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November 16, 2016 6:56 pm at 6:56 pm in reply to: what if i think my bashert might not be what im looking for? #1192183
I think this entire story is being blown entirely out of proportion. I personally know of many people who had a detailed list of what they were looking for, only to realize that paper does not always transition well into the reality. If you think this may be an option, treat him like any other shidduch. Do some research, answer the basic questions you have, and then go out on a date. You’re not required to marry him after a date, and most of the important questions you have can only be answered by him, not through research.
** If you are worried about being blinded by infatuation, then write down your “red lines” before you date him, and make sure they check out before letting it get too far**
Have some faith in God people…
iacisrmma, please enlighten us as to the parameters of an adult conversation, and how the current discussion does not qualify
Akuperman, you just proved RebYidd23’s point. If the “corectness” depends on the specific demographic, then it is no longer correct. True correctness is not subjective. It is purely factual. Political Correctness is the concept of one group claiming their view is correct, and usually censuring those who disagree (are ‘incorrect’).
This is probably the reason why there is so little cooperation between parties, and by extension of my logic, various strands of Judaism as well. Instead of each side having unique opinions, they each have a set of facts, leaving no room for deviation or argument.
I may not have Joseph’s wisdom, but I can attempt an answer:
There is really no correct answer, as it all depends on the circumstances. You clearly made the right decision given the information you had. If you would know ahead of time that the man would be forced to stand behind a scantily clad individual, then it would obviously be better for you to be the person standing ahead of him.
Whether or not he has “hearos” after that is completely his responsibility.
Thank you huju, I really appreciated that
And if we’re broaching the topic of drugs here, then I’d like to recommend trying some oxygen – I personally can’t get enough of it.
RebYidd23, the fact that there are other colors makes my green straw all the more valuable. Now I can have Bechira when I choose my straw!
iacisrmma, this thread is an adult conversation about childish things that trouble us – whether or not we are childish is another conversation entirely
Huju, the coffee room is a safe place for yidden to share their advice, however satirical it may be. I am sure that if Joseph had a serious medical dilemma he would certainly have asked Dr. Google instead. Let’s try to keep things positive?
Much appreciated =)
It’s nice to see someone with sense these days. Aside from the yellow straws. Green ones clearly bring the beverages to the next level.
In my experience, the Neshama has a strong affinity for bourbon.