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I have read through this blog and some of the comments here are quite rude to say the least……Have Compassion on a fellow yid
there are many scam artists (and this also applies to organizations-do your own due diligence), so cant blame the skeptics here
I have spoken to “Ari’s” Rebbe and have verified that he is truly a nitzrach and doing whatever he can to support himself. I also verified that hardly anybody has called
Imagine yourself nice job, paying your bills and your company gets downsized or you get laid off-it does not take long for economics to go downhill fast
Shabbat Shalom and Parnassa Tova for everybody
Oh how I remember that day…..I had just switched jobs to a new place that week in Midtown…I remember first plane struck sounded like a small plane accident and then the 2nd and you knew we were under attack…..I recall looking out of an office that had a view of the world trade center-I remember seeing the smoke-I went back to my desk for 10 minutes and went back to the office and the building had come down already….I recall going to the lobby in my building and buying bottles of water didnt know what/how to prepare…trains were shut and it was mass confusion
at about 3PM the trains opened and I took a train and people were kind of subdued……I was the only one on the train with a yarmulka….and then it started….I said to myself I guess this is what germany was like in the 30’s……some guy starts talking out loud about the jews and the money and power…..
I am going to do some introspection on this Sunday and would like to hear others……some thoughts do you greet your wife and kids with a smile……how is your learning…..is it really necessary to make that fancy out of budget chasuna…..help someone out of a job financially or encourage them…….every minute is precious
a few points…
1-and now for a dose of reality…..do you know what its like for a woman to be the only/primary breadwinner at a good job and have a family….its very tough….personally I work with one and its not a happy situation…..corporate america is demanding and if you dont work hard and produce there are 1000 other people who will take your job
2-dont take the attitude and complain we are not wealthy why cant we get boys for our daughter and then say but my son….ohhh he is special he needs major bucks so we will balance out
3-lets face it-money begets kavod, friends (as long as the check clears-yes thats a life lesson but true). You do need money to live, pay bills, tuition and its not cheap
4-sounds great in seminary, kollel long term, you know what that means or you looked at your teachers apt in Israel who is being supported-defrost a little so that you dont wind up marrying at 37
By all means to I address this to woking people and Kollel people be an oveid Hashem, work on your bitachon and emunah, work on simchas HaChaim, being happy with what you have (by the way many poor girls have big demands like Tory Birch, Prada etc so it depends on the person), always remember to contribute to the Klal your unique talents
I agree with zachkessin dont put the burden on all the employers to just hire me cause I am Heimish….the boss/employer also has a family, tuitions, weddings etc-make yourself into a commodity
Not to change the topic here but also if a a heimish store wants business treat customers the right way, be friendly, dont give a hard time if something needs to be returned (as long as it adheres to your company return policy)
Hope this is not deleted by moderator but I would like to go out of my way to praise the store “Everything but the Baby” as being mentch first class-I am not related to anybody there-I won something from a chinese auction and I was treated to great service as if a full paying customer and others have also had the same experience there Kol Hakovod-I would give them my business any time
i dont agree with gavra at work-i think mofes should be a last resort instead of an accepted way of life….take the job for 10 dollars work hard get experience look at yourself as more than just an employee and a can do attitude and you will either move up or on to better things…..sorry for being sarcastic but the “es kumpt mir” attitude of the generation has brought many people with a low work ethic…..every immigrant who came here with nothing worked hard yes sometimes 14-16 hours a day but they were happy and able to put bread on the table…..granted with tuitions today its very tough but if you think its not worth your shalom bayis/self esteem to take a 10/hr job there is always the lottery
10/hr was just an example but people pay more than that and yes its more expensive to hire a yid but so what …give parnossa to a fellow yid is one of the highest form of Tzedaka but question is for example as a manager of construction do you sit with your hands folded or help shlep the sheetrock, metal studs etc
by the way anybody out there looking for work that has a CDL license and is ready to work hard?
I agree….Bikur Cholim is a best bet…..
Thanks for all the comments. Really it boils down to determination of priorities. This is a constant struggle but we must all try our best to recommit-dont let the yetezer hara keep you down. What do you want your kids and family to remember? By the way I am currently learning the Choftez Chaim Sefer on Ahavas Chesed at night which I find to be a great sefer.
As far as having Chashek for learning, I was recently told the following by a prominent Rov from Eretz Yisroel.
1-Start a new perek in gemera that you like 5 minutes a day, make sure you review
2-In the bracha of Ahava Raba, pay extra attention to the line vdabek
3-give tzedaka every day to a pushka of R’Meir Baal Hanes