January 28, 2011 7:01 pm at 7:01 pm #1160721
A posek who regularly consults with R’ Elyashiv told me when I told him I heard R’ Elyashiv say something-
“Half the things that R’ Elyashiv said… he never said.”
I’m assuming the same would be true for R’ Chaim. I really find this VERY hard to believe and I’d just like to echo the need to speak to your Rav before doing anything at all.
BTW in regards to mekuballim, be very careful that you are dealing with someone who is legit. There are a lot of “mekuballim” who are dabbling in Kochos hatumah. My rosh yeshiva told me that any mekubal should be able to explain to you any tosfos in shas on the spot because if you really know kaballah you have to know kol hatorah kula. See faith and folly by R’ Yaakov Hillel.January 28, 2011 7:10 pm at 7:10 pm #1160722
Jl. I think yiu missed the point. Yehudah, dan, binyamin, all “biblical” names came from the inspiration of the parentsan EG, hapam odeh es hashem. Why is eliana worse? Would you prefer one used a biblical name such as mupim, chupim, eri? Wait, those also were made up names based on a meaning special to the parent.
(Pardon the play on words) Ikkar chaser min hasefer.January 28, 2011 7:22 pm at 7:22 pm #1160723
Is every one missing that I quoted a sefer about this? which has the haskama of many poskim birosham Rav Ovadia Yosef shlit”a.
I find it hard to believe too many posskim would paskin such a shaila if they heard Reb Chaim shlit”a has a contrary opinion.January 28, 2011 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm #1160724
I happen to own a sefer called “V’korey Shmoi B’yisroel” where its brought down from Reb Chaim shlit”a that all modern names (and Shira was one of them), are not names at all and that any one with those names needs to ad a name and be called by the new one only.
Okay, so what qualifies as a “modern” name? How do you (or, perhaps, more importantly, how does R. Chaim) define that?
The WolfJanuary 28, 2011 7:46 pm at 7:46 pm #1160725
yunger mann: “which has the haskama of many poskim birosham Rav Ovadia Yosef shlit”a”
A haskoma on the whole sefer or a michtav brocha that the auther should be able to learn Torah????
Rav Chaim Kanyevskiy’s son is busy putting out a sefer of his own since his father’s over 70,000 (yes over seventy thousand) teshuvos are being misrepresented. Rav Chaim K also insists that no one should pasken from his teshuvos.January 28, 2011 7:47 pm at 7:47 pm #1160726
Why are people extrapolating? In this thread a number of comments were first or second hand accounts of R’ Chaim objecting to the name Shira. Not any other name. I think it is reasonable to conclude that he objects to this name only, and not try to extend this to other names that he has not objected to based on a (even a) logical connection that he has not ever said (to the best of anyone’s knowledge).
Unless someone has heard R’ Chaim object to other names- anyone?January 28, 2011 7:48 pm at 7:48 pm #1160727
Derech Sichah, which is a more accurate book/sefer which quotes Rav Chaim K, quots Rav Chaim as taking issue with the name Matan. He says matan who is mention in Tnach was an evil person. He is quoted as having told people to change their name to Natan (Nossen).
This, well-known sefer makes no mention of your new claim. What does this suggest?January 28, 2011 7:54 pm at 7:54 pm #1160728January 28, 2011 7:55 pm at 7:55 pm #1160729
Most of the names are brought down in the sefer.
The mechaber says he went through many names with Reb Chaim shlit”a. that Reb Chaim shlit”a said where no good and go in the category with Shira of modern names.
I wish I could provide more info about the sefer but I think I left it by my parents (I brought it there to show my brother when he was making a briss).
Every name besides some Yiddish ones are clearly recorded in this sefer and the mekoross for them are there as well.
If any one is interested in buying this sefer, the sefer is sold in all seforim stores.January 28, 2011 8:02 pm at 8:02 pm #1160730January 28, 2011 8:29 pm at 8:29 pm #1160731
yunger mann: You very nicely skirted the question.
Is it an H A S K O M A, or a personal brocha??January 28, 2011 8:35 pm at 8:35 pm #1160732
Its a haskama. Sorry i was trying to answer you. Perhaps i did’nt understand the question the first time.January 28, 2011 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm #1160733
I actually know someone who got a new name because his name was not a real name.
