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December 4, 2015 3:52 pm at 3:52 pm in reply to: Invited to the Wedding Feast, not the Ceremony-would you be offended? #1142982
As a not-close family or friend I would not be offended at all. Now, if I thought I was close and it turns out the feeling isn’t mutual, then maybe I would be offended. Isn’t that where the sticky situations tend to arise?
I agree about Hadlakas Neiros. Indescribably special. Also, Yedid Nefesh – specifically R’ Shmuel Brazil’s – never fails to do it for me. I guess we start Shabbos and end Shabbos on a high, that carries us through the whole Shabbos, and hopefully the week as well – if we do it right!
The little you know seems to be a lot…
So many problems in life and in marriage would be avoided if we worked to focus on what is truly important…
I just want to say that you seem like a great person and you are eager to make your wife happy. It definitely seems like it’s not the actual cleaning help that’s troubling you but the underlying middos/ perspective/ mentality of your wife.
I’m sorry I don’t have any advice for you (well, maybe some, but I’m not giving any) I just wanted to commend you for trying to understand her and I hope that the two of you have many happy, loving, understanding, special years together
I have the same problem!!! Not only that – my filter doesn’t even work! It’s nonexistent! I don’t understand what’s going on and it’s killing me. If anyone has any ideas I would be so grateful to hear.
And it’s not a scam in every sense of the word – it is connected to a reputable company whose popular online presence is still alive and wellSeptember 17, 2013 3:46 am at 3:46 am in reply to: At what point are you officially one side or the other? #983419
It’s an interesting discussion and interesting to note how everyone is bringing true points, with a positive or negative slant depending on their own affiliation.
Anonano does an amazing job of acceptance, tolerance and ahavas yisroel and more like him (her?) in kllal yisroel would lead to a lot less divisiveness…
two points I’d like to add to the table:
a. every person should feel strongly their derech is right, otherwise, why are they on it? respect others for their different ways of serving Hashem and then focus on your own unique derech in achieving perfection as a person and bringing light to the world.
b. I think someone mentioned but if you think about it you’ll realize there is more that unites us than divides us. I always marvel at a chupah – and I’ve been to many – how while the customs differ the words we say remain the same. It’s an incredible experience to attend a wedding between two very chassidish people and one between two completely secular ones in one night and hear the same exact brachos recited under each. Just something to consider.
Wolf: Absolutely! I hope you didn’t take it as any sort of criticism!! In fact I think your kibud av v’aim is commendable as I am sure my parents would have been so touched had I told them as soon as I know… It was kind of selfish on my part to keep the joy from them those extra weeks, when I think about it!
I’ve heard great things about Marine Park and absolutely love the Lower East Side but really came here to wish a big mazal tov to OP!! He and his kallah sound like very special people and I would like to wish them a lifetime of growth, happiness and success together!!!
I’m not here to give an opinion either way, by us each time it depended on circumstances. I just want to say (in response to, not in any way criticism of, Wolf) that the few weeks in between the time we knew and we told our parents, it was a beautiful time for us as a couple, sharing this special secret that no one else in the entire world knew about. I felt this way from my first child through my fifth, so much so that when one of my pregnancies slipped past me until I was in my fifth month or so, I still waited a day or two before telling my parents just so that we can savor our secret together…