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  • in reply to: What a year! #2227558
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    Bsd
    Coming into Yom Kippur here’s some thoughts:

    We have a relationship with Hashem like a boss and worker. If the worker messes up, his pay can fairly be deducted. If he messes up too much, he gets fired.

    So our brochos in our new year are dependent on our work we do for Hashem with Torah and Mitzvos.

    But there’s a deeper dimension. Hashem is our Father too. So if a worker messes up, he gets fired. But if the boss is his father, he can express sincere remorse and intention on changing, and the father will gladly give him a new chance.

    A Father wants to help his child and always cares for him.

    On Yom Kippur, עיצומו של יום מכפר. When we tap into (through teshuva) the essence of the day, the holiest day of the year, which reveals within us how we are one with Hashem’s Essence, everything else external automatically falls away. This is the gift of the day where we naturally feel one with Hashem. Let’s embrace it and then bring it down to fuel the rest of the year with that memory and awareness.

    Because that’s where it counts.

    גמר חתימה טובה

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2224751
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    Finally mdd I’ll leave you with a question, do you
    learn daily a balanced seder of nigle and nistar (as appropriate) sefarim?

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2224750
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    Just so you know though, I learn many other sefarim through Chassidus. It quotes from all over Torah. I’ve probably learned pieces of sefarim that you haven’t:)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2224749
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    Mdd if I was obligated in the Mitzvah of Talmud Torah I would definitely make the time to have a balanced seder with a good chevrusa at least twice daily etc:)

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2224286
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    Square root- its part of the story told on yud Tes Kislev- I don’t know the source in the books offhand

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2224144
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    Qwerty-
    Yes the Alter Rebbes Neshama almost escaped his body (aka klos hanefesh) because he was happy to be moser nefesh for Chassidus (The ayeka story grounded him). His departed Rebbe and his Rebbe, ie the Maggid, and the Baal Shem Tov also visited him in jail. The physical hardships meant nothing to him. But to have a fellow Yid disparage Chassidus etc for an hour straight- that’s difficult!

    Arso- I never heard the misnageds name. Heading for the first time on this forum.

    Qwerty, As far as lashon hora, from what I’ve learned, if something happened in front of 3 people, it’s public and no longer lashon hara to repeat. In any case I never heard the name and that wasn’t the focus anyway…

    You may want to brush up on those halachos

    I never heard of the Kherson forgeries so I can’t comment there. There are haters who make things up as well. If you can send me a reliable source (accessible on the internet,) I’ll look into it at some point and then ask around if it looks legit.

    Some things I question people for years and look things up until I get a satisfactory answer;)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2224143
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    Yes definitely important to have a balance. I’m telling you- Hashem loves me. I opened my derech Mitzvosecha today and pretty much the whole page was quoting the Maharal.

    I guess some of the hesitancy on learning outside hashkofa sefarim on my own, is that unless I feel I have my own derech down pat (which looks impossible until Moshiach’s coming because there’s always deeper concepts referenced everywhere you learn within Chassidus Chabad, and I can’t even look all that up), I might misapply something learned outside.

    For example, The Rambam writes that Hashem’s essence is sechel (later in life the Rambam learned nistar and apparently said he would have written some things differently if he had known.) the Maharal says that he’s bang on wrong- as Hashem is way beyond any description.

    The Alter Rebbe clarifies that the Rambams description applies from Atzilus and below but not above that.

    So imagine I’d learn the Rambam and mistakenly think that Hashem is just the ultimate Wise one!

    I guess this would be similar to a litvak who has no background in Chassidus opening a sicha to the page where The Rebbe wrote that a Rebbe is Atzmus Umehus etc. With his non knowledge of Chassidus, he would very likely take it the wrong way.

    That’s why I like learning everything from within Chassidus because there’s no misapplications then. And of course because I find everything I need in Avodas Hashem within. Otherwise- I’d keep searching in the sea of Torah:)

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2224038
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    “ Who does a habad hasid love more ? a mechalel shabbat [even shana upiresh] or a frum ‘mitnaged’ ?”

