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  • in reply to: Is cs there? #1669201
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    Knaidlach if your wife is anything like me she got the idea to ask you from your unborn / nursing child who has an aversion to its mother doing strenuous work.

    in reply to: Tzniut Problems In The 5 Towns #1669196
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    My husband will say something in a respectful manner if he thinks there is something questionable about my dress/ appearance. And I appreciate it because I wouldn’t want to go out questionably dressed, and because he expresses it respectfully I want to take it from him. In general if you want to be taken seriously by your wife be pleasant / respectful. That’s always been the Jewish way.

    But it is a shame when men don’t say anything at all, in today’s day and age, because some women are unaware or they could use the knowledge that their husband is displeased with this way of dress. In a healthy marriage a woman wants to look good for her husband so that would be a strong incentive to dress modestly. Again, if expressed in a respectful manner.

    Also if a man doesn’t watch his eyes his wife won’t respect/ will resent his wishes for her to watch/ curtail her inclination for looking beautiful (which can be expressed in inappropriate dress if it isn’t watched.) Maybe that’s why some men are ‘wimps’ about not telling their wives about this?

    in reply to: Is cs there? #1668970
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    3 guesses

    My husband mops the floor

    in reply to: Is cs there? #1668940
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    It’s been fun. I have this project where I memorise tehillim and Tanya to the tunes of lubavitcher niggunim to help me remember it better. They way I always have words of Torah I can say in the streets or when doing housework etc
    Last year I databased all the niggunim I’ve used so I won’t keep reusing ones I’ve used already. This year I realized that if I work in advance I can finish memorising the same number of prakim as I’m turning.

    But it’s taking me some time because the nigun I have picked I didn’t know (Reb Michel Zlotchovers nigun) so I’m learning the nigun and the Tanya…

    But I think it’s worth it because it’s a very special nigun. R Michel was a Talmid of the Baal Shem Tov and he took his nigun from heichal hashir in gan Eden. He said whoever sings his nigun and needs help, he’ll come and help them from above.

    in reply to: Is cs there? #1668849
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    WTP I originally joined the CR when I had my son. Between the constant waking up through the nights and nursing, I found I had more time to spend on the forum… I’ve been a bit absent lately as I’ve been preparing for my baby and my birthday iyh (and finally got back into saying more tehillim daily which has been exciting) but probably will be more present by my maternity leave 😉

    in reply to: Is cs there? #1668618
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    Thank you 🙂

    in reply to: Is cs there? #1668438
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    Gutte voch! No I wish but I’m due soon iyh so I couldn’t make it this year. Thanks for the thought.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1663757
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    Syag I would say the same because this is my derech. However if I was in a derech that stressed kanaus above all else for example, it could be Hashem would be fine with it…

    That’s why having our Rabbanim and Rebbeim to guide us on our Avodas Hashem is helpful and necessary

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1663753
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    Coming from yud shvat I just wanted to apologise to chossid. I wasnt in a very gracious mood and your post irked me. I should have waited to respond until I could come from a place of ahavas yisrael instead of from annoyance. I’m sure the Rebbe didn’t approve my post. So I wanted to apologise for that. You have said some very good things.

    in reply to: girls learning gemara #1662753
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    Mr. Nu there are very valid grounds to strongly disagree with what you write, as the Rebbe did. He encouraged women’s learning in today’s day where they are fully educated in secular matters (which already teaches them tiflus) so they should have an equally strong Torah education, and can learn whatever they want. Well I guess they could always learn whatever they want – they can be TAUGHT whatever – even gemara. But again depends who you follow.

    If the tiflus quote applies to any Torah shebaal peh then the only ones who hold of that today are the Satmar.

    But obviously halacha and hashkafa come first which is why even most lubavitcher high schools don’t have a gemara class.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1662751
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    Chossid

    Approaching yud shvat abs bosi lgani how is it that you, who consider yourself a chossid (as evident by your username) are ignorant on the topic of moshiach and Geula? As you yourself say? Don’t you know that’s the whole Koch of the Rebbe??

