MILHOUSE: Where are your sources? Especially #3??
Joseph- I’m not sure it’s all about a woman marrying someone who earns more than she does, but rather whether the person she’s marrying is someone she can respect.
Example, I know a woman who is a professional (grad degree from Columbia)-she makes a lot, and he learns. He’s not some stam learner in Yeshiva —-he’s absolutely brilliant!!! And he teaches too!
Men will marry a dummy, or someone who’s barely literate…(I know 32 year old attorney who married someone who was 20 years old, with no education whatsoever). Men have the option to do this , unfortunately a woman needs a man she can respect and look up to. However,
it doesn’t necessarily mean a man who earns more than she does.
I agree with Redleg….in fact it always seemed to me, IMHO, that by dafka not learning on nittel nacht, it was dafka a victory for the other side. But then again, who am I to argue with the Baal Shem Tov?
I’m not a Chabadnik, but I really don’t get all the hostility posted here. Why can’t people just “take the best, and leave the rest?” Even a staunch Litvak would have to admit how much good Chabad has done to advance the Jewish cause. If one travels for business, even to some remote po-dunk kind of city, there’s bound to be a Chabad and probably even a kosher restaurant or at least the website to their Chabad house or shul will have a list of where to buy kosher food. No abba, even Hashem, likes it when his children are at each other’s throats. Kol Tov!