls in the class would get rewarded for such an endeavor (and presumably the teacher as well).
July 31, 2025 2:12 pm at 2:12 pm #2432453Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantujm> By time he found out they had already fallen in love
maybe you have better sources. My understanding is that R Feinstein offered a shidduch to R Tendler senior without either of them being fully aware.
and, again, you are putting assumptions on the gadol hador that he did not propose an appropriate shidduch for his daughter.July 31, 2025 2:12 pm at 2:12 pm #2432465Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantsimcha613> I was talking about an elective Gemara class for girls.
right. and my sources @ Stern tell me that only a small number of girls attend purely “gemora” classes and many of them are politically motivated to do that. At the same time, “regular” Judaic classes bring Gemorah or Rambam related to the topic of study.
NP > 2) Such initiatives will surely be highjacked by people with a Feminist agenda.
exactly, see above.NP > After all, Beis Yaacov was also unprecedented. However, like Beis Yaacov, such an innovation should have broad support from Gedolei Yisroel to be considered legitimate.
BY also had opposition among gedolim of the time. Maybe the difference seems to be that BY is a mass movement, and Gemora learning is not (or at least should not be). So, it affects a certain segment of women, so some Rabbis have these issues and others – avoid.
Also, the main innovation of BY was not educating of girls – that was already done by German Jews, but somehow making it acceptable to the charedi communities. Maybe same has to happen with Gemora learning.
July 31, 2025 2:12 pm at 2:12 pm #2432468Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantNP > Can you unpack what you mean about “the analysis of Mitzvot”
There are different ways to analyze Mitzvot. Do you mean: (1) legal parameters, like the Talmud. (2) reasons, like the Chinuch. (3) Something else…I don’t want to give one narrow definition – just whatever is relevant to the specific student or group. I guess I am just extending the idea of not forcing. Learning a daf according to all commentaries is forcing a specific discussion on people who are not obligated or motivated to do it. I am for discussing a particular sugya – whether how to light candles or whether it is justice v. peace – and going to corresponding gemoras for understanding. I disagree that Gemorah is limited to “legal parameters”. As someone asked R Salanter – what is the source for your “unorthodox” teachings. He said – “gemorah”. The other person: “I don’t see it in the gemorah” [AAQ: this means this person knew a gantze gemorah]. R Salanter – it is in _my_ gemorah. See Rambam for his definition of “gemorah”.
July 31, 2025 4:36 pm at 4:36 pm #2432609ujmParticipantSimcha613: “(though I assume and hope they have their own poskim making these decisions)”
You’re going too far out on a limb trying to be find a zchus in wrongful activity. If you walked by and saw a group of Jewish teens through the windows of McDonald’s having a jolly time partying eating cheeseburgers and shrimp with cheap goyish wine, you wouldn’t “klerr” that “I assume and hope they have their own poskim making these decisions” allowing them to party in a treif McDonald’s with cheeseburgers, shrimp and wine. Nor should you klerr as such about MO bungalow colonies with mixed swimming, MO shuls with a three foot “mechitza” and a social hall with mixed dancing, MO teens keeping a “half Shabbos” while texting each other, or those eating in non-kosher “vegetarian” restaurants simply by deciding it is okay by simply looking through the list of ingredients. (Only when “away from town”, of course.)
Nor should you make that deduction regarding girls schools that have a mandatory Gemora class (or virtually mandatory, where it is socially unacceptable and embarrassing to opt out and/or they are enrolled by default.)
July 31, 2025 4:36 pm at 4:36 pm #2432625ujmParticipantAAQ: Dr. Tendler himself related the story how he met his wife in the New York Public Library and got engaged to her in an interview with a periodical that is (or was) published online at the time.
August 1, 2025 1:34 pm at 1:34 pm #2432828Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantI don’t think I read the article but heard his interview about it, and it said that kids connected first (she came up to ask him a chemistry question, I think), but then R Moshe approached R Tendler. I presume
– she knew whom she is approaching (what is a chance of meeting a random guy in NYPL and have both fathers on the same beis din?!)
– she mentioned the name to her father in a subtle way.Why wasn’t she interested in any of the R Moshe’s students? I don’t know. Maybe because R Moshe was not recommending college to them?
August 1, 2025 1:38 pm at 1:38 pm #2432834Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantnow we are comparing learning Gemorah with eating cheeseburgers. I don’t think R Eliezer will hold by that. And I think both simcha613 and I mentioned that mandatory learning has problems. I personally do not want to sit with my daughters and remind them again & again to review tosfos after washing the dishes. I would rather say – do you know why we do X? And then discuss gemorah’s arguments with her.
