February 19, 2009 5:23 am at 5:23 am #639959
teen and moish:
Just one time, when you have a “small” yetzer hara to do something you know you shouldn’t be doing. something small that will not have a direct impact on the rest of your life. don’t do it. even just to be able to come onto the CR and tell us all that you battled succesfully (just think of what that would do to areivim) again, not something major.
BTW, when you open a package of food on Shabbos, do you specifically look to make sure not to tear any letters?February 19, 2009 6:46 pm at 6:46 pm #639960
kapusta, no. why do you ask?February 19, 2009 8:27 pm at 8:27 pm #639961myshadowMember
Wow I just read through this whole thread and I’m feeling so inspired!! Thanx aveirim, open book, kapusta, and everyone else that contributed to this, btw moish you inspired me also!!
True my teen yrs are b’h over but every once in a while the old urges will pop up, whosever been there knows what I’m talking about so thanx y’all!!February 20, 2009 4:31 am at 4:31 am #639962an open bookParticipant
🙂 i was mentioned as inspiring! that rly perks me up cuz sometimes i worry…or more like always… that im doing more harm than good even when trying to help. thank you myshadow!
& areivimzehlazeh & kapusta & moish01, et al: i am learning from all this too! thanx!February 20, 2009 4:36 am at 4:36 am #639963
you said a while ago that you dont do things l’hachis but I wanted to know if you will look out for the stuff that might not be pulling you. (I chose that I assume it wont be of great importance to you to tear letters on shabbos) but why not take something like that, which is definitely not habit and try to work on that. simple and not forcing you to do something you dont want (and btw, it’ll make some people here very very happy)February 20, 2009 4:55 am at 4:55 am #639964
thanx for the double mention, I’m happy those posts accomplished something.February 20, 2009 5:13 pm at 5:13 pm #639965
kapusta, i don’t even know if that’s really assur. sound like a really annoying one because the thought doesn’t actually enter my mind.
i guess if i wanted to i could always pass it over to a friend to open for me… 😉 (haha jk – if it’s really assur i’d feel like such a creep doing that…)February 20, 2009 5:50 pm at 5:50 pm #639966CuriousMember
BTW, this thread is awesome – I know I’m learning a lot here. Even non-challenged teens have a lot to learn!
I’m not careful about modeh ani the way I should be, but because of this thread I made sure to say it this AM (and I even had moish in mind!)February 20, 2009 6:14 pm at 6:14 pm #639967areivimzehlazehParticipant
B”H- at least all my ranting is accomplishing something, somewhere, for someoneFebruary 20, 2009 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm #639968
curious glad to hear that
moish and so what if its not assur deoraisa and only derabanan? its still a start.
and btw, that wouldn’t help you it would just be machati
to the general CR public: last night I checked the CR really late and when I was in bed, right before falling asleep, I did a kind of “bulk davening” for all the CRers with problems, ones that are off, need shidduchim etc. just thought I’d let you knowFebruary 20, 2009 8:06 pm at 8:06 pm #639971
gee thanks, kapusta.
oh and i think there’s a tshuva somewhere that says that ripping words is not a problem altogether. unless i made that up. no idea where you could find it.February 22, 2009 1:11 am at 1:11 am #639972
kapusta: your posts are amazing!!! thanx for davening for the cr klal!!!
over shobbos during tefillah, i had many cr members in mind in my davening!!!February 22, 2009 9:44 am at 9:44 am #639973
asdf that was great. I think I once heard that tefilos on shabbos are stronger (if thats how you would say it) and btw, thanx
moish I cant imagine that not tearing letters is just a bunch of hype over nothing. maybe someone could help clarify it.
This will hopefully appeal to your sense of guilt, but the entire shabbos at totally random times I kept on davening for you. I dont think I ever really understood what it meant not to be shomer shabbos until I read about your phone. I guess I never really thought about it before but it made my davening much stronger for you then it ever was.
