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Also – not everyone is a candidate for a lap band. I heard it’s only for people who are over 100 lbs overweight. People that are 70 lbs overweight won’t be covered by insurance but are health risks.
Momofsix – no one is bashing the lap band – however, I think you will agree that it should only be used if all else fails. Excercise and diet should always be tried first.
The big question I have is why is physical fitness and good nutrition something that frum people are failing in. The reality is that if you walk around to a typical shul you will see at least 60% of the people obese and 85% overweight. There isn’t a doctor in the world that will say these are good.
Why are we as communities not encouraging fitness more? We do all sorts of chesed but when it comes to this no one really makes the effort.
For example – if every shul organizes a maos chitim campaign and arranges for bikur cholim meals when it’s mispallelim are sick or whatever, then why shouldn’t we be pushing inter shul basketball games or frum excercise team programs?
Healthy diet and excercise is the right way – unfortunately frum lifestyles with every event centered around a seudas shlomo hamelech combined with our lack of time to be physically active makes it nearly impossible. But not undoable.
I know someone who when going to father/son learning program where they gave out free pizza would eat a piece of meat prior to going. When he went the desire just wasn’t there because he knew he can’t break the 6 hour rule. Using this logic – self control is possible – we just need to figure out a way to tap into it.
Lap band works – but enjoy walking around with a barf bag for the rest of your life
All these diets are great. The problem is they don’t address the folowing scenarios.
The accountant who has to work late during tax season and doesn’t have time to excercise.
The guy who has to commute to work and ends up staying late due to a deadline – and then won’t get home before 9:00.
The serious masmid who learns in the am and the pm for an hour. He has to commute to and from work for an hour each way. Where is his time to plan food, excercise, get the right amount of sleep, help with kids homework etc…
This is why people burn out. They try the diet and then they get busy and it’s all over.
Satmar rav ztl said you are allowed to protest zionism in the street. He forbid protesting together with arabs. Their agenda and his agenda were different.
Daas Zekainim Mibaalei Tosfos says on the inyan of Lot’s daughters – they said there is no one to marry us because they held they were meyuchasin.
I question whether this is not the same with some of the shidduch crisis. While it is true that there is definitely an issue with a disproportionate amount of boys to girls. However, what needs to be addressed is that many older singles tend to have very picky parents or are picky themselves and that no one is good enough. Not everyone is like this. But many. This has to be a problem that has to be addressed in the course of solving the problem.
I know childless people that have adopted and then had kids.
There comes a time in your life when you have stop learning how to learn and actually start learning. If someone can’t use a regular gemara either because of lack of time or because of lack of skill – then bh there is an art scroll gemara.
R’ Shneur Kotler ztl in his haskoma to art scroll mishnayos quotes rashi in mishpatim that says you should lay out th mishpatim like a table set for them. I think he knew about Ameilus.
My only critique of art scroll is that a person will not end up learning rashi as his first choice. But that’s a flaw in the person not the product.
Also – people forget that art scroll many times points you to the right seforim to delve deeper.
Yungerman – Ameilus means to toil. It’s a relative word and how you apply it dependss on the individual. Yes Art Scroll is a crutch -but some people need crutches to walk.
For someone who is learning all day then his effort would have to be go deeper or accomplish more etc… For someone who has no time and comes home beat from work amongst all the daily stresses – his defiition of toil is different.
1)To the person who approached their son in law. Just a question – is an art scroll shas now the standard gift. Suddenly we went from buying a $600 shas to a $2500 shas? At least I hope your not supporting your son in law. If he can’t make a lainus on a gemara by the time he is married then he should be working.
2)To those who spoke about ameilus. Why do you define ameilus as going deep in a gemara and breaking your head? Pehaps ameilus means a guy who worked all day in Manhattan, spent 2 hours commuting, comes home and helps his kids with their homework and still makes a seder at night to learn. That also requires effort.