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‘Lefties are in their ‘right mind’. generally more talented,creative and artistic.
In reply to the “mixed marriage” Sefardy-Askenaz, let me enlighten you. Most Sefardim in America are not eating kitniyos. Only certain ethnic groups- ie Persians and Syrians. Moroccans do no eat rice or kitniyos on Pesach. The Minhagim on Pesach of Moroccans are not too far removed from the Ashkenazim. Unfortunately, many people have false preconceived notions about Sefardim going back many generations. The majority of them send their children to the same yeshivos of their Ashkenazi brothers.
Obviously, it’s the almighty dollar. As someone who has married off several sons, I can tell you that the ‘big time’ shadchanim never mentioned a girl from a simple home. They are very quick into name dropping
Women who are educated are better able to afford housekeeping help and therefore, can spend more quality time with their families. Unfortunately, the more right wing one moves, the less desire there is for education. If the cycle we live in continues, the next generation will not have parents wealthy enough to support the ‘learning lifestyle’.
When did making a living become unacceptable for the male population. I always understood that in the Ketubah, the husband is supposed to support his wife, to provide her with all her needs.
kudos to you YOSR. That’s the way it should be. Unfortunately, people are so prejudiced. My children are products of a ‘mixed marriage’. They have all married ashkenazim, but my sons still keep their sephardy minhagim. There is nothing extraordinary that they do. And sephardy cooking is much better than ashkenaz anyway.
Thanks for your words of chizuk, and yes, I do realize that people are very busy, but there is no need to be rude. If they find it gets to be too much, than leave the work to someone else. However, I still feel that the best boys are redd only to girls who come from certain “types’ of backgrounds and are promised certain things. (and I can vouch for this because I married off boys and every shadchan called with the same names). I don’t want to put the blame solely on the shadchannim , mother’s of sons also want to ‘auction’ their sons to the highest bidder, and make sure that they will be taken care of forever and ever.
So, are you saying the wonderful Jewish girls are overstocked, that their worth is based only on dollars and cents. Divorces have become rampant in the so called “frum” community because, unfortunately, people are looking for the wrong thing. Whatever happened to working and bringing in a salary. What has happened to one’s pride of doing things on one’s own and not being beholden to a father-in law.
Thanks for the great list, unfortunately, most of these people won’t give you the time of day, if you don’t have the right “name, yichus, or bank account”.(with emphasis on bank account)Phone calls are never returned and on the rare occasion that you do get a hold of them, they are very curt and quick to get off the phone. Granted, there are some who do it lishma, but many of them demand exhorbitant fees- $3000-5000.00. Since when did shadchanus become such big business.