Your logic is so farkrumpt, its scary. If you can’t afford to pay a shadchan $100 per date to marry off your dearest child, how do you expect to make a wedding which cost $30k – $60 k????????
Nonsense. I’d gladly pay for my daughter who is in shidduchim for 3 – 4 years to go out on a date. And I assure you that hundreds if not thousands of other parents with older daughters would gladly do the same