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  • in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272635
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    CS, in reply to two of your questions:

    1. A worker does not have to DEMAND his wages in order for the employer to be over bal talin. It is enough if he asks to be paid.

    2. Blatant lack of tznius is worse than many other aveiros for a number of reasons. Firstly, as I have written, it is machshil many men many times a day.
    Secondly, as it is a public lack of tznius, it is befarhesia, and thus worse than an aveira done privately.
    Thirdly, when a woman who knows the halachos decides to go out in public in a non-tznius manner, she is announcing that she doesn’t care about the halacha. Someone who, for example, speaks lashon hara because he is ‘attacked’ by his yetzer hara, has not planned on doing so. I would agree that if someone stands on a street corner and attempts to stop passersby and tell them lashon hara, he would be just as bad. But that is something that generally doesn’t happen.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272638
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    CS in reply to my challenge to present a source that other chassidim explain the passuk צדיק באמונתו יחיה to mean that they rely TOTALLY on their Rebbe without putting in their own effort:
    No, its pretty well known, but I haven’t yet managed to learn all the chassidus outside of Chabad so I’d have no idea where to look

    It’s pretty well known… in Lubavich circles, because that is one of the straw men that they have created. Surely, if it’s pretty well-known you would be able to ask someone for a source.

    On my end, I’ve been careful not to label specific groups or individuals, and made the examples generic.

    Which, in a way, is worse, because your implication was that all other chassidim do these wrong things, which Lubavich allegedly does not do. Had you written about, say, Satmar, then it would have been lashon hara (actually motzi shem ra) just against them. The way you wrote it, however, it is against all other chassidim.

    Surely you would agree that when early misnagdim talked against the ‘kass’, and they referred to all chassidim, it was worse than had they talked against only one Rebbe.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272639
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    Sechel: מתנבא על משיח means saying prophesy about moshiach , does not say anything about claiming a candidate, I’m saying the same way we say a candidate, you say no. Neither are prophesy.

    Are you now claiming that your rebbe did NOT claim to be misnabe about Mashiach?! Just to be clear, I didn’t quote the Sefer Chassidim in reference to you or me. I quoted it in reference to your rebbe!

    I should just say “look who’s talking about shluchim am haratzim” at least those shluchim learned semicha and rambam – kol hatorah kulah.

    1. Many, many, many of those who ‘learned’ semicha in Lubavich do NOT know what they officially learned, and have remained am haratzim. You can claim otherwise as many times as you want, but I grew up with Lubavichers in that category, and I have met tons of others. Nice people, usually, but am haratzim who call themselves rabbi because someone gave them semicha because they had to, as the LR said that everyone has to get semicha.
    2. “Kol hatorah kulah” – really?! So why did the Baal Hatanya write a new Shulchan Aruch? I know the Rambam wrote that expression about his sefer, but clearly others – Rishonim and Acharonim – did not agree with that. Clearly even the Raavad didn’t agree, or else he wouldn’t have argued with the Rambam.

    I need to be careful for myself to get from a shochet a yiras shamayim

    Typical Lubavich garbage. I know a number of Lubavicher shochtim very well. Some are takke yirei Shomayim, but others have less yiras Shomayim than I do… and that’s saying something! I won’t elaborate on how I know about their lack of yiras Shomayim, but suffice it to say that even Lubavichers in the community have agreed with me. Yet they still insist on eating only Lubavicher shechita despite their being different shechitos with shochtim whom even the Lubavichers consider yirei Shomayim.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272289
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    I have always marveled at the way Lubavichers say, as sechel has, that all Jews are equal, and that there is no difference between a mechalel Shabbos and someone who keeps Shabbos, and the like.

    And despite that, on Shabbos in Chabad houses they either use mevushal wine, or they cover the bottle in case someone who doesn’t keep Shabbos looks at it. Still, no difference between someone who keeps Shabbos or someone who doesn’t, is there?

    And lets not forget how the shechita of many mumarim is kosher, yet Lubavichers only eat the shechita of other Lubavichers. (Actually, according to what we have been saying for the past months, in some cases that may indeed be shechitas mumar.)

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272288
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    yankel berel, I am REALLY angry at you! If you knew this quote from Sefer Chassidim why didn’t you let us know about it? 🙂

    Please don’t tell me you’ve got more ammunition that you’re keeping hidden!

