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To Mark Levin: How dare you compare non-Jews to animals. It’s because of that arrogant, self righteous attitude that a lot of people don’t like Jews. Nobody’s perfect and the frum world has a lot to work on. Better focus on improving your insides than judging other people’s outsides.August 8, 2011 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828600
Thanks Aries – you are right. I need to focus on my own life now. I was responding to people that thought I still lived with my parents.
Health- I got confused because there is a group called Naranon for family members and friends and Narcotics Anonymous – but it goes by the acronym N.A.August 8, 2011 4:44 pm at 4:44 pm in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828597
I want to clarify that I am an adult and I live with my husband. I haven’t lived with my parents in many, many years. I answered the question on this thread and then people started asking me questions about it. I think we can move on to someone else’s life now:-)
to jmj613- everyone has their own problems and you’re entitled to your feelings no matter what someone else has gone through. There are always going to be people with lesser and with greater problem than you and I.
Health what is Narc Anon? Why not NA and AA?
Ohhh I think you mean NA
YW – lol, u can’t be serious about Barney…August 8, 2011 12:01 pm at 12:01 pm in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828593
Health – my dad went to methadone clinics for 25 years and no, it doesn’t work. Of course he doesn’t want to be addicted and of course he is disgusted with himself, that’s always been the case. Therapy has marginal success and suboxone only deals with the physical craving, not the mental obsession and the thinking that dominates the addict. I think he took recovery seriously at some points. Either way, the onus is on him to take action. I just need to accept life as it is right now and not hope for a miracle because I’ve seen the same stuff for 30 years already. I am intending on going back to Alanon on a regular basis.August 8, 2011 5:09 am at 5:09 am in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828590
Ya, I don’t think he took it seriously enough. They wanted him to stay at least another month and then go into sober living. Instead he decided to come home and used 3 weeks later.
He’s on disability for Chron’s Disease. He spends most of his money on drugs…my parents live in a really dangerous neighborhood because they can’t afford to live anywhere else. There are drug houses everywhere. I can go on with this story but this forum is kind of public though we don’t know each other’s real names.
Lately there has been a family mess and I’m trying to stay out of it, albeit not doing such a great job.August 8, 2011 3:39 am at 3:39 am in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828586
He was in a long-term, Jewish facility about 6 years ago for 5 months or so. A couple years after that I think he may have been in rehab for a month or so, court ordered. He started using drugs at 16 or 17 years old. He is currently 59 so this has been a life-long problem. I don’t think he really wants help, although he may say he does sometimes. I realize that long term drug use permanently changes the brain. I don’t expect him to recover from this addiction but it would be wonderful if he did.
Yita..if ervah is relative to societal norms how can we determine what is/isn’t ervah when we live in a time where exposing oneself is natural and expected?
In my community there is no expectation of covering hair but it is common as well.August 8, 2011 12:05 am at 12:05 am in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828583
Happiest, do you have a support network?August 8, 2011 12:04 am at 12:04 am in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828582
Thank you very much for your response Aries. Health – he’s addicted to opiates and benzodiazepines.August 7, 2011 7:25 am at 7:25 am in reply to: What was the worst tragedy in your life (that youre willing to speak about) and #828576
The hardest thing in my life has been growing up with a father who is a drug addict. He’s been using drugs for 40+ years. Alanon Family Groups (a support group for family members and friends of alcoholics/addicts) has helped me a lot with my issues surrounding my upbringing. Therapy is helping me as well.
My food addiction has been a difficult challenge to surmount as well. Overeaters Anonymous has helped me in this regard.
Peacemaker, how do u think that it’s not negligent for her 5 year old child to play at a neighbor’s house whose child, four years her senior beats her up??? I think that if the neighbor’s kid is abusive, then the child has no right going there. I don’t see how the neighbors are okay with this and if I were the little girl’s mother I would go to bat for her and let the neighbors know that it’s not acceptible. Nine years old and beating up a five year old is a SERIOUS problem.
You are most definitely not alone. I am in recovery for food addiction. People don’t realize that anorexia is the other side of the food addiction coin. I have some resources for you. There are two books that have really helped me. “Food Addiction: The Body Knows” and “From the First Bite”. Both are written by Kay Sheppard. You can check out her website at Kaysheppard.com.
Support groups are vital to recovery. Check out the Overeaters Anonymous website oa.org. There are anorexic/bullimic focus meetings as well. There are tons of meetings everywhere especially in the NYC area. If you tell me which area you live in, I can help you find a meeting. There is no cost to attend these meetings.
Lastly, there is an outpatient treatment center that has a food addiction program. It’s called the Realization Center. It’s run by a Jewish woman. They have 2 locations, one in Manhattan and one in Brooklyn. Diane Schwartz is the woman’s name – she is wonderful. Insurance covers most of the cost.
You wouldn’t believe how many frum people are in recovery for EDs. Let me know if you have any questions. I can even give you my email address.