    Ideally, we love every Jew equally, no matter what they do/ don’t, although that doesn’t mean we sanction their actions etc

    On a practical level- Chabad Chassidim feel closer ideologically to other frum Yidden, so therefore feel threatened by their attacks more (as I’m sure Vice versa). Therefore as a group we act more defensively when it comes to litvaks questioning us than a yid with pink hair and piercings etc

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223939
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    Emunas1-
    R Aharon is not my derech in Avodas Hashem but iyH when Moshiach comes (ASAP) and I’ll be able to devote all my work time to learning Torah (will I need to teach then as well, or everyone will learn things directly from moshiach (I know we will) without needing an additional teacher? Actually I know we will need additional Yoatzim so maybe teaching will still be a thing.

    Regardless, iyH then, I’ll have more time to devote to learn everything in Torah without forgetting it etc. (ASAP amen.)

    Until then, there’s recently been a project started to learn all the Likutei Sichos over 8 years. And that’s just likkutei sichos, not Toras Menachem, Sefer Hasichos, Sefer HaMaamarim etc. And all that’s just The Rebbes Torah!!

    And there’s so many Rebbeim before that I need to learn things in depth because The Rebbe doesnt elaborate fully in the sichos- I need to look up footnotes. And The Alter Rebbe is the source of Chassidus Chabad, everything links to him ultimately, and were encouraged to learn his maamarim, so basically, practically I don’t have time for sefarim that are not my derech, as I have a wealth to learn from and I get what I need for my Avodas Hashem. In principle though I have no issue studying other sefarim in depth if I had the time. I recently saw that the Maharal wrote a seder on geula. I’d love to learn it too. On my bucket list if I finish and apply what I have on geula already.

    I really would like to learn more Halacha in a regular basis- but I’m glad I started learning Rambam. In the footnotes it says what applies today or not, and regardless it’s good to have a background to know where a shaila may come in (as well as uniting with others).

    But yah. Hilchos shabbos is high on my priority list to review in depth (grey set) BH we have so much to choose from!!!

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2223940
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    Qwerty I directed that part of my part to Arso.

    Basically that part of the story is part of the mesora so to
    Speak of the retelling of what happened every year so it’s not forged…

    In any case, for context, the Alter Rebbe was still in petersberg when he was released (not home), he had given the soldiers the address of a chossid living in the city, where all the Chassidim were expecting him. The soldiers brought him there but to the downstairs apartment which belonged to a misnaged. The misnaged welcomed him in and gave him a cup of tea, but then started lecturing him for an hour over the changes he had made. He wasn’t interested in hearing a true answer, he just lectured the Alter Rebbe. Eventually the Chassidim realized what might have happened and went downstairs where they heard the misnaged yelling at the Alter Rebbe. The knocked/ banged on the door, he opened and said here’s your Rebbe, take him. The Alter Rebbe finished the tea that has been offered in honor of his host and then left.

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2223873
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    Fair enough qwerty. Arso maybe you didn’t know the Tanya was printed for the first time on chof Kislev so that’s significant too? And it’s part of Yat Kislev because he was only fully freed then, similar to yud gimmel Tammuz for the Frierdiker Rebbe.

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223758
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    Aaq everyone has bechira chofshis and many people did go off in lubavitch as well. However- lubavitch as a whole had the strength to uphold Yiddishkeit under the most adverse conditions. That was the point. Whereas the Alter Rebbe saw 100 years earlier that Chassidus hadn’t yet been given the chance to blossom and ingrain Yiddishkeit to such an extent.

    As to your second post-historical context is everything… what applied then clearly doesn’t apply now bH

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223757
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    Arso, sorry I didn’t explain myself better (wasn’t sure if necessary) I didn’t mean a friend with a spouse the way you’re describing. I meant it in a visceral sense- if you have an interaction with your spouse that goes wrong, what was your part in it.

    And to analyze this it’s better with a spouse because, once you know each other, they won’t get put off as easily by external things.

    But the way I’m seeing Rashi is that if you approach an interaction with yeshus- it won’t end as well. And if you want to improve, you can easily see it there in those interactions

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2223756
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    Qwerty thanks for the compliment.
    Honestly I haven’t heard of the Kherson forgeries and I’m not too interested in looking them up because it’s mainly irrelevant to my life today. I’ll keep it in mind though if someone does bring it up. Recently I bought a book and then heard that it wasn’t100% accurate. I’m a bit annoyed because I only want truthful books in my house and now I don’t know what’s true and what’s not. And it was a gift… generally, within Chabad historical stories are taken very seriously as far as being careful with accuracy so if this matter would come up, I’d have to look into it to see if your assertion is correct.