I have a bit of a proposition for you but before you answer just keep in mind that this week is Rosh chodesh Adar, and remember what happened a year ago. Take for a month, or establish some other sort of time limit, and take an hour every week (when youre up) to live as a completely frum jew. That means brachos, davening, kissing the mezuzah, (maybe even learning) whatever it is, just the basics, remember this is not indefinitely, just for a month, and only for an hour at a time and for the rest of the time, continue exactly as you are.February 22, 2009 4:15 pm at 4:15 pm #639974
kapusta, what’s the difference between using a phone and playing ball in the park?
actually, if anything the phone is much more b’seter than playing ball 😉February 22, 2009 5:24 pm at 5:24 pm #639975
moish I was looking for an answer and I dont think b’seser isn’t too much better then b’galui but I’m not a ravFebruary 22, 2009 6:25 pm at 6:25 pm #639976
you know i’m not gonna answer you. i don’t have the energy.February 22, 2009 8:16 pm at 8:16 pm #639977
ok, you can not answer if you want but just admit that its a good proposition and its not indefinite so you can go back to do whatever you want. and btw, maybe you dont want to admit that you want to or something but I really think you do want to do it. something tells me your not so happy in your position right now and youre looking for a way out. btw, this was not intended as a challenger just to prove a point and this was the only way to say it. sorryFebruary 22, 2009 8:35 pm at 8:35 pm #639978
maybe i’m not 100% thrilled with my life, but then again, not too many people are. and it’s way better than before so i can’t complain.
i can’t do it and i can’t explain why not. it’s not something you’ll understand. physically, it probably wouldn’t be a big deal. but i’m still not going there.February 23, 2009 12:47 am at 12:47 am #639979
should I tell you that I basically am with mine? I’m asking you again, so maybe not for a month, maybe just two weeks. and btw, your title of “is always nice to girls” is in jeapordy.
let me just make one more point and again I’m not trying to challenge you or anything just explain something to you and prove a point. if mashiach would come tomorrow and he would ask you if you think you deserved to be saved, what would you have to show for yourself? I’m sorry the question is so direct but theres no other way to say it.February 23, 2009 4:31 am at 4:31 am #639981
I was thinking about this and I decided that I will respect your right to privacy (I dont know why) and if you feel that you cant right now then dont. but two points. 1. you’ll give the idea some thought and maybe one day do it. 2. do something that you will commit to. something other than modah ani (even though I’m all for it) that even in the middle of the day you’ll think about it. maybe making one a mezonos on all the “mezonos” products you eat or maybe washing on bread or whatever.
I’m waiting for an answer to this and my last post.February 23, 2009 4:39 am at 4:39 am #639982
kapusta, honestly how many people think they do deserve to be saved? are YOU all that good? why am i the only one that has to answer that question here?February 23, 2009 5:16 am at 5:16 am #639983
kapusta, i actually did respond to you post a few hours ago and i haven’t the slightest idea why it didn’t get through. i don’t even remember what i said anymore.February 23, 2009 5:28 am at 5:28 am #639984Belev EchadParticipant
moish PLEASE PLEASE forgive me for saying this so straight, but im just not the type who butters things up.
people who actively try to improve, regardless of how successful they are, deserve to be saved by Mashiach more than those who agree it’s a good thing to do but don’t try.February 23, 2009 5:49 am at 5:49 am #639985
I guess your just the lucky one 😉 ok, when I originally wrote the post I actually phrased it differently and I put in a thing over there to the CR public, but I took it out because it just sounded wierd. am I all that good? I dont know but I definitely try to be. no I am well aware that I am not perfect and I’m also far from good. I know that this will sound very much holier-than-thou but before I posted it I asked myself that question and I only submitted it when I had an answer.
I’m being rough on you today so I’ll try and make this one light(er) 1. no one can remain at a stationary level spiritually. You dont have to tell me or anyone else but just ask yourself if your going up or down? I think the answer might surprise you.
