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there is a great sefer on all of shabbos, a one of a kind called “Minchas Ariel” Once you use this sefer, you will be so busy learning, that you won’t have time to post on YWN anymore!
it looks like no one actually had the time to help you waste time.
to the questioner: If you don’t mind me playing the psychologist,
You don’t enjoy learning, and that is the real issue, nothing to do with being chasidish or not. Take a step down from your pride, and ask someone who you look up to, to explain you HOW to enjoy learning, namely how to learing in a way that stimulates you.
The “culture” point is that today things are different to older times, where bathing naked was normal.
And what is wrong with raising emotional issues here?
I am basing my comment myself being a public figure, and being asked several times questions tht revolve around this issue.
Just for your info, I am a mikva goer. But I am heard enough to make my above statement
I urge you to read my above post again. Just because a male may look like another, does not mean he is comfortable in mikvah surroundings. It may be a cultural or emotional thing, and here is not the place to deal with it. Just please be aware that a large segment does not view the issue like yourself.
just like people think and feel different about things, this issue is no exception. We are not discussing a few freeks who are just crazy or a tiny tiny percent of people [ even that would be an interesting discussion ] rather large segments of our society just don’t feel good using public dressing rooms or showers or mikvahs. If you can’t relate, that’s fine, just know what I am saying is a fact.
I think that even though the widespread custom is a non private mikvah, more should be done for those who were not raised this way, or do not feel comfortable with this
i think that there may be another explanation.
sometimes it really drives the men crazy when women drive. that’s just how it is. but the woman doesn’t mind however the husband drives, for some reason. i’m not explaining why, just stating that i think this may be true.
i think you would do well to see the shulchan aruch in y.d. 246.4. where we see when the gemara that speaks about the thirds, apply and when not, and esspecially the rama that brings the opinion that the gemara includes all the categories, and see the shach also about the priorites in what to learn
thank you. if you don’t mind, i would like to add that in my humble opinion, each person on their level, should try to learn some time, without any distractions, family, phones, etc.. so he can be 100% there. it maybe not within everyone”s reach, but for they who can, it is really worth it.
a questioning jew- yes. all the way through. gemara rishonim achronim poskim until lamaaseh. maybe that is why i spend 8 hours on it?
thank you newbee for the raising the discussion. you have said very clearly that you are interested in hearing our feelings when connecting with Hashem. however i feel that it is important to bring to your attention the following point. we are not supposed to trust our feelings entirely. although they can be excellent for motivation and other tools, we are to make our decision on logic. this point is brought up in numerous sefarim.
and personally when i connect to Hashem, i sometimes feel absolutely nothing. ans sometimes i feel on top of the world. and sometimes in between. i hope this post helps you somewhat
i learn 8 hours a day halacha and around 1 hour gemara and hour an hour mussar, around friday shabbos i do some chumash and anything else that i want. i do not learn chassidus