    Regarding AAQs comment, the Alter Rebbe didnt sneer this back at the misnagdim, he merely confided to Chassidim that having a fellow Jew interrogated him over Chassidus etc, was more painful than all the time in jail. That is understandable. He was a person who didn’t care for gashmius as much as things that were nogeia l nefesh

    Now, in lubavitch we learn that in the time of the Tzemach Tzedek already, there was peace between the Chassidim and misnagdim

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223525
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    Arso I’m sorry I missed your post. More next time

    in reply to: Shidduchim Between Litvish Girls and Chasidish Boys #2223521
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    Actually if I could sit down with a Ger woman, I’d love to wrap my head around that one

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2223513
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    Qwerty
    Interesting. I do know that 4 Chabad Chassidim were beaten to death by misnagdim in sventzian (see the making of Chassidim). The Berditchover and R shmelke and others were also majorly persecuted.

    There were no retaliations as far as I know. In fact, the Alter Rebbe famously wrote about not even whistling back after he was released (he was put in jail by misnagdim.)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223501
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    Emunas1, so glad you’ve learned so much Chassidus. Honestly, at my stage (and I’m not in a calm shul environment either,) davening is more a battle to stay focused, than a wonderful uninterrupted hisbonenus, for me, at this stage. I can’t say I’ve learned all the maamarim of the Alter Rebbe and the Tzemach Tzedek either- although I’m really getting into Shir HaShirim and shoresh mitzvas hatefilla. I haven’t yet touched the Mitteler Rebbes Chassidus yet (it’s very lengthy.) but again I usually only manage to do some in depth learning on shabbos. I wouldn’t mind learning R Aharons etc, but all the Rebbeims Torah comes first… as that’s essential for my Avodas Hashem

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223293
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    AAQ- it seems my post wasn’t clear- The Alter Rebbe held that the Neshama is more precious than the guf- so if Yidden would get it easier physically with Napoleon but all frei out because they were unprepared spiritually for the divisions between Jew and goy to come down- that would not be worth it.

    100 years later was a different story bH because the fruit of Chassidus had time to sprout. (Maybe mussar as well- I’m not sure the litvish history with the Industrial Revolution, but it’s working today, although for the sake of argument, it seems that the litvish path today is not purely mussar- that’s what I’ve gathered here. In any case not so relevant to the point at hand)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223292
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    Avira- excelled- I meant spiritually. For a chossid/ Jew to go and willingly open a cheder / Mikvah even though he knew he was probably gonna end up dead by a gun/ beating / Siberia etc. Is excellence in devotion to Hashem and Yiddishkeit

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223291
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    Arso, I had previously stated that I agree with you that it’s not important to know which label you have- but in order to reach the expectation desired of you in Avodas Hashem, you gotta have some working knowledge of where you are avoda wise (without sticking a label to yourself). I hope that’s clear.

    Regarding marriage- regarding having a bad marriage- one has work to do. Regarding your second idea of marriage- I don’t see that anywhere (in healthy marriages- I’m not talking about where one nods along to everything the spouse says because they’ve given up on working things out together, but behind their back they manipulate things differently etc). Actually, the source for this one is Rashi on Ezer Knegdo. If he merits- she’sa helpmate. If he doesn’t merit- she’s against him to fight. I think that’sa great depiction of the marriage relationship and I’m happy to give my comments if you’d like them.

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223290
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    Emunah1: as a side point, all The Rebbeim came in a successive line and were guided by previous Rebbe/im after their passing. It’s all one message and one Torah (and each Rebbe references all the way back in their Torah).
    If you cut it in half, you cannot grasp it fully.
    Obviously, not meant to discourage you from learning anything at all😉

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2223289
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    Emunas1:
    1) there’s no evidence to say you’re right and on the contrary- lubavitch today is centered around the Rebbe (pundits after gimmel Tammuz predicted that lubavitch would jump off roofs/ fall apart within 5 years/ appoint a different Rebbe)

    2) interesting about davening- yes you have a point there. But the Mitteler Rebbe said that Chassidus boils down to achdus Hashem. And if I could add- this isn’t about escaping the world etc but is accomplished by dirah btachtonim (which The Alter Rebbe says in Tanya is the whole point of Creation etc not only this world but all worlds etc.)