    And then you follow that admission a few posts with this “gem”:
    ” (I don’t know why in the world CS opened this thread, and what her agenda is, and half the things she says are just made up, and not what the Rebbe said). ”

    I opened the thread because I do obsess over the TOPIC of moshiach and Geula (not necessarily about the Rebbe being moshiach, there is so much on the topic without that and I did not have that in mind starting the thread at all) as anyone who aspires to be the Rebbe’s chossid should. And I saw on some comments on this forum that people think when we say the world is in a state of Geula (which the Rebbe said many times sorry you’re uneducated) that we mean this halachically. So I thought I would clarify what it meant.

    Btw attacking fellow lubavitchers as “crazy” or “extreme” etc when they are clearly based on what the Rebbe says is a very silly thing to do for several reasons.

    I would advise you to educate yourself on moshiach and Geula especially as you consider yourself to be a chossid, before making silly statements due to your own ignorance.

    in reply to: girls learning gemara #1661840
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    Depends who you follow.

    in reply to: Shidduch Crisis: Women who earn too much #1661626
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    “CS: Where does that leave frum women who aren’t looking to marry a Kollel guy (or there aren’t any Kollel guys available for them)?”

    Depends on their values, but I would agree with you that (at least many) women dislike generally outdoing their husbands. Hard to respect and lack of respect for a husband does not a good marriage make. So it depends if a) they actually do earn a lot, and if they do b) can they find a man who makes as much or more or c) does something that they value more than high income.

    Some men also don’t like their wives making more btw. They don’t feel like the provider and protector of the family in that case. Others could care less.

    in reply to: Shidduch Crisis: Women who earn too much #1661548
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    Interesting op Joseph. I think there is some truth to this – that women can’t stand outperforming their husbands. Hard for them to respect a man who achieves less than them. The thing is women who value kollel etc. will admire their husband for his learning and not see their higher income as being better than their husbands learning.

    in reply to: Shidduch Crisis: Women who earn too much #1661549
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    “And really, if a woman has that much more earning power, who is going to raise several children, clean the house, and bake the challah?”

    I don’t think this is such an issue. The children should be priority yes, but again we have washing machines, dishwashers, freezers and more access to household help than our ancestors had. So that frees up allot of time. Also children go to school for most of the day. Clean the house – if you work you can afford help for the time you would have spent cleaning. Challa can still be made or store bought.

    in reply to: How do you think? #1661290
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    Square root: I mean outside influences/ logic that you
    feed your mind. Like I said, if you learn chovos halevavos on a constant basis, your NFHE logic will be strengthened. If you go to college your NFHB logic will be strengthened etc.

    Btw even though all three can and do conflict, because they have three different agendas, the point is to create harmony between all three. That is when we are at our best. I can elaborate if you’d like.

    in reply to: How do you think? #1660291
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    Sorry for the delay. My new hobby has not left me much time for the CR:)

    Anyhow, we have three different types of thought processes and viewpoints going through our mind on a constant basis. They are the nefesh hoelokis AKA neshama viewpoint, nefesh habehamis viewpoint, and the guf instincts.

    NFHE sechel wants everything for Hashem. Ie. Ahava should be devoted to loving Hashem, fellow Jews etc.

    Gevura should be devoted to hating whatever opposes Hashem, discipline to serving Him better.

    In contrast, NFHB sechel wants everything to revolve around itself. Ahava= self love, Gevura = hating criticism / disliking those who do more than you because they make you feel guilty etc.

    Guf instincts send up thoughts like I’m hungry, thirsty, tired etc.

    The sechel processor ie you, is the nefesh hasichlis which is neutral sechel. It takes in what you feed it, assesses the logic within, and based on that creates your emotions (which is what you are (on an external level at least.))

    Now you change yourself based on what you put in. For example, if you learn chovos halevavos and think about that for awhile, what makes sense to you, and thereby what you feel and then do, will be very different than if you immerse yourself in secular studies and college environment. Usually.