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272287
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    Avirah: My assertion that shluchim say tznius isn’t so important is based on this thread and your statements that it’s not an ikkar…

    Sorry, but I don’t know why you are dealing with the assertions of shluchim. We have already learnt from CS that there is no vetting of shluchim, and they can therefore basically be am haratzim (I know a few – albeit not many – of those) and menuvalim (I know more than a few of those – seriously). So why is it surprising that they say things that we may consider apikorsus?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272286
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    sechel: Don’t ask kashas on anything before you learn the whole sugya!!!

    Right. And your rebbe did learn the whole sugya, and understood it all based on Torah Or and Toras Chaim. Which explains fully why he said that avodas habirurim is finished and it makes no sense that Mashiach hasn’t come.

    You can’t have it both ways! Either it makes sense, and the LR simply couldn’t understand it… resulting in him being mistaken. Or it doesn’t make sense, so don’t quote me Torah Or or Toras Chaim who say, according to you, that it does.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2272285
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    sechel: amazing can you translate it into English or you just say mashiach and decided it refers to chabad?

    All of a sudden you can’t read Hebrew?! It says that if someone is misnabe about Mashiach it shows he was dealing with kishuf, shaidim or the Shem Hameforash (when he shouldn’t have, as we see from the end of the piece) etc. Does it explicity refer to Chabad? No. Does it clearly include Chabad? Well, was not the LR “misnabe” about Mashiach.

    You are misnabe about moshiach the same way we are you say he’s not the rebbe.

    (And he calls himself sechel 🙁 ) Are you for real?! Someone claims nevuah to say he’s Mashiach, and others reject him, so we are all the same?!

    Do you Lubavichers go through a course which teaches you how to think crookedly? And if yes, did you end up summa cum laude?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2271824
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    Purim was BH great! Here’s what someone showed me (as far as I know Lubavich believes in Rebbi Yehudah Hachassid):
    ספר חסידים (מרגליות) סימן רו
    אם תראה שמתנבא אדם על משיח דע כי היו עסקיו במעשה כשפים או במעשה שדים או במעשה שם המפורש ובשביל שהם מטריחים את המלאכים אומרים לו על משיח כדי שיתגלה לעולם (על שהטריחו את המלאכים) ולבסוף יהיה לבושת ולחרפה לכל העולם על שהטריחו המלאכים, או השדים באים ולומדים לו חשבונות וסודות לבושתו ולבושת המאמינים בדבריו.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2271682
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    CS (to Avira but it should have been to me): Shlichus, as I’ve said, encompasses a vast number of people holding at different standards. It is not the top 10% of lubavitch. There is no background checks on someone’s standards before they are assigned, if they signed up.

    If that’s true that’s absolutely terrible! No background check on standards, so a shliach can be a total am haaretz, or a menuval, and he is officially recognized by the Lubavich powers-that-be as a shaliach.

    I’d never heard that before, but now I have yet another reason to think that Lubavich is rotten at the core.

    Again which sefarim all discuss this? Chabad? Other? Names?

    ALL seforim that deal with Avodas Habirurim explain that once it is finished Mashiach comes immediately. Even Lubavich seforim say the same. Please enlighten us by quoting a sefer that explains that there can be a delay between the two. I admit I haven’t learnt everything, but everything I have learnt points to what I wrote, and I would like to see another viewpoint… if there is one.

    The Rebbe said that Avodas haBirurim is finished because he knew what he was talking about. He said at the same time that it should not make sense, that it must be that what Hashem wants of us now is to switch to the avoda of Welcoming Moshiach.

    I think I get it. The LR changed the playing field because it didn’t fit in with what he – and he alone – knew. If anyone else did something like that he would be called an apikorus, but not the LR because, according to the LR himself, he knew what he was talking about. And therefore what the RBSO has done simply makes no sense. So it’s LR -1, RBSO – 0.

    Do you even realize what you are saying and what you expect us to believe?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2271198
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    sechel: Now before attacking chabad think of these 6 things. Very simple!

    I find it interesting that you were never upset about the lashon hara when CS wrote a number of times how others look at their Rebbes, how others tznius is only for show and the like. Or is that why you wrote “before attacking chabad…?

    And to address the point directly, it is a mitzvah to forewarn people about individuals and movements that lead others astray, and Lubavich with their messianism, claims to prophecy and nesius are doing just that. What it says in Kesser Shem Tov is not referring to misleading people or movements. If it was Lubavich would not have been able to publish a booklet about the Tzemach Tzedek’s fight with Haskalah, as well as a lot of the stories in the Rayatz’s Memoirs.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2270510
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    sechel to me: its so important to keep people way from chabad, where is the MESORA for that?