    So to sum up: Chassidus Chabad is all about Achdus Hashem as expressed through Dira Btachtonim

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2223285
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    Just to give context to my last post (for those who don’t get subtlety)

    A) I wanted to express goodwill
    B) I wanted to show the pity/ sympathy is misplaced

    Reason:
    A) I believe the Chabad questioners here are coming from a good place (they believe they’re defending Hashem’s honor/ Yiddishkeit’s integrity) and I appreciate that. There’sa story of R Adam Baal Shem who was given great honor when he was anonymous because of his geonus etc, but when his identity was found out, there were misnagdim who were ready to attack him with stones. He said that the stones were more precious to him than the honor the day before.

    Likewise… people here are uneducated on Chabad (you need to get into The Rebbe’s Torah and hear from people who actually interacted with him to assess properly) but I’m glad they care about Torah and yiddishkeit so I wish them all the brachos.

    B) I’m living up life bH (as expressed in the specific Brachos shared- (besides for menuchas haguf which is completely out of my control- but I don’t worry about it either…) and I don’t need the pity. I wish everyone was
    living such a life if not better…

    Ps. I’m a truth seeker and as noted did my research Prus asked Rabbanim etc on this issue, so that’s that. Ive examined everything mentioned and found one incorrect practice in my surroundings which I have recently asked my colleagues to correct. If something stands between me and Hashem, I give it up. There’s no torn etc

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222939
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    AAQ- the Industrial Revolution after the Russo- German war (we were against the kaisars as well) stated 100 years later. BH we had that time to prepare. Forced assimilation came with Stalin, and Chabad excelled there as it’s known… Because the tree had time to grow fruit (which was what Rebbetzin Devorah Leah gave her life for)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222938
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    Emunas1

    Obviously you know the entire Chabad disagrees with you regarding The Rebbe being current…

    And no, Ikkar of Chabad Chassidus doesn’t boil down to hisbonenus- if that were the case, we’d have mandatory hisbonenus times daily, and probably live a kollel life…

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222937
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    Finally- yes there are people so busy running around day and night doing things for Hashem that they have no time to think. Ashrei chelkom. If you’re in a stage of life where that’s not the case- Hashem wanted you to fill your mind and heart with Him as well- so it’ll look different

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222936
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    Arso- yea we’re not into being fixated on labels. But it’s important to know where we are in Avodas Hashem berech so we can evaluate our goals etc.

    Here’s one source from the FR:
    כשם שצריכים לדעת את החסרונות כך צריך כל אחד לדעת את המעלות שלו

    Also The Rebbe would use the expression alot ידע איניש בנפשי׳ה

    The Rebbe Maharash would say: the only one you’re fooling (if you want to fool yourself-ED) is yourself, and what’s the accomplishment of fooling a fool?

    If you feel stuck in your avoda and need help finding ways to grow- within Chabad, we have a mashpia (ase lcha Rav) and at least one good honest friend (ukne lcha chover.)

    Don’t forget your primary friend in this sense is your spouse- so see how s/he relates to you/ enjoys your company, if you want a guide for you middos.

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222929
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    Avira- taking care of the nefesh habehamis is a chiddush of the Baal Shem Tov (azov taazov imo- chamor =chomer haguf)

    The way it was when the Besht came along was definitely breaking the guf. So I hear from you that’s mainstream now.

    What I said about not taking it seriously- I meant its desires etc (at first glance.) but we take the refinement of the NFHB seriously, in fact that’s one of the reasons why we’re here anyway (The Neshama doesn’t need refinement.)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222928
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    Avira- I gather from your post that there isn’t one central message in the litvish communities (and btw I read that learning about gadlus haadam was chakira, not mussar, ? But ok) I asked because I’m curious to hear more

    there’s no chutzpa meant by my question to ask you to summarize the ideals/ message of mussar in one post; I wouldn’t ask you something I can’t do myself for Chassidus Chabad:)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222926
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    Great stuff on this forum, I’ll answer a bit at a time if that’s ok.

    Firstly, (Emuna1 and Avira) The Alter Rebbe makes clear that even aveiros in thought cause someone to be a rasha. He says that in 12 and also in 11(the rasha perek).

    But chazal said gimmel aveiros ain adam nitzol meihen bchol Yom. The Alter Rebbe specifies iyun Tefilla and says it’s not an issue to take someone out of beinoni unless he doesn’t refocus once he realizes he was distracted.

    My point was that in the gimmel aveiros is included slanderous speech- hence my question about intention..

