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There seems to be a lack of compassion and understanding in some of the responses here.
I’d like to suggest that we approach one another from a place of non judgment.This forum is not about putting others down or proving who is right.
If it were about right and wrong, there would be a legitimate Rabbi answering, not anonymous usernames.
It is about listening, learning, and integrating different perspectives.A wise person can hold more than one truth at a time without needing to diminish someone else.
Wisdom does not require superiority.Each person experiences life through their own circumstances.
What you believe reflects your experience. Others’ beliefs reflect theirs.
You can’t expect everyone to see things the same way.Please engage with respect.
A frum feminist is often a deeply sensitive and perceptive woman.
She notices tone, subtext, and what goes unspoken.
She asked sincere questions and received shallow answers.
Or worse, she was shut down for asking at all.Her brother may have teased her “Sheloh asani isha”
She knows that the Torah itself carries deep respect for women.
She can feel it in the stories, the laws, the rhythm of Jewish life.
But she rarely heard that respect articulated aloud.
It wasn’t named.
It wasn’t taught with pride.
It wasn’t centered in how women were spoken to or about.She wants her inner experience to match the values she’s told exist.
She wants dignity that is felt, not just defended in abstract arguments.
She wants to belong without having to become smaller, quieter, or less curious.Look closely at the men who shape these frum feminists,
not only through what they say,
but through what they are unable or unwilling to hold when questions arise.The underlying question I’m hearing is:
Why are women’s behaviors more regulated than men’s?
Very valid question.