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September 22, 2010 12:05 am at 12:05 am in reply to: The Girls Parents Supporting #697816
Anywhere out of Brooklyn or Lakewood is considered out of town.September 21, 2010 6:53 pm at 6:53 pm in reply to: The Girls Parents Supporting #697798
Depends on how serious the couple is. You can go out of town if it’s that important to you. We did for a while, and it made all the difference. If Torah is important, you realize that things have to be given up for your ideal, and that’s fine. The problem is, immature kids today want everything that they grew up with and also want the torah lifestyle. It doesn’t work like that.September 21, 2010 2:23 pm at 2:23 pm in reply to: The Girls Parents Supporting #697778
Sacrilege: NO ANGER AT ALL! Just annoyance.
But if you look at a pattern on these blogs and other sites, you’ll see SOOO many people bashing this lifestyle, and after a point, you just feel like enough is enough. Live and let live. However, read my above post and realize that I did not notice that the original poster was so young and curious, thought its was just someone looking for a good juicy discussion…:)September 21, 2010 2:21 pm at 2:21 pm in reply to: The Girls Parents Supporting #697777
Another few points:
1. I didn’t realize that you were a seminary girl trying to figure things out. Thought you were a grown adult “picking” at what you don’t like about other lifestyles. It makes me feel better, however, it also worries me that after a whole year of seminary you still don’t know what type of lifestyle is right for you, and are addressing your concerns over here. That could give me a whole new rant about seminaries, but I’m sticking to the topic.
2. You can try to plan, however, realize that plans only get you so far. Don’t say you’ll work for x amount of years, you’ll get x degree and make x money so you’ll be ok. Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. You don’t know how long your husband will be able to learn no matte how mch money you make. This is NOT in your hands. Yes, do your hishtadlus. Get a degree. But don’t give yourself all of these time frames, etc… Life has a way of happening and Hashem has a way of making the most carefully laid plans go out the window. It shouldn’t scare you. But it’s the truth. You do your best and let Hashem guide you the rest of the way. You take it slow.
3. I’m done with this topic. It’s obviously emotional for any of us who have been bashed and commented upon for years. Please get yourself a MENTOR and discuss. Save coffee room discussions for recipes and tips/ideas. Not life-altering decisions.September 21, 2010 1:54 pm at 1:54 pm in reply to: The Girls Parents Supporting #697774
It is possible without support. There. Case closed. Problem solved. Been there, done that. You just need a JOB and BRAINS.
And if you need a COFFEE ROOM to help you decide what kind of future you want for your children, well, I have an issue with that as well.September 21, 2010 1:46 am at 1:46 am in reply to: The Girls Parents Supporting #697751
I’m sick and tired of all these people bringing up the same old learner-earner, live-off-the-parents argument. It’s usually either someone who can’t afford to support, or it’s someone who is working hard to make a buck and has a hard time with the fact that others are learning.
Ignorant people actually tend to focus on the issues that they hear about. I don’t think it’s any of your business if my husband learns or works. How we make things work (with me and my two degrees) is not your concern. And if my neighbor needs government programs to get by, well, so do lots of other people in this economy.
I’m not saying there aren’t flaws in the system- but that’s the point: there are flaws in EVERY area of our society, no matter what your lifestyle.
Torah is paramount. No matter what. If parents CHOOSE to support, or decide to do so out of social pressure, it’s their problem. Not YOUR issue to air out in public so that everyone will start dishing out horror stories of overworked kollel couples. It’s a beautiful life. For as long as we can manage.
Sorry if I sound mad. But enough is enough.September 1, 2010 7:35 pm at 7:35 pm in reply to: Bais Yaakov Boro Park Tuition Crisis #694837
A parent at my school actually hosted a package party in her house to raise money for tuition for a child – her child! Most people just knew that they were participating in an event to help a Jewish child attend yeshiva.September 1, 2010 2:20 am at 2:20 am in reply to: Custom or very good sheitles for under $1000 #739981
I have a Blush, too. I hate it. The cheaper wigs don’t end up being worth it in the end. Just pay big bucks and go for a Shevy.August 30, 2010 11:31 am at 11:31 am in reply to: Low Fat/Sugar Recipes for Yom Tov #693623
Stevia is actually not considered so safe anymore. I would use xylitol instead.
I could use a good salad, kugel recipe, etc…August 30, 2010 11:29 am at 11:29 am in reply to: Best Cookie Recipes- share yours! #694675
oops, got cut off…
mix together like a 1/2 c whole wheat and the rest white for starters. Also, lots of people substitute some unsweetened applesauce for oil but I dunno if I’d do it in a cookie recipeAugust 30, 2010 11:27 am at 11:27 am in reply to: Best Cookie Recipes- share yours! #694674
I can’t believe I am sharing this. Just for you guys…
11/8 c flour
1 tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp salt
whisk together in small bowl, set aside
in another bowl:
drop less than 1/2 c oil
6 tbsp light brown sugar
6 tbsp dark brown sugar
beat until creamy (I do it by hand)
add: 1 tsp vanilla, 1 egg, mix well
gradually stir in flour mixture
add 6 oz chips, 1/2 c chopped walnuts
wrap dough in plastic, chill for one hour
cut dough into 12 pieces, form into balls
bake 325 for 17-19 minutes, remove from oven and let rest for 2-3 min before cooling on rack.
This is it. Professional, real deal.
I usually make them with white whole wheat flour and nobody knows the difference,
mix togetherAugust 29, 2010 6:43 pm at 6:43 pm in reply to: Best Cookie Recipes- share yours! #694667
I always substitute oil instead of margarine. I never buy margarine at all. It’s totally disgusting and unacceptable for any responsible human being to use margarine. Especially if you have a family. The approximate measurement is about 7/8 cup to every cup margarine or butter.August 27, 2010 4:38 am at 4:38 am in reply to: Tzniyus During Exercise #693925
I don’t understand what the problem is. If nobody is around, women are allowed to wear pants to exercise. It’s not really possible to workout in our regular attire. All the men who are commenting are being waay to technical and not thinking about the discomfort. Gym classes and music are a separate issue, but again, it’s a sensitivity and personally, it should be the worst thing that a woman does. The world would be a much better place if the worst tznius/hashkafa issue we faced was gym clothes and beaty workout music. Please.August 23, 2010 1:08 am at 1:08 am in reply to: Internet Filters #693659
Trust me, I work with teens so I know how it goes. I don’t have anyone to worry about at home-just wanted to have a filter for myself to keep me in check. The k9 is perfect-it really works and I can control which sites to block and allow.August 20, 2010 7:22 pm at 7:22 pm in reply to: Internet Filters #693655
Done! So far it’s working amazingly well. Thanks loads for your help!August 20, 2010 1:42 am at 1:42 am in reply to: Internet Filters #693653
How do I go about getting k9?