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2222923
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    Yankel Berel I appreciate the sentiment of ahavas Yisrael behind your last post, and therefore I wish you (and whoever else wishes) to enjoy life the way I do (if you don’t already): to live with Menuchas hanefesh (regardless of menuchas haguf), menuchas haguf, that learning Torah should be your main enjoyment in life along with doing mitzvos bhiddur (in different ways but both deeply joyful- so that you want to find more ways to keep mitzvos bhiddur, that you be engaged all day in activities that give Hashem nachas, and have Him in mind no matter what the activity, that your children outsurpass you with their (serious) goals in Avodas Hashem at a young age, and that you feel a palpable excitement for Yiddishkeit to the point that anything else is beyond worthless, and finally that you aim to and get the most out of golus avoda, while preparing yourself and others for the Geula Shleima. All in a spirit of simcha. Ksiva Vachasima tova lshana tova umesuka!

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222793
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    Interesting convo here- spent my time on chai Elul today- so will follow up a different thing. Just one thought- Elul is Chodesh hacheshbon- just like a businessman takes stock of inventory in order to have a healthy business (Hayom Yom) How can you take stock if you are clueless of where you are holding? It doesn’t take very long to figure it out if your at all
    self aware. how can you take on new hachlotos if you haven’t sizes up where you’re holding? And of course it matters because the main dira btachtonim to accomplish is within oneself! Anyhow I’ll see your responses iyH when I get to the rest…

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222502
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    I have a Tanya question for all who are learned in Chassidus etc (Enunah1?)

    If someone speaks lashon hara UNINTENTIONALLY or, say, is lacking in iyun tefilla UNINTENTIONALLY,
    they do it without thinking, but as soon as they realize it’s an aveira etc they stop/ concentrate right away- is that nichlal in beinoni or below Benoni. See the third page of perek yud Beis (in the Hebrew print) look up the three vchulus and offer your expert answers. Looking forward to seeing.

    On another note, not thinking Torah in places you’re not supposed to is quite challenging. Even many songs have maamarei chazal. Any tricks?

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222498
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    Arso- I’m curious- if you’ve never taught how to get in touch with your Neshama, what did your Rebbe teach you at all? A Rov can pasken Halacha- that’s not what a Rebbe is for (at least by us)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222497
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    Avira- from the language you use (and what I’ve learned- although haven’t opened that many non lubavitch hashkofa sefarim), here’s my hypothesis about mussar vs Chassidus:

    With mussar you identify with your nefesh habehamis, and as such you must constantly humiliate yourself for your selfish motivations (selfish being the best of it). Nothing is pure etc. how that is conducive to true growth, you explain to me.

    In Chassidus we approach the same makeup differently. We learn to treat the nefesh habehamis like a clown that no one takes seriously- but slowly identify more and more with the true self of a yid- the nefesh haElokis. As such, Yiddishkeit it’s always becoming ever more joyful, because you can connect on a deeper and deeper level with your true self, ie oneness with Hashem.

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    *left

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    Just to add that in addition to my own research I checked with three respected Torah voices within Chabad (2 Rabbanim, 1 RY) 1 more meshichist, 1 decidedly not (less), and one towards the middle.

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2222467
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    Yankel Berel- I think Chabad lost face when they u turned on the Rebbe being moshiach- because Moshiach has to be from the living. As they said then. That did seem the straight path forward. However, Hashem has a different path in mind, and we are where we are now. We still believe the Rebbe has a good reason to tell us all these Moshiach hints- even if the straightforward path was the other way. We also know that (remind me the source) it will be a test to believe in moshiach it will be like holding onto a flimsy rope- and towards the end the rope will be shaken. But we’re also prepared. We’re devoted heart and soul to The Rebbe, but our Rebbe had no life other than serving Hashem, and klal Yisrael. So we’re not giving The Rebbe any more than he gave us for sure- and much less. An arrogant person comes across as arrogant- and people dislike arrogant people. If our Rebbe felt the need to tell us these Moshiach secret stuff, it was only there to benefit our Avodas Hashem, and bring moshiach much closer, since the geula is more tangible to us who live by The Rebbes teachings, than ever.

    Many Chassidim were uncomfortable with the intensifying moshiach sichos- we already have much to be proud of, and we didn’t want to become laughingstocks. But The Rebbe guided us towards our mission and let us with the keys.

