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adorable- u mean wat do i do, im a secretary
supposedly working… 🙂
yw-moderator: if only it were so easy… clearly its not.
please read Garden of Emuna and Garden of Riches. written By R’ Shalom Arush.
i think after a few yrs a couple forgets about the other person’s needs and space at times. Divorce is an ugly mess and I personally believe that should only bc used if their is abuse going on. Hashem didnt put you 2 together to just land up divorced. I think your wife prob forgot the things YOU need and that nagging is something u cant handle. SHe needs to learn to express what she feels in a more appropriate manner. she should right down wat she would like from you lets say doing dishes instead of her complaining to do them right away she should write it down and give it to you and u should do it on when u have time but dont wait to long.. the writing it down on paper should go on for a few weeks untill she can express it in words without a nagging voice. and btw this goes for you too instead of blowing up at ur wife for nagging or doing anything write it down give her the paper and asking nicely on paper she should do it over time when both of u put effort in instaead of getting angry at one another a better outcome will be. and dont forget COMPLIMENT YOUR WIFE, she might talk to u dif when she hears compliments
I think thats alil too much and ppl arent going to forget this. ppl want to walk down the street and not feel sad everytime they walk down the street. supporting the Leiby Kletzky fund is a good way of not forgetting about him.
Deleting fb has nothing to do with Leiby.. thats a personal thing u want to take on being that u feel that ur becoming addicted to fb although i agree with the one that wrote to stop with the website u mostly browse alot…. i feel like if u want to do something in the name if Lieby then do something that will not only help you but help others.
Thank you all for your help. I really appreciate it and I value everyones input. I now have a clearer understanding of what its like. Thank you!
Thank you very much for that TIkkunHatzaot, I do agree its definatly easier to go to the kotel them from America, but how often does a person who works full time and has to come home to a husband and kids go to the kotel or go to kevurim? since people in Israel work on Sunday instead of having the day off like here when can a person travel to different places to remind them and allow them to feel why they live there? I feel that with People working 5 days a week full time and im not talking about the husbands that work and the mothers that dont, both husband and wife work when do they get to relax and connect with Hashem by going to the kotel? or is it just like living anywhere else but one good thing is that its Israel?
and one simple question to tie in with my qestion above what is it really like to live in israel when both people work on a daily basis? Im not the type of person that is ok with going to Gemachs so with me and IY”H a husband one day, 2 ppl working wat is it like? do people realy suffer finacialy even with 2 incomes like in America?
(im open to anyone answering these questions as well)
This is for TikkunHatzot: I actually am thinking of moving to israel but not so fast Im thinking about going there and trying it out and them making aliya that way… Im just curious how did you emotionaly handle giving up certain things like saying goodbye to your family and yes i will say this but luxery items as well? I so desperatly want to go back and i plan on it but i heard time and time again how its not easy to live there.
Yes when ppl move to Israel they give up certain things that in America are must haves.. how do u emotionaly deal with the detaching yourself from it? or does it go away once a person is already in Israel. btw to give alil backround of me I was in israel last year for seminary and came back and now i work but not one day goes by that i dont want to live there bc its an important place to me but its hard to say goodbye to family and things. anyone who wants to comment besides TikkunHatzot please do so. Im open to hearing anything.
Its a tough call. But i will say does this Rebbe know you personally? I have a family friend who follows their Rebbe but the Rebbe knows the family and all situations. If the feeling of shaving your head doesnt sit right why not go back to him and say that you and your husband are having a hard time dealing with it is there somehting else to be done. You cant do soemthing if there is a possibility your husband will have a hard time looking at you now matter what a Rebbe says its your husband that would have to see you every day. And please answer this does the Rebbe KNOW you and your husband well enough to make such a disition?