    Just for the record, I have never cited mesora as the reason that Lubavich is off the path. So use that argument with others, not with me.

    At any rate, you don’t need a mesora to tell people to keep away from something dangerous, and if you takke learn Chofetz Chaim you’ll see that it is indeed a mitzvah to keep people away from something dangerous. For all the multitude of reasons mentioned in this and earlier threads, I believe – and others do as well – that Lubavich is dangerous when they spread their hashkafos, including Messianism, prophecy and nesius. So it is a mitzvah for me to forewarn other. There is no need for me to try to have a kol korei issued, I have a chiyuv on my own. Anyhow, most kol koreis are just ignored.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269785
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    It’s not lashon hara if there is a to’eles, and there is certainly a big to’eles if it said with the intention of keeping people away from a movement that is dangerous to Torah and mitzvos. In fact, not only is it not lashon hara, it’s a mitzvah!

    Of course, if we are wrong about our claims, then it’s motzi shem ra… but we’re not.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269308
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    sechel: hachtarat meleh hamashiach…?
    i heard there was meant to be one yud shvat 5753, is that an issue? Whats the problem? Its against halacha?

    One issue at least is that it would have been only one group of Yidden – let’s even exaggerate wildly and say a million strong – crowning someone Mashiach without the consent of any other group of erliche Yidden. Not Ashkenazim, not Sefardim, not Chassidim, not Litvaks.

    Add to that the fact that in Shvat 5753 the LR was incapable of much movement or any speech. If you don’t think that’s an issue then I don’t know what your definition of issue is.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269307
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    I wrote: In ALL the seforim avodas habirurim is what is required since sheviras hakeilim, and when that is finished Mashiach arrives IMMEDIATELY. (Surprise, surprise! You can find all this on our erstwhile friend chabadpedia.)

    sechel replied: big mekubal! you see one line (not even in the source as you say from Wikipedia) and ask kashos

    I don’t mind ad hominem attacks, but you missed the mark by miles here. I wrote “ALL the seforim…” and you replied that I saw one line from Wikipedia.

    Suggestion: try to curb your anger when you don’t like something, and pay attention to what was said, not to what you would have liked to have been said.

    And what a pity that the mods didn’t allow your Litvak jokes 🙁

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269306
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    Menachem quoting the Chofetz Chaim: שאם אינו תובע אין חיוב לתת את שכרו בו ביום

    So I ask again. If a worker “asks” for his wages without making a fuss, is the employer not chayav to pay that day?

    I still say that תבע does not mean demand in the sense the LR said it, which was – and I mentioned this problem the other day – that we have to say that it makes no sense (c”v) that Hashem has not brought Mashiach.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269209
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    Avirah: We should take a vote on which of these egregious statements fits into the categories of “most dangerous,” “most out of touch ” and “most deviant from mesorah”

    That would be way too hard for me to decide. I read one statement, and I think that’s disgustingly dangerous. Then I read another and I think the former is nothing compared to this. Then I reread the first…

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269208
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    CS: Apparently you’re ignorant of the very early disagreement between the Alter Rebbe and his peers on the meaning of צדיק באמונתו יחי׳ה.

    He held that every chossid could do the work applying the tools given by The Rebbe, and they held that you had to keep up your inspiration by regular visits to the Rebbe to sustain it- ie the life comes from the Rebbe in a makkif way.<em/>

    (I know I shouldn’t be so proud, but I am because I knew צדיק באמונתו יהיה was coming.)

    Pray tell, what did his peers (I’m astounded that you consider any of the other talmidei Hamaggid his ‘peers’!) believe? Could it possibly be that a person can do what they want, not daven, not learn, not do anything else you have to do, and still find salvation? Isn’t that a new testament piece of garbage?

    I know that Lubavich has always claimed that this was a key difference, but I have never heard any non-Lubavich source mention this. (I should be used to that by now.)

    Can you give me a non-Lubavich source that tells us exactly in what way the Baal Hatanya’s colleagues differed to him regarding this passuk?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269199
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    CS: You’re quoting what you don’t do. That’s not called experience.

    I get the feeling that you’re not really paying attention. I’m quoting from what I and others on my side do, coupled with the results we have seen, as opposed to what others do and the unfortunate results they have to contend with.