2.make yourself a sort of cheshbon hanefesh at the end of each day, but dont make it a regular one with the pros and cons. just tell yourself three things you did that made you or will make you a better person. you have a very negativa attitude toward yourself and regardless of it being true or not, a positive outlook will give you much better results than anything your getting now.
now I’ll let you chill a little; make yourself an oreo milkshakeFebruary 23, 2009 6:57 am at 6:57 am #639986
mods what did you do with my post? mod 39 I know your number (name) yes its 39, see? 39 39 39 39 I would write it 39 times but I feel bad for whichever moderator would have to go through it, and me who has to type itFebruary 23, 2009 7:24 am at 7:24 am #639988
kapusta: for some reason he likes trio’s better than oreo’s.$February 23, 2009 7:26 am at 7:26 am #639989
haha only the ones with chocolate inside. i’m getting sick of them, though. time for something new…February 23, 2009 7:29 am at 7:29 am #639990
qwerty good point I forgot about thatFebruary 23, 2009 7:35 am at 7:35 am #639991
how about a nice crisp salad? with trios as croutons? jkFebruary 23, 2009 7:36 am at 7:36 am #639993
moish: yay, that’s good, go back to oreo’s.$February 23, 2009 7:49 am at 7:49 am #639995
moish: so what’s the next fave food of yours????February 23, 2009 7:50 am at 7:50 am #639996
qwerty I’m waiting for you in the post here if youre in the CR threadFebruary 23, 2009 8:00 am at 8:00 am #639998
ok, i give up, kapusta. posted it a second time and it’s still not showing up.
seems like #39 isn’t too keen on a new friendship after all. (see guys? i told you! he’s keeping his distance already. i guess i’m just a bad influence by nature.)
I’m still new here. Can’t anger the higher-ups. So I’m trying to be extra cautious. YW Moderator-39February 23, 2009 8:06 am at 8:06 am #639999
i dunno. i’ll eat almost anything. don’t worry about me – i’ll find a new item to get hooked on 😉February 23, 2009 8:10 am at 8:10 am #640000
moish: that i wasn’t worried abt!!!February 23, 2009 8:18 am at 8:18 am #640001
moish that was your idea to repost it, I never asked you to please refer to earlier posts about the bad influence partsFebruary 23, 2009 8:18 am at 8:18 am #640002
mod39: that’s good, it’s always best to be extra careful on the first day.$February 23, 2009 8:19 am at 8:19 am #640003
hey 39, there’s nothing wrong with it! really. i read it through a million times – i’m not a complete idiot – i’d know if it were treif…February 23, 2009 8:20 am at 8:20 am #640004
kapusta, you know how to play chess? after one side attacks, the other side gets a chance to move.February 23, 2009 8:20 am at 8:20 am #640005YW Moderator-39Member
I refer the honorable Gentleman to my previous responseFebruary 23, 2009 8:22 am at 8:22 am #640006
moish just give in and repost it tomorrow when you can deal directly with the higher ups…and when hes sleeping
sorry mod 39 😉
No Need to apologize, and no need to resubmit. I left it for the other Moderators to approve. It was not deleted -YW Moderator-39.February 23, 2009 8:22 am at 8:22 am #640007
mod39: extra cautious, is good!!! hatzlacha!!!February 23, 2009 8:23 am at 8:23 am #640008
oh god. terrible night. first kapusta, then anonymisss and ames and now you. i should have forced my friends to go to the city tonight.February 23, 2009 8:27 am at 8:27 am #640009
moish quit complainig I’m being really nice to you the entire night, the whole time I kept apologizing and now I’m not even screaming at you anymore. (just give me a little more time lol)February 23, 2009 8:29 am at 8:29 am #640010
mod39: oh so nice.$February 23, 2009 8:33 am at 8:33 am #640011
mod 39 I agree with qwerty, that was plain nice of you…leaving someone else the dirty work…jkFebruary 23, 2009 8:38 am at 8:38 am #640012
kapusta: of course you agree with me, everybody does.$February 23, 2009 8:53 am at 8:53 am #640014
qwerty youre starting to sound like me I’m begining to fear for youFebruary 24, 2009 2:47 am at 2:47 am #640015anonymisssParticipant
moish, what’d I do wrong???? I really thought I was innocent this time. Please let me know if you feel otherwise.
Thank you in advance,
~a~ (lol, I signed my real name by mistake!!!!)February 24, 2009 5:25 am at 5:25 am #640016
anonymisss I’m with you, well partially, I also didnt do anything wrong and ames gave me mussar and moish agreed! and this is all when I’m not feeling well!
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