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  • #597537
    happiest
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    This is so sad for me to write because it was just last week that I wrote that I was doing amazingly well.

    Well, now things have changed a little bit. I have become obsessed with this website that gives support to people in similar situations as me and I think it is triggering me… making me fall. I know I just shouldn’t visit the site but I’m wondering if the damage is done already. Or I’m wondering if I’m just having some medication issues (since I have just gone off one of my major ones) and I’m in denial that I really need that medication for my health.

    I know I sound confused here because I am:(

    Well anyway, hope everyone is enjoying their day!!!

    #784955
    RedNails19
    Participant

    uuum…..is this really the place to discuss your feelings, medication issues….maybe it would be wise to consult your PCP/Perscriber/Psychiatrist..

    #784956

    happiest-

    Those are very serious and important questions.

    If you are currently taking medication, I assume you have a MD with a degree in psychiatry perscribing them – that’s who you should be asking, especially about meds and doses.

    Speak to him about your concern that this site is acting as a trigger. If it is, then abstaining from it is probably a good idea. Even if you have to stay away, folks here will keep you in mind and gladly welcome you back when you are IY”H up to returning.

    #784957
    happiest
    Member

    Sorry folks. Didn’t realize that it would be an issue posting that here. Will ask for the mods to remove it immediately.

    #784958
    happiest
    Member

    btw- it’s not this site that is the issue. It’s a completely diff site.

    #784959
    MDG
    Participant

    You can talk, and we’ll listen. BUT there is a limit we can help. Don’t look to any one thing or person to “save” you, except Hashem. This even applies in marriage. Your spouse is not and cannot be your entire social outlet. You need your friends, work, hobbies, etc.

    #784960
    gefen
    Participant

    Happiest – I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I doubt that coming to the cr is making it worse. Especially if this is where you get some support. You may have hit the nail on the head by saying that your meds might be the prob. you say you went off of one major one – please speak with your doctor about that. maybe u just weren’t quite ready to go off it. please take care of yourself and keep us posted. we do care here. HATZLACHA RABBA.

    Rednails – IMHO – i think you may have been a bit harsh on her. she comes here for support. it’s all anonymous – we don’t know who she is. so she feels comfortable revealing this info here where we can be supportive. of course she needs to speak with her doctor. but i truly believe we can help boost her spirits here too.

    #784961
    klach
    Member

    hang in there!! HASHEM never gives a person a nisayon he/she cannot pass. HASHEM desperately wants that every single person succeed in life that’s why HE made a literally infinite investment in each person.

    #784962

    happiest

    thank you for your concern and modesty

    this thread is just fine, there is no issue

    #784963
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    happiest,

    If a particular website is an issue, you should get a filter to block it.

    Of course, discuss your situation with your doctor.

    Good luck!

    #784964
    happiest
    Member

    Thanks all.

    It was a mistake of me to post this here. I was getting too comfortable with posting.

    Thanks mod for the reassurance.

    I will try not to post anything of the sensitive kind here.

    Thanks again and I apologize!!

    #784965
    RedNails19
    Participant

    there is no need for an apology

    #784966

    if you dont feel comfortable posting sensitive things here okay.

    but there is nothing to apologize for and please feel free to post again

    no one was offended by this thread in the least

    red nails was just speaking in your best interest that you shouldnt rely soley on the CR

    im not closing this so please post here some more

    #784967
    klach
    Member

    it’s very important to have someone to confide in who’s simply a friend and not a professional of some sort and not a parent or sibling, etc.

    #784968

    happiest-

    A few things:

    1) I’m glad this site isn’t the problematic one ?

    2) Stop apologizing! There is nothing wrong with anything you posted here.

    3) Please make an appointment to see the doctor, sooner rather than later. A change in meds or dose level followed by this type of problem needs to be addressed.

    4) We hope you snap back soon – refua shelaima.

    #784969
    happiest
    Member

    Thanks mod.

    Just to clarify again- I am not stupid enough to rely on the cr (although I love you all:) for advice in a situation like this.


    @klach
    , ur right!!

