You can’t just “think that someone is right” that something is assur. That’s not how halacha works. You have to learn the sugya to have an opinion. Emotional decisions like that will put you in danger of following something that just isnt yiddisheit. Learn what the halacha has to say, define what the factors are, then make a decision as to if this case falls into the category of issurim.
What type of suffering are we talking? Surely you don’t mean physical?
What’s the definition of Yeshivish Sam2?