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to querty613: i apologize if you felt attacked; Actually , what i wrote was to support your idea that quote: ‘6000 isn’t a sure thing.’ and what the raavad writes is that the R’M seems to ignore the chazal saying about the 6000 years!
Hope this clarifies this;
regarding answering you on other posts: sorry but i don’t always get to this things

Raavad seems to understand the R’M like that too;
H. Tshuva 8,8

זה שקראו אותו חכמים העולם הבא לא מפני שאינו מצוי עתה וזה העולם אובד ואחר יבוא אותו העולם אין הדבר כן אלא הוי הוא מצוי ועומד – א״א: נראה כמכחיש שאין העולם חוזר לתוהו ובוהו והקב״ה מחדש עולמו, ואמרו: שיתא אלפי הוי עלמא וחד חרוב (ראש השנה לא, א) – ונמצא שהעולם חדש.

Please look at this stats from the us census (table MS-2) estimated median age at first marriage by male/female, going back to 1890;
Pretty clear across the board men marry younger women;
Is it because females mature earlier than males? maybe;
in talmud times marriageable age started for females before 13; for males around 18;
you may argue that men sometimes married multiple women;
that basically stopped after the cherem of R’GMH.
perhaps the ages quoted above also changed, but then need we need to go back to the us census stats;
if the theory of nassi is correct, this shiduch crisis should have appeared way back in our history, and i don;t believe it is the case. so i personally don’t see the math concurring with reality;
Maybe there are more odd boys than girls; I don’t know;
What i do know is that there are many jewish girls (& boys) in pain because they are not married and having families, and that should be painful to all of us; any efforts to solve the issue should be welcomed ; not sure it can be pinned on one reason alone , either;
One thing which could be done, if a lot more people feeling the pain would volunteer some of their time in a concerted effort to try and run more shiduchim ; as has been said, professional shadchanim focus on their income, (and i have nothing against that); but if a large effort is done by volunteers who are not looking for money, then we can have a positive influence;
perhaps a 100% free website oriented to shiduchim, well written , well designed , so volunteer shdchanim can propose matches, and/or people can search for matches , and request volunteers to match them ; i would even have an eYente 🙂 there

i do feel bad for any person not finding his/her shiduch;
what i don;t understand with this theory, is : when did the cycle start? why did it become so extreme only in recent times; i may be mistaken, but not my impression that this was the situation 30 years ago;
what about 150 years ago? if the concept is real, this situation should have come up way back in jewish history
maybe i am missing something, help me understand
i do wish everybody the best in finding an appropriate match