Its so wrong when shadchanim make you scared to call them back and say you don’t want to date the boy they just redt you. The most stressful time for me last week was the time before we called shadchan back to let her no that the diamond of a boy she redt is just not for me. The worst was the manipulation: she pretended to take it calmly and said okay so I want to continue helping you-tell me what you DO want.so when I said different things suddenly she says-well Ploni I just redt you is A and B and C so nu what’s wrong with him?! I was at my wits end! When iH I one day redt shidduchim I’m gunna be soo sweet when people say no.its not my job or any shadchans job to ensure that a single doesn’t make a stupid choice.