    That’s my bottom line. Also that I heard on this form that to think The Rebbe is moshiach is kefira etc. so I spent time doing my due diligence in learning and researching the topic. You can find my posts with sources in the 5 potential candidates thread.

    in reply to: The final word on Moshiach from the meisim (hopefully!) #2222459
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    Btw a second coming is just a Christian as the idea of moshiach itself- ie it’s a Jewish idea too. Sorry you haven’t seen it. Rashi on Daniel, and also Medrash on how moshiach will resemble the goel rishon Moshe Rabbeinu, by first being revealed, then concealed, then revealed again. If you want exact lshonos I quoted them early on in the 5 potential candidates thread.

    The Rebbe also wrote in reshimos about Eliyahu hanavi (why should we expect moshiach daily if Eliyahu hasn’t come yet) we don’t know if he’ll come in the first stage of moshiach (when he’s revealed to those that know him) or the third stage- when he’s revealed to all. (Middle stage I think was fighting the wars of Hashem- don’t trust me, find and post it- haven’t seen it in over a decade i think)

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222458
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    If a person does complete teshuva- he becomes a tzadik, no? That’s what I remember the AR quoted in perek alef “v’im asa teshuva nikra tzadik gamur”

    But that’s the real type of teshuva where the person fully intends never to do an aveira again

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222382
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    Avira- respect to you for your honesty. It makes sense you would feel that on Yom Kippur which also reveals the yechida for those who tap into it (itzumo shel yom)

    To feel it on a more regular basis- Chabad Chassidus is open to you.

    Am I allowed to say I’ve moved past where I was in high school?

    Emunah- he would be midas habeinoni- ie acting like a beinoni, but he wouldn’t be at madreigas habeinoni-have the emotional strength to treat every aveira (including in thought) like turning on the air conditioner on a very hot sweaty shabbos. At least that’s what I gathered from Rabbi Paltiels explanation in sem.

    It’s not all or nothing. Tzadik would be like finding out you ate pig

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    I wasn’t in Lakewood. But I appreciated the achdus and ahavas Yisrael (which was why it was posted on a Chabad news site) and wanted to bring it to your attention

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222068
    CS
    Participant

    Right. So a beinoni moment is when you act like a beinoni in thought/ speech/ action for a specified amount of time using the trick The AR gives in perek 14 “b’omroi liliboi aineni rotze..,,, ki aineni rotze liyos muvdal vnifrad cvs meHashem Echad.

    Rso- if you learn perek tes in Tanya you’ll learn how to locate your neshamas voice inside your body and thereby identify with it. Not so difficult:)

    Good shabbos everyone!

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2222052
    CS
    Participant

    Arso I thought you’ve studied Tanya. If you’ve
    learned perek Yud Daled, you would understand how to have a beinoni moment… Perek 12-13 are Madreigas hebeinoni, perek 14 is midas kol adom.

    in reply to: Mods? Mods? #2222045
    CS
    Participant

    Thanks, but I took out the .

    in reply to: Mods? Mods? #2221967
    CS
    Participant

    Hi mods thanks for this room! I started two threads recently, The second I know for sure there’s nothing mods would be hesitant about- Did they get lost?

    no outside links

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2221969
    CS
    Participant

    Also expectations are important. I don’t know what your gedolim expect of you in the litvish world, but in Chabad you’re expected to work to reach beinoni. And recently I’ve added tzadik because The Rebbe upped the bar for this generation since our NFHB isn’t as coarse s as it used to be- and for me- I’ve heard one farbrengen in particular which gave a roadmap, so I realized I need to act quicker. We’ll see where we get but I find making it practical exciting

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2221968
    CS
    Participant

    Avira- did I ever say I was on a specific level? I said I have made a workable pathway to get there with motivational tools. As Rso says avoda takes time. But I find it exciting to have a roadmap and check off steps as the time goes by

    in reply to: Thought on Chabad #2221879
    CS
    Participant

    Yes we work for a lifetime. By high school I was seeing how many beinoni moments I could have, by sem i mapped out a path forward to becoming a beinoni, And recently, I’ve updated it to Tzadik.

    The key thing is motivation. When you’re in touch with your Neshama and on fire for Hashem, these steps are my fun in life. If not there yet, even my NFHB knows it’s worth it to keep pressing higher. I’d all you know it’s which middos are good and which are bad, it’s gonna be real tough. Because when my NFHB is playing up it really doesn’t care if it’s bad or good. So the key is motivation and winning the NFHB over

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