I don’t get that; can’t you make up a name?January 28, 2011 9:02 pm at 9:02 pm #1160734
I tried to find this so-called “sefer” on the websites of zundel berman, eichlers, and mannys and nothing came up. I thought
“the sefer is sold in all seforim stores.”?
Additionally-” Not every one who sounds a little frum is joseph.”
How are you sounding more “frum” than anyone else? You are implicitly telling people not to ask poskim. If you have a Rav who you trust (and everyone should), than if he doesn’t know the answer, he will tell you.
Nobody is questioning R’ Chaim-They are questioning you and whether R’ Chaim said that.
What you are saying makes no sense. Frum Yidden have been creating names since names have existed. What shtus to say that Shira is not a name. Is Alexander a name? Even nowadays, parents are given syata dishmaya to name their children, and if they chose Shira-than that is a beautiful name for them.
It’s one thing if you are trying to have a little fun, but Shira is a popular name, and you are probably causing distress to people all over. You’re playing with fire.January 28, 2011 9:44 pm at 9:44 pm #1160736
iybuhu-I bought the sefer in Torah Tresures in Lakewood. I thought it would be every where perhaps im mistaking.
I think every one SHOULD ask their Rav. i never said not to.
As for the fire many people have heard this. Read the posts.
Gutt ShabbosJanuary 29, 2011 4:59 pm at 4:59 pm #1160737
I will iy”h look for this sefer tomorrow. Both because the topic interests me and because it can be nogeyah l’maisah.
I think yunger mann made an important point. The fact is that if he is indeed quoting from a sefer of someone who researched these inyonim and spoke at length with Rav Chaim about, there is little anyone can argue about. Who here has spent time learning these inyonim? How can anyone here argue without having spent time learning about these things? Just because it doesn’t sit well with you doesn’t make it wrong. First learn, ask shailos and then come back and comment with proof.
I understand that there is some chochma to sheimos. When I need a name I call up a rav who is known to be aboki in these things and go over them with him. Although he doesn’t discuss it with me I hear him under his breath making some type of cheshbonos before he answers me. So even though a person is given some form of ruach hakodesh when choosing a name it is likely that this ruach hoakodesh is no way comparable to the nevuah that our avos and imahos had when making up names for their own children.January 29, 2011 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #1160738
Thanks to whomever it was who recommended the sefer. I purchased it erev Shabbos and spend Shabbos going through it.
Here are a couple of points which come from the sefer, I am bringing them due to previous comments.
At the end of the sefer there is a list of 196 names which R’ Chaim Kanievsky says one should not give. YET IT SAYS THE OTHER POSKIM DO NOT AGREE.
Some of the names listed in the 196 include: Shira, Yoram, Tal, Gavriella, Daniella, Shlomit, Matan, Natali, Na’ama, Hadar, Danna.
After the list (which is a combination of modern names, as well as names from Tanach which one should not use). It says that the rest of the poskim in our dor say that any modern names which have “mashmaos tovos”, there is no inyan NOT to use them. In fact, R’ Chaim is makpid that one use Tanach Names.
On page 171 of the sefer, it quotes R’ Eliyashiv Shlit”a as saying that there is NO PROBLEM with “new names” since such was also the minhag in Europe. It also quotes R’ S.Z. Aurbach as saying “We have enough names, why do you need to use a new one”
The Chazon Ish is quoted as saying that one should not give the womens names from “doros kadmonim” (earlier generations) e.g. Basha, Breindel, Golda etc. so not to embarrass their child. Should one feel compelled to give the name, one should add the hebrew equivalent, giving the name “Faige Tzippora” or “Golda Zahava” and should only call the child by the Hebrew equivalent.
The reason why R’ Chaim Kanievsky is so makpid on “new names” is because the Arizal writes that from the zman of Bais Sheini, there is no such thing as a “new nishama”, rather we are all gilgulim. And since the name is a connection to the nishama, we should stick to old names.