    The former will lead to you prioritizing Minyan, Yiddishe chinuch, honesty etc.

    The latter will lead you to prioritizing “making it” in the world, with whatever compromises it entails.

    And both are based on logic. Just depends which logic you feed to the nefesh hasichlis.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1658100
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    Well, CS asked on motzei shabbos if it’s worth her time. Judging by the answers it looks like it isn’t. Therefore I have allotted that time to better things 🙂

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1657386
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    Don’t get me wrong, I’ve very much enjoyed the discussion on this thread, it’s just that its taken hours a week to keep up answering all the feedback. Being that its so time consuming I just want to check that the time is not worthless, that’s all.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1657384
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    Gutte voch! I’ve enjoyed my week off, wondering if you’re still awaiting my answers to the questions left unfinished. If yes, I’ll set aside some time this week IYH to answer (at least in only a page or two behind.) Wishing you all a wonderful week ahead

    in reply to: How do you think? #1657385
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    With your nefesh hasichlis (which may or may not be part of your nefesh habehamis.)

    I can explain the process if you’d like

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1653746
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    Gutte voch!
    Two notifications/ updates:
    1) I’ll be not /less available till next week and when I am available will answer questions from where I left off

    2) I don’t comment on everything that comes up, especially when I feel other posters do a great job answering the questions. If you specifically want my take on it, ask me for it 🙂

    3) my smartphone is pretty much blocked to everything but the websites I get allowed and its a pain to allow them. This means that most things I want to reference sources for I either have to wait till I use my laptop which is filtered but to a lesser extent, or I have to paraphrase the source. But basically it’s not as easy for me to paste in actual source material as username does so nicely, and it’s important to me not to mistranslate or misrepresent any source I do write… Which is why it can take longer for me to answer. But I will in due course iyh…

    Anyhow just thought to let you know. Gutte voch.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1653214
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    TT is back. I thought you were permanently blocked or something. Interesting. As said I was born a couple months before gimmel tammuz so I don’t know much about what went on then chassidim wise. I have a question for you, username, sechel etc. How do you put together likutei sichos chelek beis p 518, and likutei sichos chelek lamed hei, vayigash fn 6?

    And TT did everyone hold of the Rebbe then as being bchezkas moshiach, or just Nossi hador moshiach shebador?

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1652812
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    But even in the past, the better teachers wouldn’t have to resort to it and if they did it was a last option. Have you seen the story of Yitzchok Shaul in the Frierdiker Rebbes memoirs? That’s education.

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1652811
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    Yes as I wrote above and as elaborated on by TLIK. In short, there definitely was place for this in the past but today’s generation needs to be reached with love. Now this does not mean no discipline. The Rebbe worked hand in hand with hanhola and bochurim had to listen to the rules. However they werent enforced with hitting as the Rebbe held it isn’t effective long term in discipline today.

    you might be interested to know that regarding chinuch the Rebbe had a pretty revolutionary approach that we should get the kids to learn for the sake of learning, not for prizes etc. There is a beautiful article by Rabbi Levi Goldstein on how he implemented this with a first grade class. I have implemented this myself in several situations. But I guess this is a sub topic so I’ll only elaborate if you’d like.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652597
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    Username:

    “OK. I’ll ask the million dollar question.

    Instead of hashing it out, let’s talk sources. Can someone find a source, any source, that mentions this Diyuk or argues on this Diyuk from before 1994?”

    Not that I am aware of but why would that matter? The Rebbe as you know was very into diyukim in rashi and Rambam as they were written with ruach hakodesh. Before gimmel tammuz no one cared to look too closely at the lashon because there was no need. But really username you know the Rebbe explained many diyukim in Rashi and Rambam even this Rambam. The one that comes to mind is the diyuk on the word bimkomo. That’s quite a chiddush to make based on a word, don’t you think?more than this I would say….

