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i fully understand her problem. I would love to be able to give you more advice, but this is not the forum.
“Always There”–
Good for your daughter. NA is a great program. I had a terrible problem with pain killers and i recently celebrated one year at NA.
Those who have, have…..Let them spend as they wish.
spicy mustard
without giving too much info.. where did you turn for help?
What do you do if you’re out on a date and the girl slips on a patch of ice, do you let her fall or do you try to catch her?
Health…
Not everyone who goes to Atlantic City or gambles once in a while is an addict.
As with any addiction it is important to know the warning signs and take action before the addiction becomes too great. Obviously, the best way to avoid becoming an addict of any kind is to abstain from that activity.
Just for your information… Alcohol and Drugs are considered the same when it comes to addiction. Alcohol is a drug and those in recovery from one need to stear clear of the other.
Almost all 12 step recovery programs be it alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, gamblers anonymous follow the same principles. They are also very much consistent with Judaism.
I have discussed these programs with Rabbonim but would suggest that anyone interested speak to their own….
I have seen lots of other people from all walks of Judaism at the various meetings.
HaLeiVi, do you have any first hand knowledge of the situation to say it is ahuge stretch? I am not saying it is an epidemic, but it is a big problem.
Do you know how many cases of addiction are swept under the rug? One does not need to be sitting on 13th Avenue drinking cheap scotch from a bottle in a bag to have a drinking problem. Do you know how many of your friends drink at home during the week? who needs “just one” drink when he comes home to calm his nerves? And if he was do you think he would tell you? Addicts are not proud of their addictions. Drug abuse does not have to be heroin or crack. I was made aware by a noted askan of an incident last year where on ONE Shabbos 3 teenage boys who come from normal homes and showed no outward signs of being drug addicts were admitted to the hospital for abusing prescription painkillers. The worst part of that incident is that it was swept under the rug as to not shame the families.
It’s no longer enough that on Shabbos morning the men in Shul may enjoy a drink of schnaps with kiddush aftfer davening. We have seen it become a culture of knowing which are the best single malts. How many drinks makes you an alcoholic? What do the bar mitzvah age and teenage boys think? Is that the impression you want to give off? I’m not saying everyone has to abstain from drinking, but if it is becoming part and parcel of our society we are looking at a future generation of drinkers.
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please remember i am NOT an expert, just speaking from past experience……….
Do you hide your betting habits? If you are married does your spouse know about it?
Unfortunately my behaviors may have led to the demise of my marriage. If there is anything positive to come out of my story, perhaps it is the ability to help someone else avoid what did me in.
Fedex11204
If you are asking the question………….
Does it consume your day?
Are you always worrying about the NEXT bet or the NEXT day’s market?
Are you keeping it a secret?
If you think you have a problem…..GET HELP
This organization has been advertising on YWN
http://www.recoverythroughtorah.com/
There are also MANY qualified Frum therapists who can help you.
Addiction is huge problem in the Frum community, be it drugs; alcohol; gambling; pornography. Unfortuntaley most of the time we turn a blind eye to it because we have the attitude of “not by us”. Addictions are a sickness and need to be dealt with as such. Instead of thinking it can’t be, the problem needs to be tackled head first. If you think that you or a loved one has any sort of problem it must be confronted and dealt with.
Unfortunately I have some first hand expeirnece. Maybe this will be the impetus for me to share my story…look for a future thread or open letter.
MOD- I can set up an e-mail address for anyone who wants to contact me off site and ask about my recovery.