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on the contrary, how much greater such a girl is, that she didnt feel it necissary to blow 20 grand of her parents much needed money on her spending 9 months in israel partying. that such a girl, even though “everyone” else was going had her priorities straight and realised it was unnecissary. i think to stop a shidduch from such a girl would be a real pity and loss on ur part for a girl who sees things with reality in mind.
az. the people sitting around in the coffee room arent solving this “crisis” their just getting people worked up over it. yes we have doctors who a messengers of Hashem to heal people and specialist who are messengers of Hashem who help people have children and we have Shadchanim who are messengers of Hashem who make shidduchim. but all these things are from hashem, why dont you sit around a whole day and worry about not enough doctors for sick paitents???? because you know its out of your control, so is all these numbers, if you want to actually help these people and be a shadchan go ahead, if not leave it to the ultimate shadchan-Hashem
its really funny how people are always trying to figure out the numbers and ratios of boys to girls and how “we” can solve the “crisis”. Hashem determined a zivug for every person and an age at which this person will meet theri zivug. stop worrying about all the numbers all you need is one and dont worry hashem will help you and make sure that happens. dont stop girls from finding their zivug at the right time because their are older girls still single. Hashem has a cheshbon for everyone and instead of sitting a whole day tring to figure out numbers all you should be doing is BELIEVING. Hashem has never let us down till now dont think he will now.
d9, being a baal teshuva yourself you probaly understand the desire for more torah and learning and their is no reason for you to discorage their will to learn. as they correctly said, parnassah is all in the hands of the abishter and if they are learning torah for hashem, parnassah isnt a fear. every parent davens for their children to be talmedei chachamim but many along the way discorage it way to much so please allow them to remain in yeshiva as long as they like and leave the parnassah up to hashem, believe me He knows how to run the world.
wow it mamash is a hard choice
please post some of these concerts, i am intersted in going to them. thanks!!
of course that was what i meant dont be biased . everyone has favorites but dont show it and if you dont act on your favoritism after time it will pass
forsure write a nice note but the counslers need the money cuz the camp really doesnt pay well. it is not that much and you dont have to give the exact emount but u most definitly should give them some money
my take on this matter is to elimante things that would cause a child to be jealus of the other. a parent has to be careful to treat each child equally while mantaining a special bond with each one. its hard but fighting shouldnt be something a child is exposed to. its not a concept they should know. if they arent exposed to it a young age than they wont fight as they get older.
wow feif un that is beatiful story.
i desperatly need a good cholent recipe. any ideas???
now I know why my sister’s never answer their phones. she had the baby last week.
I have a cousin-23 who married an 18 year old girl and got so many speeches from differant relatives and even strangers. such behavior was not appropriate from the people who yelled at him. Dont yell at someone for going out with someone so young once they are already engaged. dont you think that caused some bad feelings in the engagement.(expecially with the boy’s mother)
we shouldnt be discoraging learning f/t. many girls are looking for learner earner but majority are still looking for s/o in kollel.Many yeshivos dont allow the boys to go to college and the boys dont want to because it creates embaressment for them. the parents are the ones encoraging it, usually what happens are the boys who cant learn full time remain in yeshivos and hang around while the good boys end up going to get jobs.
my sister had a girl.
i didnt know it was open for so long. i thought it was relativly new
i used to not think about my dreams as reality but about 2 weeks ago i had a very creepy dream with so much of the info correct about my future and i told people about it. some people belived it and others laughed it away. i still think about it often because it was really scary and some parts very true that it was true.