    Aside from the fact that the Rebbe said about the Frierdiker Rebbe that he can still be moshiach even after yud shvat.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652596
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    Sechel
    “As I have written previously, the Rebbe was not Chezkas Moshiach. He simply didn’t fulfill it. There’s no way to read the Rambam and understand otherwise.”

    Fine so if you concede on the “it can’t be according to the Rambam after gimmel tammuz” point, but now the remaining issue is how did the Rebbe fit bchezkas moshiach to begin with, I’ll address that. Like I said i want to work backwards.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652588
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    I was gonna post the yerushalmi and one other source (it was cut off in the picture but I can ask for it) but you beat me to it username. not sure why you write dismissively it was a typo?aside from the fact that we don’t eat fish and milk because of a typo and not even one in the gemara – what gives you the right to think that? This is gemara…

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652557
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    K cup as brought previously it is avoda zara if not within Hashem’s system. Ie the difference between the egel and Moshe rabbeinu was that one was that Moshe rabbeinu was a Rebbe (Hashem’s system and we’re all the same neshama etc) and the egel was an outside entity that the yidden came up with to replace Moshe. That’s why going to the egel to go to Hashem is avoda zara while going to Moshe to ask for both Gashmius and Ruchnius, and he then asking Hashem, was great (- provided they asked properly etc.) and any rebel against Moshe was a rebel against Hashem.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652553
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    Rso I didn’t have male support for that but thanks for the compliment (?). Just curious why is shtar eirusin more indicative of a male than shliach kiddushin?

    In any case if what you’re saying is true (you didn’t post the mm just said gemara) that the shlucho shel adam kmoso is retroactively cancelled halachically if the meshaleiach passes away, then I take that point back. It was my own. The shimshon point though I think still stands. (That I did have male support for if you’d like – a male sent me pages of a Sefer discussing it.)

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652548
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    On another note, but on topic, what do you all think of the nibiru theory connecting to the dorach kochav miyaakov etc as elaborated on the Zohar? Especially with theOumuamua discovery this year?

    Also apparently the rash of eruptions, earthquakes, tsunamis etc are also foretold in the nevuos as being signs of moshiach?

    Some are saying they are signs of the change in our planet due to the incoming planet / star. Have you all heard of this?

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652479
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    Sechel, chassidim thought gimmel tammuz wouldn’t happen for several reasons, from what I understand the shmos chov vov sicha being chief among them. Obviously they had no reason to study the Rambam in that sense as closely, as there was no need. Additionally, even today we are saying that the bchezkas moshiach has to be established when the person is alive. No one is negating that. The question only is what if the person DID fulfill bchezkas moshiach but then passed away yet their work is ongoing so you cannot say lo hitzliach ad ko? That’s what we’re discussing here. Note you didn’t answer my question. I really would appreciate a straight answer.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652481
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    YR I understand you and I see such quotes are quite unusual outside of lubavitch. My chief point is (we can argue sources today till tomorrow been there done that) that if people in Chabad were making it up as a result of gimmel tammuz, we would be alarmed. But that’s not the case. The truth is pretty much all those over the top quotes the REBBE himself made about the Frierdiker Rebbe, his Rebbe, the year after his histalkus. Including the Rebbe saying he is with us in this Gashmius world, running the world by being morer rachamim above etc. So we haven’t gone crazy. We’re just following in our Rebbe’s ways. And as the Rebbe was acknowledged as a tzadik by many other gedolei Yisrael (and yes there were those that didn’t hold of the Rebbe) we obviously as his chassidim consider him to be such, and as such, such quotes about our Rebbe aren’t problematic even if they would be in a kreiz where the rosh Yeshiva etc. would not condone such statements.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652352
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    Sechel:

    Me: ““Well we have the halacha that shlucho shel adam kmoso. Also, remember Shimshon, about whom it is said that he reigned for 40 years although he only lived as a shofet for 20. Why? Because his influence over the plishtim extended 20 years after his passing, and Torah therefore writes that HE ruled the yidden for all those 40 years. So as long as the Rebbe’s efforts continue, he can still be considered bchezkas Moshiach.”

