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Re nfgo3. I wish its just that some people like me like to go on and on and on with no end
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Yes give them a simple answer and then when at home explain if they asked you then they will ask someone else or it was a topic with there friends they will find out so try be smart about it and give a answer that wont disrupt the dinner and follow with another subject you can always explain that people don’t talk openly about these things and you will talk to them later about it but make sure you follow up on it the last thing you want is your kid finding out things from there friends you want your kids to feel safe asking you or telling you anything
See which one is more compatible and go for it in our minhag a daughter in law that has the same name adds a name but these things shouldn’t be a problem at all ask your rov and go out and be matzliach
(I think this is a good place to mention this) People that do things because it will give them a better shidduch etc will end up hating there life and if a guy is marrying you because you went to seminary for 2 years then he will expect the lifestyle of a girl that went to seminary for 2 years (willingly)
it is smarter to get married and on with your life when you feel your ready go for it (no one knows you better then you do) but you do pick up some good things in seminary sometimes doing what our parents want turns out pretty good but don’t do things for the wrong reasons there are too many people that end up hating themselves because they were pressured to live a certain way and now they want out but are tied in to deep and end up miserable so think about the pros and cons and talk to someone as others mentioned here
Ps if dating while you are in seminary is a option then maybe you want to go that way the dating process can take some time and if you can do both
No but going to another place usually makes a person be a stronger religious-wise its just like when a israeli comes to america they have a bigger chance of becoming religious when your in a different country its easier to become religious because you don’t have your friends or family to judge you etc on the same note its also easier to go off the derech and do stuff that you would never do in your hometown
She should voice her opinion and do not get parents involved until after you talk because one side may forgive but a parent always remembers try to talk be open and say what she feels going to his rabbi is a plan b if talking has not resolved anything but people should talk and get it out and just because she grew up that way or he did does not mean its ok now if you guys make up your mind about something and one side starts changing then the other side should voice there concern if something religious-wise bothers you, you should voice your concern because small things tern into bigger things im not saying that i agree with watching movies of not all im saying is if something bothers you then voice your opinion and like others said try not to turn it into a fight
When one of your brothers goes off the derech he becomes a chilony and when your sister marries a Naturei Karta she becomes a Naturei Karta now that we know how you can be related
Jews are jews no mater what we do we will always be jews hitler imachshemo vezichro made sure that we never forget it doesn’t matter what kind of jew you are you are still a jew he killed all jews equally
Jews are related because we all are tzelem elokim so there you go
Not trying to go off topic but figured this is a nice place to mention this
Just because we don’t agree with the choices someone made it does not mean you can cut them off if you don’t like the choice they made speak to them voice your opinion but stop hating each other
If you hate they will end up being your next generation your kids will become that of what you hate hashem does not want us to hate but wants us to mecarev or support a organization that does kiruv but not to hate
We are falling apart because of all this hate and just because they hate you it does not mean you should hate them you should be careful not to get hurt but love them like you love yourself and pray they get to be chozer bitshuva and greet mashiach with all of us