    Yes if you say it’s fine not to dress tznius because you do Chessed, you won’t get good results. But we have an entire growing community who are trained to see ourselves honestly

    Honestly?! Lovely that you judge yourselves favorably. That way you will always consider your way successful no matter how many children of shluchim and others go off.

    Am I the only one here who finds it frustrating to be arguing with someone who seems to be living in a virtual (un)reality?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269193
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    CS: There are plenty of frum people who aren’t honest in business for example
    (Where’s sechel who should be complaining that this is lashon hara?)

    If they have a yetzer hara, and would like to be rid of it, then they have not abandoned any mitzva, which is the terminology you used.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269188
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    CS in regards to the clip of RAL Steinman getting annoyed at someone not wanting to admit certain children into their cheder: AFAIK, he said that there was one cheder for everyone in town. And this whole business of only perfect families allowing their kids to have contact was never a thing.

    Right. And in Europe someone who wasn’t tzniusdik didn’t even want to send their kids to cheder. So he wasn’t talking about those types of families. He was talking about families that weren’t on a level of the “upper families”.

    Just btw tznius is not an ikkar hadaas. It’s one Mitzvah, like lashon hara and all the others..

    No! It’s avizraihu de’aroyos.

    [The Chofetz Chaim] .. wrote that the Mitzvah of the worker getting paid on time doesn’t apply if the worker didn’t demand his wages. So we must also demand Moshiach or Hashem isn’t obligated either.

    Does the worker have to DEMAND his wages, or does it suffice if he merely asks (nicely) for them?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269172
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    CS: I find this funny. Where in nigle/ other kreizen do you find Avodas habirurim discussed at length that you repudiate the source it comes from?

    You find it funny, but it find the above very sad. In ALL the seforim avodas habirurim is what is required since sheviras hakeilim, and when that is finished Mashiach arrives IMMEDIATELY. (Surprise, surprise! You can find all this on our erstwhile friend chabadpedia.) Yet your source – the LR, right? – says that we’ve finished avodas habirurim, and the fact that Mashiach hasn’t come yet means that Hashem is (c”v) doing something that doesn’t make sense. I suggest that it’s not c”v Hashem who doesn’t make sense. Rather it’s the one who purported that we have finished avodas habirurim!

    Is it any wonder that we look at some of the statements made by the LR and are unsure whether they border on apikorsus?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269170
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    CS: Ah that makes more sense. You have all kinds of rough characters in all kreizen. Just because someone is a Lubavitcher, doesn’t mean they’re Chassidish (within lubavitch) and doesn’t mean they’re living past their comfort zone. We all have bechira chofshis- lubavitch or not.

    Are you intentionally missing the point? They are official shluchim, and they post pictures which, at times, have shown then doing things that are clearly against Shulchan Aruch (I’m talking about the area of tznius). What does bechira chofshis have to do with it? They should be told to stop or ‘dregistered” from Shlichus. Would you be ok with official shluchim posting pictures of themselves driving on Shabbos? Why is this any different?

    <emRegarding the Nevuah point, I’ve never heard misa video shomayim or otherwise discussed by anyone in lubavitch- in either direction. I know there’s a whole section in Rambam discussing Nevuah, but I haven’t learned it in depth, nor do I know if that’s the accepted Halacha lmaase. As I’ve never heard it mentioned within lubavitch, I’m going to leave it at that.

    It’s halacha lemaaseh because the Rambam writes it in Mishne Torah, just as the rules for Mashiach are halacha lemaaseh because the Rambam writes them in Mishne Torah. That was always the official Lubavich line. Oh, I forgot. We pick and choose…

    Btw, I especially liked “I’m going to leave it at that.” How nice of you.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2269037
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    CS: She isn’t doing Chessed because she isn’t tznius- her Chessed is an expression of her Neshama…

    The point being discussed in this story is not the way you should feel about the woman, it’s the way you’re being mechanech your kids. When an adult sees someone not-tzniusidk doing some great chesed – or a similar scenario – he can look at the good on its own. But your daughter doesn’t work that way. She sees everything, and as much as you may want to think that she thinks like you, and is discerning, she is much more impressionable. Any comment you make that could be taken by your daughter as condoning the non-tznius – even though you certainly have no intention of condoning it – may be taken by her as condoning it.

    That’s why you have to ALWAYS be negative about the aspect you don’t want your daughter to accept. In decades of dealing with young people I have seen many people go completely off R”L, and many go partly off – some of them relatives, unfortunately – and it is nearly always because of parents/family expressing the “good side” of the person who is not frum.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2268987
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    tb: <emthe navi sheker gets Mitah be beit din .
    not listening to navi emet is bidei shamayim.

