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Simply put this forum should not be used for halacha questions. Ask a rov.
However I will point out a few things that others have mentioned that it appears that you are missing some basic facts. If there are only women there, it’s still yichud for sure if it is only two women, if it’s more then it could get complicated. More importantly and the most obvious heter for you is baala b’eer which is that yichud is permitted just due to the fact that your husband is local. What’s considered local and other details are the reason why a competent halachic authority should be consulted regarding potential situations prior to having them occur.
You could probably have it fixed in a local place for between $60-$80 or by a kit for much less and attempt to do it yourself. The Apple store might be a good idea if they really only charge $99, because they don’t fix it for you but give you a refurbished unit with a new battery and perfect outside. I have to point out because many are naive that unless someone else password protected the iPod, by definition the owner of the iPod has internet access…
If you disable the default browser (safari) an alternate browser can be installed that has filtering and or monitoring capabilities. In such a case the wife would have to put on the password to disable Safari and not allow it to be reinstalled. You can then install covenant eyes or any other monitoring browser. You still have to verify there are no other 3rd party browsers, and that he is not resetting the device, and allowing Safari. The best thing is not allowing purchases in the app store, which also would have to be done by the wife.
Also, as i mentioned the history in safari itself can only be erased in it’s entirety. Therefore you can always check the history, if it is mysteriously showing nothing for the past few days then you know it was erased. If you can have an open conversation saying that you will check it periodically then he would avoid going to inappropriate sites assuming he cares.
It is a bit complicated but something everyone should be educated about if a family member has an iPad/iPhone.
FYI- Regarding device filtering/monitoring- All computers can have full filters and or monitoring. Android devices can have filtering and monitoring as well. Apple iPhone and iPad can’t be filtered unless you disable Safari web browser and use an alternate browser which has integrated filtering/monitoring. The only thing about Safari web browser is that you can’t erase some sites from browsing memory, the only way to do it is to erase the whole thing. If a wife were to ask for immediate access to her husband’s iPhone she would be able to tell if he went to inappropriate sites or is hiding something. At the same time you have to make sure that there are no apps that can access the internet as well.
It truly necessary for every man to have filters or monitors on every device that they have. Ayin apitropos l’arayos- meaning there is no one who is immune from falling prey to immortal matters. Clearly the internet asifa drew attention to these matters but there is way too much ignorance out there is how to effectively filter or monitor.
I hope this can be posted as I would like to get you (Feif Un) the resume. I created an e-mail for this and will erase it when we are done. Its [email protected]
I know of someone in that area that is looking for a programing job. He has limited experience so that might be an issue. If they would consider it anyway please contact me.