August 1, 2025 1:41 pm at 1:41 pm #2432847none2.0ParticipantUjm you know how many teens are mechalel shabbat in our circles. Please stop acting your better every person makes choices for themselves. Maybe not wise onces but weren’t better then anyone
August 1, 2025 1:56 pm at 1:56 pm #2432964aheimisherenglisherParticipant@none_2.0 “Who says im not Orthodox. It’s not lible. If you want to live in your echo chamber forever you can but people need a new perspective grounded in reality. And you can say it’s G-ds truth and I’m here to say it isn’t. Truth needs to be able to withstand scrutiny and fallow common sense. G-ds created common sense”
דברים י״ז:י–יא – “לא תסור מן הדבר אשר יגידו לך ימין ושמאל”
The Torah is Mchuyav us to listen to the poskei rabonim even if it seems wrong.סנהדרין פ”ח ע”ב – אפילו אומרים לך על ימין שהוא שמאל
Chazal teach that the authority of the poskim is binding regardless of our own understanding.רמב”ם הלכות ממרים א:א–ב
Someone who argues with the rabonim isn’t just arguing, they are being oivur the issur of לא תסור.שולחן ערוך יו”ד רמ”ב:ב – החולק על רבו כחולק על השכינה
Someone who argues with the Rabonim is seen as if he is arguing with the shchina.August 3, 2025 3:52 pm at 3:52 pm #2433141DaMosheParticipantMy daughter just got a Shas. It’s a small one, the pocket size. She goes to school in a Beis Yaakov, and they do not learn Gemara there. She said that when she learn the meforshim on Tanach, they often quote a Gemara – now she can look it up if she wants to.
August 3, 2025 3:53 pm at 3:53 pm #2433290none2.0ParticipantLo tassor min hadavar. You missed the first part of the message. It first says to choose _wise_ and _understanding_ men and then don’t move from the right or the left to what they say.
Picking and choosing as usual. The entire text needs to be ready in _context_
That is _agenda_ driven discernment of the Torah. This is about power and control not trying to figure out what G-d wantsAugust 3, 2025 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #2433291none2.0ParticipantChaZal can teach whatever they want but if they don’t reach the truth then they are not teaching the truth.
August 3, 2025 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #2433292none2.0ParticipantAgain all these sentences you are saying are power grabs. My name is none 2.
If you argue with me your arguing with G-d.
Who gives me the right to say that? Noone.
Exactly. I can say whatever I want. Doesn’t make it trueAugust 3, 2025 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #2433293none2.0ParticipantWhen you have wise and understanding men as leaders they are going to discern things _properly_ and guide you and the nation with _wisdom_
G-d did not use this language so the elites can use it for power grabbing.This was about saying:
“Don’t be a smart alick, if a wise and understanding person gave you good advice don’t be stupid not to listen.Please. Take your fear mongering and control retoric,elite driven power grabbing mispresentstion of G-ds holy word and bury it deep in the depths of the grave where darkness. Evil control and manipulation belong. It’s time for _redemption_
August 3, 2025 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #2433333none2.0ParticipantYou are not mechyav to listen to _anyone_ if they tell you to do the wrong thing. Seem wrong means your radar is beeping. If they told you to jump off the roof and unalive someone youd do it too? Your not a sheep. And your not a soldier. You are free thinking _moral_ person and if you don’t fallow actual morality you may and can do great evil in the name of good. Give me a break
August 4, 2025 1:22 pm at 1:22 pm #2433618DaMosheParticipantI posted this a few times already, posting it again:
The Riva says the left/right mentioned in the pasuk refers to Rabbonim telling us not to do a mitzvah such as Shofar on Shabbos, or Arba Minim on Shabbos. It only refers to a mitzvah that they are telling us NOT to do.The Yerushalmi says in Horios that the pasuk means only if they say right is right and left is left. If they say otherwise, you do not listen.
There are many shitos against Rashi. Indeed, both Rambam and Ramban do not pasken like Rashi in this regard. There is a Sifre which Rashi bases it on, but again, many question the Sifre, and there are Gemoros in both bavli and Yerushalmi that say otherwise. R’ Ovadia Yosef reconciles the two views as I mentioned above – you have to confront the Rav if you think he erred. Until you confront him, you do not listen. The Yad HaMelech states that if you listen when you think he erred just because you think you have to listen, you are required to bring a korbon chatas. Only after confronting the Rav with the opposing view, and he stands by what he said, are you required to listen.
August 5, 2025 3:33 am at 3:33 am #2433887none2.0ParticipantYou know what why don’t instead of asking some authority figure what they think of the text. Read it yourself and see what _you_ think of the text. Sorry we don’t need middle men to read things
August 5, 2025 3:33 am at 3:33 am #2433893Non PoliticalParticipant@ DaMoshe
Your last post was excellent. It will, unfortunately, go underappreciated
August 5, 2025 3:33 am at 3:33 am #2433894none2.0ParticipantWhat about your view or the truths view. Does any of that matter? No it doesn’t clearly
August 5, 2025 3:33 am at 3:33 am #2433895none2.0ParticipantYou are not “required” to listen to anyone. Nobody can force anyone to listen to anything especially not a human being. Only G-d can do that and generally he does it when you do something morally _currupt_ see the difference.
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