The name Chaim is an “old name” and referenced to in the Seder HaDoros and Shem HaGedolim (name of a Gadol).
Animal Names: Minhag is to name “Chayos” which the shvatim were compared to. We don’t name after “b’haimos” even kosher ones”.
It is acceptable to name after flowers or other things which grow.
Food for Thought: It is nearly impossible to satisfy EVERY shitta when choosing a name. The Avnei Nezer writes that one should not use the name “Moshe”, many argue that his logic leaves no name left to use. The Arizal is quotes as saying that women should be given a name with the letter HEY. That removes Rachel, Tamar, Avigail and other Tanach names from the list.
Those who choose to follow R’ Chaim in this Inyan, Ashreicha. However, please dont bash those who choose to follow R’ Eliashiv who is in obvious disagreement. The sefer quotes both so that we can learn the Inyan. For psak ask da’as torah. They might pasken like R’ Chaim, or they might pasken like R’ Eliashav. Ailu V’Eilu Divrei Elokim Chaim.January 29, 2011 9:35 pm at 9:35 pm #1160739
I have heard this as well. A relative of ours had the name “Shlomit”, which she added a new name “Shulamit”. To the best of my knowledge Rav Shach ZT”L held differently though. I had a sheilah with a bas bayit of ours by the name of Nogah, which she thought it was a bad klipa, which it actually isn”t. I told her to ask Rav Shroya Debltsky, who told her to keep her name.January 29, 2011 11:49 pm at 11:49 pm #1160740
Sorry, but if Shira is not a name, neither is Faigie, Mendel, Hershel, Alexander, and yes, ANY Jewish name, because ALL the names we originally find in the Torah were made up names, and all the names in Yiddish given in the Alter Heim were taken from German.January 30, 2011 12:17 am at 12:17 am #1160741
If you look in SHulchan Oruch, EH Hilchos Gittin, the Beis Shmuel brings a long list of names. Among them is the name Menucha and Simcha for women. How are these different then Shira?
He also has a list of Clalim. The very first one is that we do not change any name, evenm if it has a meaning which is a rayusa (negative connotation) or is the name of non-Jews.
Among the list of names is one which he says has no meaning whatsoever (some badly corrupted word), (I think in the letter Mem list), but is still a valid name, and should be left as is.January 30, 2011 12:37 am at 12:37 am #1160742
midwesterner: That was my point. I was being sarcastic.January 30, 2011 1:07 am at 1:07 am #1160743
jaymat- thank you. My point all along was just to say what Reb Caim shlit”a holds, Not what you should do. All i said was ask your Rav.January 30, 2011 1:21 am at 1:21 am #1160744
“The reason why R’ Chaim Kanievsky is so makpid on “new names” is because the Arizal writes that from the zman of Bais Sheini, there is no such thing as a “new nishama”, rather we are all gilgulim. And since the name is a connection to the nishama, we should stick to old names.”
Thank you for explaining this shita of R’ Chaim. It’s nice to finally have some hard facts here.January 30, 2011 1:22 am at 1:22 am #1160745
JayMatt19: Thank you.January 30, 2011 1:22 am at 1:22 am #1160746
“Animal Names: Minhag is to name “Chayos” which the shvatim were compared to. We don’t name after “b’haimos” even kosher ones”.
Wrong. What about Shepsel for one.
Also, there were g’dolim such as Rav Ruderman who had einicklech with the name Shira. And what about the custom of naming females from words in p’sukim of Shir Hashirim?January 30, 2011 1:22 am at 1:22 am #1160747
Can one name a child “Rashi”???
Does anyone remember Rashi Shapiro from the LP album Rashi and the Rishonim??
Cute name.January 30, 2011 1:27 am at 1:27 am #1160748
Shlumiel (bem Tzurishakai) was also a bibilical name. Now I know a lot of guys whom I have thought were Shlumiels, but I don’t know of any who are actually thus named.January 30, 2011 1:56 am at 1:56 am #1160750
Animal Names: Minhag is to name “Chayos” which the shvatim were compared to. We don’t name after “b’haimos” even kosher ones”.
Which shevet was compared to a bear?
