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Thanks everyone!!! May we all share in simchos. Just a point obviosly we all need to daven. Boruch Hashem there was no major medical problem. However A Time did help us with referels and doctors. To anyone that is having trouble please call these wonderful organizations. A time. Or bonei olam…. They are there to help
Mods thx for bringing back this topic I started 11 months ago I’m still shocked….
Seriously speaking I was very shocked when I saw that the post I started 11 months ago re appaired. I’m a guy and I was tearing as I read my post from 11 months ago Baruch Hashen we were blessed with a healthy baby girl a few weeks ago!!!!!. Wow I’m still shocked that my post came around again what hashgacha. Let’s all keep davening that everyones bakashos should be filled.
I have tried disscussing many times. When it comes to $……..
M in Israel- Thanks very much for explaining all my points, I hope bpt, can learn from you,
BPT- sorry to hear that you feel pressure from your community to have more kids. If that is something that really goes on is this world that’s pretty sick. That being said it still pretty nasty not to feel for people that want more kids (not bec of pressure, but bec they want to have a large family, and give their children siblings. Again we couldn’t care less what other think if we have x amount of kids, we don’t want bec of others.
I have a very good friend married for a few years, both husband and wife know they can’t have kids (bec of medical stuff when they were kids) ,,,,,,,,,my heart bleeds for them, they have no idea that I know of their medical problem.
I would be thrilled if they are blessed with a house full of children, and I still not allowed to feel pain inside bec we want more but arehaving trouble. My kids ask all the time for siblings,,,,,,do u think this doesn’t make the pain worse.
BPT- Your comments get more and more pathetic. Why would you assume that people want more children bec of family pressure….what a dumb statement. You should never know from such pain
Thanks everyone for the support and kind words/ advise. We will continue to daven and continue going to seek medical advice.
Moderator 20- Yes you should have deleted the post from bpt,,,,,it was pretty harsh……oh and btw I’m a guy too.
Moderator- pls keep this listing going.
Belec echad- many of your ideas are ones that I follow at all times, many that I could never do. My wife and kids know ill buy whatever foods/nosh they want, ill get the best price. Staple items I always stock up on when they are on sale. Yes I go to a few different stored every week to stock up on good priced items. Regarding cleaners, grand it I could save the$, but don’t have the time/strenth at the end of my long day to deal with it. Electricity I am always care full. Clothing………. I get brand name on sale, I wish you could explain the $30 shoe deal to my wife bec no matter how much ill explain she doesn’t get it. Don’t get me wrong I nice nice things, its also very difficult to work very hard and not allow yourself to at times buy a coffee ect….
Honestly we have 2 kids and I would love many more/ I’m afraid ill have no way to provide for them……….. I know they say that with each child comes parnassah and I have seen this first hand but its difficult to enternalize. And then to beg the schools bec u can’t pay…..
At times I feel like quitting my job. Declare to the yeshivas (like many others) I’m sorry I have no $ as I don’t have a job collect every program and get a job paying $500 a week cash. At the end of the month I believe ill be in the same place “financially” without the stress. I know this is the wrong attidude but I’m hurting.
Thanks guys for all of the support. Just to clarify; we are not big spenders, the only “vacation” we go on are with credit card points. All clothing we buy are nice, however all are purchased on sale. We almost never eat out. Ok, every other shabbos ill purchase a $30 piece of meat for firday night. I buy my wife flowers for shabbos….am I supposed to cut this out. We pay are credit cards in full every month (its not easy) and pay tuition and other bills on time. Sometimes I just feel depressed like I can’t do any better (I know many will say they wish they are in my shoes). Its very hard for me to work like a dog and still struggle at the end of the month without the luxeries. And can almost nerver buy that extra item for myself wife or kids.
The only real difference from a few years ago is we wernt paying yeshiva tuition and weren’t paying a mortgage. We are very careful about our spending
Since our jobs are in the city house isn’t much cheaper unless we go out verry far
If you are worried about their ability to pay the rent request a parent to co sign