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popa- anorexia is when the subject starves themselves and obssesses over the fact that they are fat even if they are not. they wear baggy and unattractive clothing because they feel they are fat and ugly!!!!!! its not just simply watching what you eat- which in the case above sounds like its fine that she’s watching what she eats- its completely natural for her to want to do that!
You are presumably responding to my comment from 10 months ago. The subject in question is a size two, and talks “non-stop” about how heavy she is getting and about how badly she is eating. Sounds obsessive to me.
Anyway, forget the 4th page of this thread. It is the first 3 pages that are entertaining.
Of course looks wins over intelligence. You can always talk to intelligent people that you are not married to. You can’t be looking at attractive people you aren’t married to”
LOL< true enough. But looks fade eventually. Size 2s becoming size 22s, guys lose their hair, and everything slows down. Intelligence, however, is a growing ongoing commodity, andhopefully lasts a long time. What is it Judge Judy once said, “Beauty fades, but stupid is forever.”
oomis1105: +1 (I love that line!)
Y’know oomis you ought to try getting educated one day. It just aint as simple as you would like. Unneccesary conversation with women is just about as assur as a chicken sandwich with cheese. Try perusing even haezer siman 21 for some entertainment. you might get a kick out of g-ds laws. (i dont actually think you will follow them, but you might find them funny.)
Ummmm, Bar Shattya: I think oomis was replying to something another poster wrote and just forgot to put it into qoutes…
Ummmm, dolt? She said true enough. That was HER words, not yours or anyone elses so dont try to take the blame. very noble of you, though.
Yeah, but squeak said it first…
*stomping away* Fine. I’ll let her defend herself.
Lol so the type guys rate their dates from 1-10 and then go back to yeshiva and compare numbers.
true enough, but that was on the last page.
besides i would rather blast oomis because i’ve seen too much of her insanities. I dont reeally have a handle on this squeak chachter, but i guess he/she falls in the same boat as oomis, which aint no compulment
Why is it that the person who is in yeshiva most of the year, gaining G-d’s knowledge, hopefully learning how to emulate G-d, and only comes here when he is on break, the person who openly and constantly insults others? I don’t care if it’s for a joke. To the average outsider, it seems that being in yeshiva turns someone into a horrible person.
One thing about weight. If a person wants to change their weight, it is doable, but it may take work. Such traits as a gloomy personality, pessimism, character flaws,and anger are much harder to change. So if weight is your problem, your much better off than someone with a nasty disposition.
To the average outsider, it seems that being in yeshiva turns someone into a horrible person.
Well, don’t be an outsider. Yeshivas are not this big mystery. Anyone can know what they are like if they want to. And anyone can choose to not know if they want to.
Captain dolt, you may not have a handle on my personality but believe me that I’ve got yours. You are right to start up with oomis instead of me, because she’s nice and won’t hurt you. I would eat you alive buddy, and have fun doing it 🙂
At least popa is funny besides being insulting. Your insults are your humor.
Yitzy99:
“One thing about weight. If a person wants to change their weight, it is doable, but it may take work. Such traits as a gloomy personality, pessimism, character flaws,and anger are much harder to change. So if weight is your problem, your much better off than someone with a nasty disposition.”
First of all-to people that are overweight, losing it is the biggest/hardest challenge. It’s not fair to make an assumption that changing an intrinsic personality trait is harder than losing 50 pounds. Second of all, if we go with your arguement- how come it doesn’t work in the ‘real world’ of shidduchim? IMHO it’s because a boy can tell right away from the resume picture what a girl looks like so if she isn’t “desirable” she’ll be written off. Nasty personality traits will only crop up once the dating process has begun.
squeak
Makes smalltalk with the 2 most intellegent beings on Earth
Captain dolt, you may not have a handle on my personality but believe me that I’ve got yours. You are right to start up with oomis instead of me, because she’s nice and won’t hurt you. I would eat you alive buddy, and have fun doing it 🙂
At least popa is funny besides being insulting. Your insults are your humor.
I think we now know who those two most intelligent beings are with whom squeak makes small talk??
Do we all agree?
Y’know oomis you ought to try getting educated one day. It just aint as simple as you would like. Unneccesary conversation with women is just about as assur as a chicken sandwich with cheese. Try perusing even haezer siman 21 for some entertainment. you might get a kick out of g-ds laws. (i dont actually think you will follow them, but you might find them funny”
That was unnecessarily rude, as well as a few other things. Mensch, apparently is not one of them. By all means Bar Shattya, do ALL females a big favor and refrain from any form of conversation with us (unnecessary or otherwise), even in the CR. On behalf of ladies everywhere, I thank you.
See?
I’m looking for rich, emaciated girls to date my brother. He is funny, smart, and learned, and does not smoke. He learns full time, and knows lots of torah. He is also a well liked member of the CR.
If anyone would like to add their names to the list, you can post your resume on this thread.
Uch darn. I’m B”H well off but not emaciated (B”H healthy!) oh well…Too bad! lol
ilove:
Sorry, I didn’t mean to offend anyone.
To give some context, Bar Shattya is my brother; see his above posts.
Why can’t we just set up a shidduch system corresponding to weight? If I spend time making sure I’m healthy, shouldn’t I be rewarded with getting set up with someone that does the same? Am I a monster?
yitzy99 – And you think people want to be overweight ? So why don’t they lose weight ? Bingo – it clashes with something inside! Ta’avah, Atzlus,Dimyon, etc. No different than breaking any other midah.