    Sechel: “That’s wonderful, but that isn’t Koveah Halacha. Ma Zaroy BaChayim Af Hu doesn’t mean that the Rebbe is considered physically alive in the sense that if we weren’t continuing his legacy, he couldn’t be Moshiach, but now that we are, he can. Halacha simply doesn’t work that way.”

    I understand that Ma zaro bachayim can’t count as him being physically alive, because, (as NP posted on the 19 p thread,) a judge can only judge halacha by what his eyes see. So even if say, the Rebbe is alive, and is merely concealed, that doesn’t hold up halachically because halacha deals with what we see physically.

    But that isn’t what I’m saying. I’m saying that just as Shimshon is considered shofet 40 years in Torah, even though he only physically led them for 20, because his influence continued after his passing, so too here. Why wouldn’t that hold up? ( Note the Rambam never discusses what happens if the bchezkas moshiach passes away naturally. He only says two things disqualify: If he is unsuccessful or if he is killed.)

    Once this is clarified I can address the rest.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652344
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    Regarding the Rambam I would love to discuss and clarify- I do not know it so well myself but have been doing the research and curious to see if it holds up. I guess I should start with the last and work backwards.

    Rso wrote that shlucho shel adam kmoso is cancelled when the meshaleach dies.
    Question: A) What’s the source for that? B) Is it referring to future shlichus or even past ones that the person physically appointed? Ie if someone sends a shliach with a shtar eirusin for his daughter, and he meshaleiach dies before the shliach reaches the chosson, is it automatically cancelled?

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1652312
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    Joseph I would agree with you if not for the impression it makes on children in society TODAY. In the days where all parents spanked, and the king would kill whoever he wanted, whipping was used in society, it would be beneficial. But today as it is looked at as evil, the negative results far outweigh the positives… I guess a good place to start would be to reinstate whipping for adults for crimes… Why start with the children? Yes there is a rise in chutzpa and unbridled self worship in society because corporal punishment is lacking, but if the only place a child is hit is within the world of Torah and mitzvos, and usually because of Torah and mitzvos, today that just leads children to hate Yiddishkeit altogether, and once a child leaves there is no ghetto wall to push him back. So you’re very much risking his chinuch by using such punishments especially if on a regular basis.

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1652314
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    “Sometimes corporal punishment is the most effective teaching tool.”

    Just want to point out that hitting was never an effective teaching as in chinuch tool. It was an effective discipline tool. However education results in where the child understands what is right and wrong and why etc. Not when they don’t do something for fear of punishment. That’s not educating because the minute the scary teacher or punishment is gone, they’re happy to do it. And when it is overdone, they end up rebelling even if the beating stopped them temporarily

    in reply to: Ruach hakodesh poll #1652281
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    Ziongate
    “For any good deed that a person does by free will, a certain level of RH rests upon him,
    and prepares him to do a second good deed.”

    Fascinating. Thanks for sharing.

    “See Tractate Brachot on how a certain level of Divine Spirit rets upon parents when giving their
    child a name.. Orach Chayim in Parshat Vayeitzei, I believe, writes that this is true even of non- Jews.”

    Yes for sure I’ve experienced that. I also used to think that it was only for very very holy people, but now I think it’s more of a process… The more tuned into your neshama and Avodas Hashem you are, the more often you experience and the more concrete the experience is. Not necessarily all or nothing… Wanted to know if people have experienced this in whatever delicate manner it is – ziongate gave one example. I could give another three but somehow don’t think it’s appropriate to spell out on this forum…

    in reply to: Ruach hakodesh poll #1652278
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    Thanks for responses!
    Joseph:
    “Ruach Hakodesh certainly exists. The Chofetz Chaim had Ruach Hakodesh and there are tzadikim today that have it. (Sorry, my lips are sealed in naming any.)”

