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goldbergs grocery store on 18th avenue in boro park usually has a sale (with ten dollar non-sale item purchase) of $10/lb. i know people who drive in from baltimore for this sale every year. just putting it out there…there are places with somewhat reasonable prices.
@writersoul interesting that that has been your perspective. i’ve always had the opposite.
in fact, to avoid and minimize conflict when i didn’t want my kids to watch tv (“even barney?!”) at my parents house years ago, when introducing the idea, i stressed that it wasn’t even as much as religious objection as a developmental one.
@jbaldy22 i read about the studies in the series of books “what to expect” in “baby’s first year”. beyond that, i know much more data exists. i’d google it, but i don’t think i’d be allowed to post links anyway.
@logician excellent points. and i do make exceptions also, such as their day camp dvd that just came in the mail. basically a once in a very rare while treat.
but my kids are young, bright, active and inquisitive. i hate seeing them in zombie mode in front of a dvd. i don’t mind something like miami boys choir as much as i mind uncle moishy, cuz at least they get up and dance with it!
@gryffindorable girl: i definitely hear that, as i have similar memories. but i also remember watching way too much tv and being way too invested in an imaginary world.
as a young mother, i see even more now that kids are numbed and
invested in videos, even kosher ones. i also hear mothers talk about how much pesach cleaning they’ve done, for eg, and when i ask how they do it with small kids, the answer is always either a dvd, or an electronic game, etc.
for my own kids, i’ve debated ad nauseum with my father-in-law trying to convince him not to put uncle moishy dvds for my kids. the cds are great but i don’t find any valuable content in the dvds (“say hi to the plumber for me!!!”), and i wont enter it to my own house because i am too scared of falling in to the rabbit-hole: i’m often tired after work, have so much to do on sundays, etc, i don’t want the all too available crutch of sitting my kids down in front of uncle moishy’s dancing elephants to “free” myself.
@oomis i hear what you are saying, but feel like that closeness can also be gained with books and outings. baby Einstein seems impressive, but in the long run there is evidence that not only does it not advance vocabulary and counting skills, it may also hinder the child from learning at age level.
there’s lots of research also about sesame street and the like.
oomis, i tend to agree with you, but i don’t think the other posters are really disagreeing. i think though, that proposing has changed a lot over the past several years. now, a bochur is expected to put on a song and dance, declare his love in a humorous and flamboyant way, and present her with flowers, balloons, etc all declaring loudly his “love”.
surely, you would agree that the place for this is not in front of the kosel?
if he is solemnly asking her in a meaningful and introspective place, then yes, at the kosel is beautiful. they can join together in tefilla for their future.
Having grown up out of town some twenty yrs ago, where everyone basically watched Disney (we watched snow white in seventh grade in BY, the only disclaimer was a joke about the ending being cpr) and having stopped watching all tv/movies around nine yrs ago, I enjoyed this film a lot. However, it was sligtly too disney/goyish feeling for me to put it on for my kids (plus my oldest is only six. In theory tho…)
It also really bothered me that the produces kept stressing that they wanted to raise the bar on Jewish entertainment. I’ve always learned and believed that its a good thing that we don’t have movies and tvs, not just cuz of bad content. They all too often are used as substitute parenting/babysitting, and are brain numbing and addictive for kids.
I was once in a class by rabbi lieb kelemen (of neve yerushalayim) and i’ll never forget how he exclaimed “watch a movie with my kids?! I’d rather have a frontal lobotomy! There’s no communication, no kesher!” Then I had to go look up what a frontal lobotomy was 😉