Maybe I’m just naive or wtvr but how does one know if they’re not attractive? Meaning most people aren’t models but how do you know that your looks would be an issue?
ilovetheholyland: if you do look put together and are not getting any chances, the problem is that you are looking for the wrong type of guy. Do you honestly want to marry a guy who sorta forced you to lose weight just to go out with him? Lose the weight for yourself, not for anyone else. Are you happy where you’re holding regarding your weight? If the answer is yes, go find a guy who feels the same. Branch out to other types of guys, maybe ones who actually appreciate a girl’s inside more than her outside. Stay happy and healthy.
Branch out to other types of guys, maybe ones who actually appreciate a girl’s inside more than her outside.
This is an idea which is often bandied about, that women would prefer that men appreciated them only for their inside and not for their outside. Or in this case, who appreciate inside more than outside.
I think it is a mistake to think that women do not want to be appreciated for their appearance as well. Appearance is a large part of a woman’s self image. Women care a great deal about their appearance, and want a husband who will appreciate that aspect.
Popa someone that never reads your posts is now looking at this and saying your shallow.
message to the girls oilom, popas not shallow. I don’t mean to compliment you there. just stating facts… and he cares about looks. girls you’ve gotta care about your looks you can’t just think that a guy will like you for who you are. to a certain extent yes. but the reality is you have to look good.
“I think it is a mistake to think that women do not want to be appreciated for their appearance as well. Appearance is a large part of a woman’s self image. Women care a great deal about their appearance, and want a husband who will appreciate that aspect.”
That applies to almost every woman I know.
message to the girls oilom, popas not shallow. I don’t mean to compliment you there. just stating facts…
All in all, I’d rather get a compliment with a caveat that “I don’t mean to compliment”–than an insult with the caveat “I don’t meant to insult”.
I agree with the idea that a big portion of a woman’s self esteem is her exterior. If it wasn’t, this thread wouldn’t be addressed. As a girl in shidduchim, i know it may be hard to balance the idea of caring too much or too little about looks. No one wants to feel that they’re just a pretty face or the opposite, that they’re not attractive.
I was looking for someone who wanted me for what I was/am and not for what I looked like ( I got rejected quite a few times cuz of my weight) ..Thats what I got BH..
once you meet the right person and you open your mouth all the physical ‘mishigasen’ usually are not noticed, and you are noticed for what you really are!
I hate Kofrim. Really. Also I hate ameratzim so much that i want to bite them.
Also I have a friend who is fat and some friends of mine were standing up for all the fat girls by explaining to him that it is his responsibility to date the fat girls because who else would. He said he didnt plan on it but I figure people would want to know that at least my friends are nice.
Also I hate ameratzim so much that i want to bite them.
This is because am haaratzim hate talmidei chachamim so much that they want to bite them like a donkey (according to R’ Akiva). And then, it is is ???? ???? ?? ????.
ilovetheholyland…i think u sound like a really great girl and i know it may sound cliche but sometimes its quiet for a while and then all of a sudden u get a bunch of offers…someone even called me the night before i got married (someone i had previously dated who didnt know i was engaged)…sorry too late dude!!!
anyways my point is, dont listen to the guys in the cr they are in some dream fantasy world like their fantasy sports teams.?!?! there are amazing guys out there who will see past ur weight and see the beautiful girl with all ur amazing middos.
a lot of guys are dumb!!! its just a fact and they want what their eyes see but it almost never ends up very well and they learn it the hard way.
anyways there are guys out there that arent so superficial and as previously mentioned u gotta find great shadchanim that work with u not the ones u chase…
i got set up by my cousin who knew my sister in law….sometimes friends and family are the best if they know both parties.
right i forgot the donkey part
the guys in the cr they are in some dream fantasy world like their fantasy sports teams.?!?!
Hmm. fantasy shidduch games. How would that work.
Do the guys get to draft real people from BMG onto our fantasy teams, and then the girls in the game draft people from BJJ onto their teams, and then we negotiate with different players for how to set them up?
Will there be alternative markets like SYAS and frumster?
This could be a winner.
a lot of guys are dumb!!!
Tell me about it. Almost every guy I know is dumb! I have barely met a single intelligent guy in the whole world!
Sometimes I feel like Me, Bar shattya, and sheep spleen are the only normal people left on earth.
hold up popa fantasy shidduchim was totally my idea!!!
When are we running the draft?
Popa, you are not making sense. Maybe you guys are the only normal ones, but what does that have to do with intelligence?
Also, once you say donkey the passuk you quoted is out. It only applies to people, as you’ll see when you ask your sister what the rest of the possuk is. Oh, I forgot, you have bar ilan. Thats as good as a sister I guess.
i never really fully understood the concept of fantasy football, baseball etc…so i guess we can start there…
ilovetheholyland
Mazel Tov!! I do find it interesting that you were complaining about how shallow boys are that they care about girls being overweight, yet you posted “HE’S SKINNY!!!! REALLY skinny!!!”.
Mazal Tov!!!
I am so happy that you got married and came to realize it all had nothing to do with your weight! I am a boy and I am 21 I totally understand the struggle you had faced because of your weight my sister was a fourteen…12…10…8..6 and when she got married happened to have beeen when she was a 6 but that had nothing in the world to do with it and I am skinny and I am so happy that I was able to see my sisters struggle (not that I am happy she struggled God forbid I would have rathered her not struggle with her weight but bottom line she did…So I am happy that I saw her struggle so that I can realize how important it is to look at a girl during dating for who she is on the inside not the outside bc once a person is married they will only come to realize more and more how important it is that their wife is a good person and how it only matters that she has good middot and a happy positive attitude… thank you for starting this thread bc it is so important and I wish u many years of happiness and haslacha i your marriage.
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