    Why? It’s a good thing. I don’t understand what the secret it

    “Common folks don’t have it. But some common folks fool themselves into thinking they experienced it.”

    They can aspire to have it by earning it by becoming
    a tzadik.”

    I suppose you’re not talking about tzadik of Tanya but rather someone who focuses their life around Hashem?

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652273
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    Also YR I get that it can sound over the top etc but when you look at the results you will see it is the truth. If it really was a problem and distracted from Hashem, then MY generation would have mostly forgotten Hashem cvs or Chabad would have broken down and joined other groups as many predicted. The fact that not only are we not decreasing, but we’re growing stronger shows something. And not only that. We know that it’s only because we’re connected to the Rebbe “over the top” that were the only group able to go out alone on shlichus and still stay fully frum, connected to Hashem and influence our environments.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652270
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    Neville I used that example because yr says he is breslov. And I meant that there’s nothing wrong with going to uman for rosh hashana to get inspired. A Rebbe doesn’t detract from Hashem or His Honour -on the contrary he deepens and enhances it.

    In a similar vein, I learned about a chossid who was asked (story quoted by the Rebbe in 1950) who do you hold higher of? Your Rebbe or Moshe Rabbeinu? He answered, My Rebbe because without him I wouldn’t know how great Moshe Rabbeinu really is…

    By connecting to a tzadik you realise how real, powerful and relatable etc Hashem is much more than if you didn’t.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652260
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    Laskern The Rebbe analyzes the various sources and comes up with four options:
    1) we build what we can led by moshiach, and Hashem will add whatever isn’t clear (the changes in nevuas yescheskel.)
    2) Moshiach will put up the doors to the BHMK that Hashem will build, as putting up the doors is like building the whole thing.
    3) Moshiach will build the physical BHMK and Hashem will send down the spiritual one and they will fuse together.
    4) it depends on our spiritual level. If we’re on a lower level, then moshiach will build it (halacha anticipates worst case scenario hence the Rambam). If we’re on a higher level than it will be revealed from heaven.

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1652163
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    YR I can address those but they’ve already been addressed many times… In short the Rebbe doesn’t distract from Hashem anymore than Rabi Nachman distracts from Hashem on rosh hashana…. The role of a Rebbe is that by strengthening your connection to him you strengthen your connecting to Hashem. That’s how its always been. Most expressions you will find “extreme” the Rebbe himself used in 1950 about the Frierdiker Rebbe in the year between his accepting the nesius and the Frierdiker Rebbes histalkus.

    in reply to: We need a new inyan for Nittel Nacht #1651789
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    WTP I don’t know. All I know is that we always emphasise increasing light and positivity, fighting darkness with light etc. Yet regarding nittel its the exact opposite.
    As is written in Hayom yom

    “The reason for not studying Torah on nittel-night,1 I heard from my father, is to avoid adding vitality.

    My father once said: Those diligent students who begrudge those eight hours and cannot tear themselves away from study – I am not fond of them. This (abstaining from study) applies only until midnight.”

    My personal thoughts are as above (based on Tanyas explanation on how assur things are assur- tied down to klipa which is why they cannot be elevated by brachos etc.)

    Also it would seem its the commemoration that matters not the actual date as like you said that wouldn’t apply.

    in reply to: Disappointing event for my son and family #1651468
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    Eli Y it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. A school or chinuch institution has to set standards or the majority suffer to benefit the minority. If it is a case of majority vs minority, the good of the majority wins.

    However you as a parent have the privilege and responsibility to develop your child into the best individual Jew possible. You have The power to do so as Hashem granted you your child and your abilities are a perfect fit for him.

    You can set up your own personal program for him that you reward him for learning something extra outside of school. If he sees this is important to you and will make you more proud than doing well in sports he will go for it.

