if you think your purpose in life is to study Gemara, then it can be frustrating to have to work 9 hours a day. if you see your purpose as serving Hashem, part of which includes learning Gemara, then work can feel like it has its own purpose, other than getting money.
Sam2 it’s from Rambam, Mishnah Horarios 3:7. As the Bartenua explains, “being obligated in more mitzvos, he is more sanctified than the woman.” but does that mean he as the sanctity to be commanded or that he is sanctified because he is commanded.
dumb law, some free country
the duties of the heart (chovovos halevavos) says he included in his book thoughts from wise gentile philosophers. he quotes the gemara which says we should learn from the gentiles in their good ways and distance ourselves from their bad ways (introduction to duties of the heart, near the end)
there’s no simple answer here