    Thanks. I figured I’d get it wrong from memory… and I did.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2268748
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    CS: I must say, something is very odd. Lubavitch has spoken this talk in earlier years, how Peilischer Chasidim make it all about the Rebbe but in Lubavitch the Chasidim do the work and the Rebbe is just the teacher.

    Have you ever heard of a straw man argument? If you haven’t here is the definition: an intentionally misrepresented proposition that is set up because it is easier to defeat than an opponent’s real argument.

    In simple terms, rather than arguing with the facts, you represent the facts in a manner which makes it easy for you to dispute them.

    “Peilisher chassidim” and their beliefs are something invented by Lubavich, so that Lubavich can say, “We are much better.” I know of no “Peilisher chassidim” who have ever said that the Rebbe is the one who does all the work!

    But Lubavich is no stranger to straw man arguments. Just read the Memoirs of the Rayatz and see how the whole Litvishe world is represensted. Basically, stupid shallow people who thought they were tzaddikim.

    It’s the same with mussar. Everyone in Lubavich knows that mussar seforim just put you down, while chassidus lifts you up. Strange because none of the mussar seforim I learn have ever put me down. Can you show me, for example, one place in Orchos Tzaddikim that puts you down?

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2268746
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    CS: I saw Rav Shteinman A”H, say that such an attitude is pure gaava, and he or someone else litvish shared that there was no such thing in the cheders of pre war Europe.

    I saw that clip, and as far as I remember it wasn’t about kids whose parents aren’t tzniusdik or who didn’t keep important ikarei hadas. It was about kids who weren’t top in learning and maybe also in behavior. If I’m wrong, please show me where I can see that clip.

    I suppose this litvak didn’t know the chofetz chaim was the same:)

    The Chofetz Chaim demanded Mashiach?! Do you have a source for that?

    To Avirah who wrote “One should not feel that they are frum if they abandon mitzvos, even one of them” you replied: So you keep all the mitzvos perfectly? You never fail at even one of hilchos shabbos? Shmiras einayim? Lashon hara? Etc etc?

    No. We frum people do lots of aveiros, at least I do, Rachmono litzlon, but we do not ‘abandon’ even one of them. We are nichshal and hope to be better. If someone, on the other hand, marries a shiksa, he is abandoning a mitzva, not just being nichshal.

    Why do you think emphasizing the negative is better and produces better results?

    From literally decades of experience with kids and young adults: it works! When a kid sees that the person does something blatantly wrong, e.g. doesn’t dress appropriately, and you stress that the person has so many good middos, the kid more often than not understands that the good deeds are mechaper on the bad, and for a kid to think that is terrible and extremely harmful.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2268733
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    CS: Interesting. Why did your relatives become lubavitch?

    They were born Lubavich and have never strayed from it.

    what I’m saying is, if I proclaim I have Nevuah, and say it was true, you wouldn’t be chayav misa for doubting me- it would need some sort of Rabbinic seal of approval.

    If you proclaim Nevuah you have to prove it by predicting exact occurrences (unless, as far as I remember, another known Navi declares you a Navi). If someone can’t, he is, I believe, chayav misa bidei Shamayim. If someone can, then someone who doesn’t listen to him is chayav. I don’t think there’s any halfway.

    The Rebbe told us all the sparks have been elevated already

    That has always bothered me. If ALL the sparks have been elevated, then Mashiach should have come. I know the LR said that it therefore makes absolutely no sense that Mashiach hasn’t come, but to me, and those with whom I have discussed it, that sounds like nonsense at the very least, and apikorsus at the very worst.

    Unless you live in Israel I find this hard to believe that someone comes up to you and starts off with this

    I have had it happen on three continents!

    I’m sorry that this has been your experience. Ironic considering your relatives aren’t Chassidish by your descriptions.

    The relatives I was talking about in the story about their Chabad House, and the people I have sat with at simchos, are not connected.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2268250
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    sechel to me: demanding moshiach – like we’re going to hashem and threatening him? Like the dor haflaga that’s the accusation? I don’t see how that even makes sense.

    We’re not discussing what anyone on this thread said about “we want Mashiach now”. We were talking about what the LR said (and I remember it being said) about someone complaining about demanding Mashiach, and the LR did indeed say we should demand Mashiach.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2268249
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    sechel: Tznius: would having a live Rebbe fix the issue? You guys have so many compliments on our Rebbe, now you say the issue is we don’t have a live Rebbe?!