    My parent had such an learning program for me and my siblings, and we learned and gained so much from it. (Shame I can’t specify further as it would give me away, as we gained things very unique within today’s generation.) You can even do this with the yahadus books themselves.

    in reply to: Disappointing event for my son and family #1651469
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    And don’t fall into the BT inferior complex trap – our kids will be less because I’m BT. Baalei Teshuva turned their whole life around for Hashem – they have a passion and power in their Avodas Hashem that many, even majority of FFBs do not. Allow that same passion to push you to make your kids the best they can be by doing more for their chinuch than the norm, the same way you sacrificed more of your desires for Hashem than the norm.

    in reply to: We need a new inyan for Nittel Nacht #1651493
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    Agreed. Normally we fight darkness by increasing light ie more Torah learning and mitzvos. However if the darkness is too dense for us to tamper with than we avoid it altogether as adding good will increase the strength of the evil.

    For example we wouldn’t eat treif food even if we make a Brocha and have in mind to serve Hashem with the energy as the Brocha here would just cause even more damage and wouldn’t elevate the food which is tied down to klipa. So too with nittel Chabad don’t learn as by learning we are adding chayus to the dark spiritual forces present at the time. (I guess the same reasoning applies to not making kiddush between 6-7)

    in reply to: Disappointing event for my son and family #1651226
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    BTW if this thread was started anyway, y’all should know that the chidon program is looking to welcome and expand to all frum jews, not just lubavitch, although it is run by lubavitch. (I know there are other great nationwide frum programs that encourage children to learn things on their own time such as shmiras halashon etc and I’m not negating that at all.)

    If you think you’re child could benefit from an international, fun, professional, prestigious competition on the knowledge of Sefer hamitzvos, and also the work ethic and the obsession with year wide learning it encourages, on the children’s own time, feel free to lobby your school to join the thousands of participants. To get a feel for it you can Google chidon competition 5778 and watch the gameshow to see these kids in action.

    (They have tiered the program with any kids getting a 70% allowed to join the Shabbaton and trip. There are higher lines set to join the international game show, and there is one school representative chosen to compete with the other school representatives to take a much more thorough written test whose winners win gold silver and copper medals.there are also plaques to win.
    Every grade learns different mitzvos and competes with their grade members. In the game show, each team is composed of tiered tables with the 4 grades so they altogether complete the 613 mitzvos.)

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1651247
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    Syag I’m sorry to hear of your experience. I haven’t seen anything like that and it definitely isn’t mainstream. Could be your lubavitchers are a bit insecure I don’t know how else to explain it. By us, my kids play with my neighbours, we share simchos such as sholom zachars and brissim etc. I’ve cooked for them when they have babies, and they sent over stuff for my sons sholom zachar etc.

    My husband davens by the Lubavitch shul on shabbos shacharis and kabbolas shabbos, but he’ll go to the neighbourhood shul during the week, and for mincha maariv on shabbos. He goes there every evening to learn as well. This is not unique (unless your live in crown heights and are surrounded with pretty much all lubavitch? Maybe your neighbours come from crown heights and are used to being among only lubavitchers? I’m not sure why this is)

    My husband will attend the shiurim in the neighbourhood shul between mincha and maariv, but for events etc we pretty much only attend lubavitch because it’s our community and the speakers etc tend to have a different message / mentality for the most part. But that’s not a “rule” just kind of natural. I have gone to one non lubavitch event as a friend brought me along and enjoyed it (one of those worldwide shabbos events).

    in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1651219
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    Not tonight due to the date but would like to respond to the replies on the Rambam. It would be interesting to flesh out. I may be wrong on some things- as I said this isn’t exactly conventional study within lubavitch – I would like to clarify it for myself as well.

    All you people saying don’t do mitzvos to bring moshiach – the era of moshiach is the time period when we’ll be able to serve Hashem fully (as in 613 mitzvos vs. under 300, all shvatim vs. 2.5, in eretz Yisrael with the Halachos of it with the beis Hamikdash etc.). So anyone who cares about doing mitzvos to fulfill ratzon Hashem should want to bring the era of moshiach asap so we can do exactly that. That’s actually what the era of moshiach even is!

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