aheimish, right – as mentioned – after you approach with the question and explain the details. In my humble experience, when asked rabonim difficult questions about children and Jewish education, I usually heard back very humble answers: “this is not a psak, but maybe you can try X”, “when I was in this situation, I observed Y”,”I can not teach this extra class so that it is seen as I am doing XYZ”, “not sure how to deal with them, but maybe Rebetzin X can suggest something”. This is both from charedi and somewhat modern Rabbis.