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July 26, 2009 1:07 pm at 1:07 pm #651472Be HappyParticipant
Unfortunately I don’t know who wrote this. I found it on my computer while sorting it out my folders:
Moshiach is on his way – are you ready?
Do You Have Something to Wear when Moshiach Comes?
After a week filled with fear and awe, we feel that there is so very much to
beg for now, during the Yomim Nora’im. Beseeching Hashem for Bi’viyas
HaMoshiach has finally become something real and tangible.
On Rosh Hashona, my family discussed what it will be like when Moshiach
comes and how we are all looking forward to his arrival. It was then that my
mother asked, “Have you decided what you’re going to wear to greet
Moshiach?” The whole family got very nervous. I could not think of one
outfit in my entire wardrobe in which it would be befitting for the Avos,
Imahos, Moshe Raabeinu, Dovid Hamelech, Devorah Haniviah, etc. to see me
dressed. How could I appear before them with my skirt just covering my
knees? Maybe my new suit is okay. No, the problem is that it’s tight
fitting. Can I wear my skin-tone stockings? But how would Sorah Imainu know
there’s something there? She’ll think it’s my bare leg!? How can I wear my
Shabbos shoes with those high platforms? What will Moshiach say to that? I
really like one of my new Shabbos outfits, but it reaches my ankles. Is that
really appropriate for me to wear?
We all experienced a sinking feeling. How is it possible that we have
nothing to wear to greet Moshiach although our closets are packed with
clothing? Then someone commented, “If all our clothes aren’t good enough for
Moshiach, why are they okay to wear now?” If we have been crowned by
Hakadosh Boruch Hu with the most precious adornment, “Bonim Atem La’Hashem
Elokeichem” shouldn’t we always look like B’nos Melech? We were all
speechless. We had absolutely nothing to say for ourselves. On the Yom
Ha’din we had to confess that we have nothing in which we would feel
comfortable to appear before Moshiach. Suddenly the solution hit me like a
bolt of lightning. “I think I’ll wear my Bais Yaakov uniform! That is
something I’ll feel good about wearing.” Imagining to myself the throngs of
Bais Yaakov girls all going to greet our holy ancestors in one united
uniform. My heart swelled with a warm glow.
But why is that my uniform is the only outfit of which Moshiach will be
proud?!
July 26, 2009 3:49 pm at 3:49 pm #651473ChanieEParticipantMay 3, 2022 10:35 am at 10:35 am #2082153R L AParticipantMekorot for the laws
*Bright colored clothing or clothing that otherwise attracts atntion are not permitted. =as they are worn by gentiles for purposes of promiscuity, [and one who wears it transgresses the prohibition of “Thou shall not go in their statutes”- See Michaber Y.D. 178/1; Maharik Shoresh 88; Igros Moshe Y.D. 1/81; Dibros Eliyahu 34, Rama Y.D. 178/1; Beis Yosef 178; Maharik Shoresh 88; Aruch on Brachos 20a, The Shach-yoreh deah 178:3, Maharik Shoresh 88, {Rav Moshe Shternbuch (Teshuvos v’Hanhagos Vol. I #136), shlita, seems to understand the aforementioned Gemara that it includes any color that brings attention to oneself. Thus, a bright yellow or bright pink would be included in the prohibition according to Rav Shternbuch. Rav Chaim Kanievsky is also quoted as forbidding any bright color. Other poskim cite other sources for not bringing excess attention to oneself and forbid any bright or neon color. They do not state that their source is this Gemara in Berachos, however.} [leinent opinion sources Darkei Teshuvah 178/16 in name of Rav Yitzchak Elchonan of Kovna; Orchos Rabbeinu]
(transparent clothing prohibited= bavli berachot 25b, halachot gedolot-berkahot, chapter, Yabia omer vol.VI -YorehDeah 14 letter 1, Rashi on gemar berachot, Magen avraham at the beginning of OrahChaim 75, )
* A woman’s knees, elbows=Responsa yabia Omer volume VI, Yoreh Deah 14-letter3, and collarbone must remain covered. =Chazon Ish Orah Chaim 15-letter8, Kedoshim tehiyu page 253,
* Skirts may not have a slit, also to cover knee.= Responsa yabia Omer volume VI, Yoreh Deah 14-letter8, igrot moshe is more leniant, Rav Ovadia sourced in the book of Rabbi Ellinson, even ezer vol.1-58, Orah Chaim 16:7Rambam- Maasay hakorbanot 9:10, hullin134b,
* Clothes must be loose-fitting. = rabbi Israel Ganz, Leviticus 18:3, also this may go under not wearing anything that may cause forbidden thoughts I hear from Rebitzin Ganz that it is better to wear a short-sleeve shirt rather than a tight-fitting long sleeve shirt since the latter is like wearing nothing at all…
* A married woman must cover her hair. = it is brought down in chazal that any woman who is not a virgin should cover hair but this is not the halacha. Number 5:18 deorita, and goes on daat moshe. Rambam -issur biah 21:17,shiltie giborim on rif, ketubot 72a mishna,
* An unmarried woman’s hair should be short or tied back, such as in a braid. = minchag there are many Chasidic sources
* Makeup and perfume = from all the sources I saw no problem with makeup that conceals blemishes, the only problem with those that make facial features such as eyes stand out too much Livush kehilchata, Rebbetzin Leah Kohn,
* A woman’s singing voice = Berachot 24a, Yerushalmi Hallah 2:1, Jer. 3:9, Kidushin 70a, Rama hilchot isurie biah 21a, Shulchan aruch even haezar 21:1 , sdei hemed 100:42, Igros Moshe gives leniency before puberty to hear but says that the behavior is undesirable.for sure there are more sources but this is what I was able to find
(Devarim 23:15) “For the L-rd your G-d walks in the midst of your camp … And let your camp be holy; that He see no unseemly thing in you and turn from you”: this teaches that licentious behavior removes the divine presence, since it does not rest in a place of sin or sinful thought, so any dress that can cause such thought either in a man or woman is prohibited.
May 3, 2022 10:35 am at 10:35 am #2082154R L AParticipantsee my post at end with all sources for stringency and leniency
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