I think this entire story is being blown entirely out of proportion. I personally know of many people who had a detailed list of what they were looking for, only to realize that paper does not always transition well into the reality. If you think this may be an option, treat him like any other shidduch. Do some research, answer the basic questions you have, and then go out on a date. You’re not required to marry him after a date, and most of the important questions you have can only be answered by him, not through research.

** If you are worried about being blinded by infatuation, then write down your “red lines” before you date him, and make sure they check out before letting it get too far**

Have some faith in God people…

Akuperman, you just proved RebYidd23’s point. If the “corectness” depends on the specific demographic, then it is no longer correct. True correctness is not subjective. It is purely factual. Political Correctness is the concept of one group claiming their view is correct, and usually censuring those who disagree (are ‘incorrect’).

This is probably the reason why there is so little cooperation between parties, and by extension of my logic, various strands of Judaism as well. Instead of each side having unique opinions, they each have a set of facts, leaving no room for deviation or argument.

Thank you huju, I really appreciated that

And if we’re broaching the topic of drugs here, then I’d like to recommend trying some oxygen – I personally can’t get enough of it.

Huju, the coffee room is a safe place for yidden to share their advice, however satirical it may be. I am sure that if Joseph had a serious medical dilemma he would certainly have asked Dr. Google instead. Let’s try to keep things positive?

Much appreciated =)

In my experience, the Neshama has a strong affinity for bourbon.