The WolfJanuary 30, 2011 2:01 am at 2:01 am #1160751
“I find it hard to believe too many posskim would paskin such a shaila if they heard Reb Chaim shlit”a has a contrary opinion.”
Tonight: “My point all along was just to say what Reb Caim shlit”a holds, Not what you should do. All i said was ask your Rav.”January 30, 2011 2:19 am at 2:19 am #1160753
“Also my wife knows someone named Shira who Reb Chaim shlit”a told to add or change (im no sure which) their name. And he told them to make a kiddush when they do so.”
Reb Chaim K never made a kiddush for any of daughters. Neither did the Steipler. I find it hard to believe.
JayMatt19: Does the sefer discuss changing names once a name been given?January 30, 2011 2:41 am at 2:41 am #1160754
What about those who don’t believe in gilgulim?
And what about names like Maimon who were after the second Bais Hamikdash, or Rav Hai Gaon, or others?January 30, 2011 2:43 am at 2:43 am #1160755
No one has even mentioned the dozens-maybe hundreds- of aramaic names that the Amoraim had. This was AFTER the bayis sheni. How did they come to make up these names? (also the geonim’s names) If you want to follow this shittah , do so but do not burden other people with the false assumption that certain names cannot be given. Wolf- your question (about a bear)totally wipes that reason away.January 30, 2011 3:21 am at 3:21 am #1160756
“there are a select few poskim that are mumchim in names not every Rav is a mumcha in this miktzoa.
I find it hard to believe too many posskim would paskin such a shaila if they heard Reb Chaim shlit”a has a contrary opinion.”
Don’t say this if you actually want people to ask their Rav.January 30, 2011 4:05 am at 4:05 am #1160757
Pashuteh Yid and rabbiofberlin:
I think it’s safe to assume that R’ Chaim thought of that question, and has a more than competent answer. They say he’s fairly bright.January 30, 2011 4:31 am at 4:31 am #1160758
digibochur~ I know a woman named Rashi. for real.January 30, 2011 4:34 am at 4:34 am #1160759
I don’t think anyone is saying otherwise, They are doubting whether R’ Chaim said such a thing at all. and one is still allowed to wonder what the reason behind a psak is. (while following a competent Rav)January 30, 2011 4:43 am at 4:43 am #1160760
“I find it hard to believe too many posskim woul
d paskin such a shaila if they heard Reb Chaim shlit”a has a contrary opinion.”
Tonight: “My point all along was just to say what Reb Caim shlit”a holds, Not what you should do. All i said was ask your Rav.”
You quoted the sefer without mentioning that Rav Chaim’s father-in-law paskens otherwise. Rav Chaim says not to pasken based upon what he says. If your competent to pasken shailos, you may use what he says to help you conclude. Otherwise you shall ask a Rov who can pasken shailos. Thats what Reb Chaim writes in all the halocha seforim he wrote. This certainly holds true about a ssfer he did NOT write.January 30, 2011 5:12 am at 5:12 am #1160761
mw13-unless R”Chaim actually wrote “mitaam hakomus etzli”-for a very reason that I want to hide, there is no justification not to answer any of the questions posed by the posters- and very simple ones at that. Do you think he would ignore any real question on a sugay or a halachic question and not address it? Of course not.January 30, 2011 5:45 am at 5:45 am #1160762
Truth teller- You where medayik like a lamdin, now think like a lamdin. I was not sosser my self. I merely told you what your Rav would probably say if you told him what Reb Chaim shlit”a says.
As for the story perhaps it was told over to me wrong.
As far as:January 30, 2011 5:52 am at 5:52 am #1160763
iyhbyu- Everyone should do what they please. I’m not here to give hadracha. Were chatting and i’m giving my opinion just like every one else.January 30, 2011 5:55 am at 5:55 am #1160764
Sounds like you are telling people not to follow their Rov.
“As for the story perhaps it was told over to me wrong.”
Or it’s all a bubba maaseh. Eidus shebotloh miktzoso, botlo kuloh.
Wrong. Either is not fine. If you are not competent in paskening shailos, Rav Chaim does not want you to conclude based upon his psak (alone).