    #784970

    Just to clarify again- I am not stupid enough to rely on the cr (although I love you all:) for advice in a situation like this

    of course not!

    i know that

    (and everyone else should too)

    #784971
    gefen
    Participant

    happiest – like the mod said – keep posting here. nothing wrong with what you posted and there’s no need for you to apologize. it’s great that you feel comfortable here. those who don’t think you should be posting this kind of stuff don’t have to read it.

    #784972
    happiest
    Member

    Thanks gefen… still debating whether I’d put up anything ‘major’ like that again but for now I will tell you that I feel much better right now. No, I am not having mood swings; I am just dealing better with my not amazing situation.

    Thanks e/o for caring so much!! You can’t imagine how much it means to me!!!

    #784973
    smartcookie
    Member

    Happiest, I was so saddened to read this thread but I’m glad to hear you feel better now!

    See? The CR makes us all feel good!

    Please continue to keep us updated. We are all friends although we’re all anonymous.

    Hatzlacha!

    #784974
    gefen
    Participant

    happiest – glad ur feeling better! i hope it continues to get better!

    #784975
    bombmaniac
    Participant

    soliek i cant believe im the only one whos gonna allude to the river in egypt…

    #784976
    happiest
    Member

    B”H I went to my Dr today. He calmed me down a lot and I am now feeling a lot better and much more confident in myself. I am still not going back on my meds or to my therapist- we are going to give it a two week period to see how things go when I am distracted. If this doesn’t help then we will discuss going back to my therapist for a couple of weeks.

    Anyway, just wanted to keep you updated and to thank everyone who gives me continued support through these somewhat shaky times!!!

    #784977
    deiyezooger
    Member

    I’m glad you feel better.

    #784978

    Awesome news!!;)

    #784979
    a mamin
    Participant

    HAPPIEST; We are all routing for you!! keep up the great work!

    #784980
    adorable
    Participant

    happiest- I would love to know who you use as a psychologist. I know someone who could use someone like that- who believes in them and wont rush to say “you have a huge issue!”

    #784981
    happiest
    Member

    adorable- if the mods let me send it to you somehow, I’d love to tell you. My (former) therapist is amazing and very understanding. She also does DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) but she does standard therapy too.

    Mods, is there a way that I can send it to adorable?

    #784982
    adorable
    Participant

    mods- can you send me her info? not her email address (i dont want to know who she is or her to know me) but i would like the name of her therapist.

    #784983
    adorable
    Participant

    mods- yes or no?

    #784984

    I’ve noticed that whenever someone comes off a major mood-altering medicine there can be an increase of the negative mood that was being treated for about 2 weeks.

    #784985
    Health
    Participant

    adorable – There is a Frum org. called Relief, that actually recommends therapists tailored to your need. A therapist good for one person is not necessarily the best for s/o else.

    #784986
    adorable
    Participant

    Health- i know some vey bad pairs that they made….

    #784987
    happiest
    Member

    derech hamelech- I think you’re right about that. I definitely experienced it that way.

    Mods, please? Sorry for being such a pest. I just feel like if I can help someone in a situation like this then I would love to do all I can!

    Thanks:)

    #784988
    adorable
    Participant

    is there a reason why you are all ignoring us? so not ur type- ur usually so helpful

    #784989
    happiest
    Member

    guess it’s just not something they’re willing to help in:( Sorry adorable! Wish I could figure out some way to make this work.

    #784990
    adorable
    Participant

    how are you doing happiest? thinking about you.

    #784991
    grw613
    Member

    happiest: i also know of s/o who can use a good warm and caring psychologist. She has been doing some research, but really wants s/o known to have a good track record and s/o who can help (and someone frum). I guess this was really Hashgacha pratis that i read ur post. Hope you are doing well. I was very impressed to see the way you were so eager to help another person. Keep on growing (thats the grw part of my name-grow 613 -Mitzvos!

    Mods:( i am aware that I am making the same request as adorable and so im asking for the 2 of us) and if only if happiest is okay w/it if the mods can plz somehow send us the name of this psychologist w/o giving out email adresses or any personal info it would be greatly appreciated!.

    #784992
    adorable
    Participant

    the mods dont want to. they are not being very accommodating. i guess they have a reason but they are in charge so we have to just follow their rules.

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