Oh, and thanks for the compliment . Coming from you, its highly appreciated.January 30, 2011 6:21 am at 6:21 am #1160767
Ok my friend take a chill.
Here is another complement: You sound like a person who stands up for emessJanuary 30, 2011 6:23 am at 6:23 am #1160768
Sender- See my above post on that question.January 30, 2011 6:26 am at 6:26 am #1160770
Oh gosh im not that bad and I don’t have much knowledge of obscure sefarim I bought that sefer when I had a Shaila someone suggested itJanuary 30, 2011 8:14 am at 8:14 am #1160771
Cherrybim: I thought Shpesel was just a nickname
Wolf: You are correct. I did not transmit that paragraph correctly.
Originally, the minhag was to name the shevet name with its animal. And YES, there were names Dan Nachash and Yissachar Chamor. Later the minhag changed to drop the shevet from the animal. i.e. the name Aryeh given by itself (Kesser Dovid).
The Chida is quoted in this sefer as saying that in ?????? (Italy?) the minhag was to give boys animal names, cause they had a kaballa that this saved them from ?????? . And therefore names were given like Zvi, Ayal, Zev etc.
The Keser Dovid by the way, vetos the names Nachash and Chamor.
As for the question about Shinui HaShem, that is an entire Perek on its own. If there is a specific question perhaps I will see what I can do, but a general “What about Shinui Hashem?” is a bit too much.
FYI R’ Chaim Kanievsky does state that when changing the name, one should use the closest equivalent possibly. E.g. if a Ba’al Teshuva says his name is Victor, he should be called Avigdor (and Ofir should be Efraim).
One should never change a name (e.g. Choleh), rather one should add a name.
The new name is always in front of the old name. (i.e. Rina becomes Chaya Rina and not Rina Chaya)
If one was given the name of a Rasha at the naming (e.g. Nimrod, Amalek, Jezebel), we change the name and do not add a name.
The minhag is to add one of the following names to a sick male: Chaim, Shalom, Refoel, Ezriel, Yerachmiel, Yechezkel, or Chizkiahu for a segulah for a refuah sheleima.
The minhag is to add one of the following names for a sick female: Chaya, Chana, Sarah or Yocheved. We do NOT add Rachel, Bas Sheva, Tamar or Leah (Chida)
A Shinui Hashem is only done for a Choleh, not for someone who has R”L gone off the derech. (R’ Chaim Kanievsky)January 30, 2011 8:28 am at 8:28 am #1160772
yunger mann: Make sure you read the haskamos and not just look at the names.
Often the letter says that they haven’t read the book.
Sometimes the haskama is for a different sefer (e.g. The English Version of the Sefer Ma’alos Hatorah printed haskamos for the Hebrew Version written over 100 years ago!).
And every now and then you even get a haskama which says that the contents of the book is not Torah (still amazed the Mechaber has the chutzpa to print the haskama in his book when it says that)January 30, 2011 8:31 am at 8:31 am #1160773
“The new name is always in front of the old name. (i.e. Rina becomes Chaya Rina and not Rina Chaya)”
JayMatt19~ when I received an added name (as mentioned in a previous post above… not being because I was sick, B’H) it was added after my birth name.
and come to think of it: my mother-in-law, A’H, received an additional name AFTER her first two given names.January 30, 2011 9:58 am at 9:58 am #1160774
I noticed some posters assuming that just because it is a sefer it is true and “you can’t argue on a sefer” Anyone can print a sefer; just because it has a binding a nice cover doesn’t make it true. If you really think so read Aim Habonim Smaicha. It is very well researched and very backed up from the the torah, poskim etc. Yet I’m sure you would find a rationale to disagree with every word written in it.January 30, 2011 11:08 am at 11:08 am #1160775
Oomis. I assume that the term Shlumiel comes from the fact that the Nassi with that name acted like a Shlimiel at the end of his life. See the end of Parshas Balak.
What does R’ Chaim say about someone named Joseph using multiple names?January 30, 2011 11:23 am at 11:23 am #1160776
Can one name a child “Rashi”???
Growing up I knew someone who was named Rashi. I believe he now has smicha as is living somewhere in the states.
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