    If you had a live rebbe there would be a definite chance that he would lay down some rules. A dead rebbe can’t lay down rules.

    It’s like the internet. Other chatzeiros have rules about internet usage that originate from their rebbes. Lubavich only has rules suggested by rabbis and mashpi’im.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2268248
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    CS: With my daughter, I agreed that the woman who visited was not dressed up to par, for the sake of clarity, but then taught her how to view the positive. This is how we were taught and how we uplift and are uplifted. That’s how lubavitch can hold any kind of person under its umbrella.

    Very nice… in theory. But in practice what it often leads to is that the frum kid sees the other non-tznius person as ok overall, because she has been told what a baalas chesed she is, and she tends to downgrade the importance of tznius.

    I’m not saying this for the sake of being argumentative. I have seen many Lubavicher and non-Lubavicher kids go off because of this type of thing: “Yes, it’s wrong that he doesn’t wear a yarmuke, but look at how he supports so many tzedoko organizations,” and the like. The kid picks up that he can trade one for the other.

    IMHO (I know. You don’t think I’m humble at all. True. But my opnion is.) the way to keep the kid aligned is to say something like, “It’s great that that woman does so much chesed, but unfortunately it’s really terrible that she is not tzniusdik. What a pity. Her chesed would be worth so much more.”

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267975
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS, you’re beautiful explanation of the ‘value’ of the shortcomings in Lubavich, doesn’t really hold water.

    Just as a parent’s primary job is to instruct – yes, even dictate – to a child the way to behave, and a rabbi’s job is to instruct his community how to behave, a Rebbe’s job is to instruct and dictate to his chassidim. Allowing each one to move along at their own pace is great, as long as it does not affect others, and a lack of tznius – both in dress and in mixing of the genders – affects everyone in the community.

    Furthermore, you can’t say that your rebbe didn’t attempt to ‘dictate’ to others, as there are numerous accounts of him meeting other rebbes and telling them that they should instruct their chassidim to learn chassidus, and to publish various works of chassidus – something that was against those rebbes’ mesorah.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267977
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: They were called tznuim because they were tznius when only Hashem was around…

    I don’t think so. That would imply that all the other gedolei olam were only tznius when they were in company, and that is being motzi shem ra on all of them. I believe Shaul and Kimchis were singled out because they went above the letter of the law.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267976
    ARSo
    Participant

    Menachem, returning to your question as to when I am usually accosted by Lubavich missionizing Mashiach and the like, I forgot very surprisingly (!) to mention the most common situation.

    When I am at a Lubavich simcha – as you know I have a number of family members and acquaintances who are Lubavichers – and am sitting at a table where I am the lone non-conformist. A glass or two (or three or four…) of alcohol usually makes the imbiber feel that it is up to him to convert the infidel, and I am harrangued by him, often with the encouragement of some of the others, to show me how my chassidus is wrong, and how Lubavich has the only true path. He has the Nassi Hador, the Navi and the Mashiach, while all I have is a belief in nigleh and a stress on tznius. (Please note, that in most instances the imbiber had very little knowledge of nigleh, and his risque comments show he has no inkling at all of tznius.)

    Now I am not saying it happens all the time, but I am saying that that is the most common situation when it happens. And it does indeed happen.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267974
    ARSo
    Participant

    sechel: everyone always yeared for moshiach the way chabad does, thats why when chabad started saying “we want moshiach now” a litvish gadol said its kefira because it says im yismamea chake lo.

    You’re a bit unclear here, but I think I know what you mean. Were you around when the “we want Mashiach now” chant started? I was, and I remember the case you’re talking about, although I don’t remember the litvishe gadol saying it, I just remember the LR talking against the complaint.

    As far as I understood then, the Litvak’s complaint was not that people expressed a yearning for Mashiach. Rather, it was the terminology which seemed (to him and to others) that they were demanding Mashiach. Which is indeed the way the LR encouraged it.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267973
    ARSo
    Participant

    Haleivi: As a Chosid, you’ve definitely dealt with Bechinos and Inyan of. You must be aware of the many levels of Nevua and Ruch Hakodesh.

    Possibly out of pure ignorance, but I am unaware that there is a level of nevuah where someone who doesn’t obey the navi is not chayav misah bidei Shomayim. I’m happy to have my ignorance shown and the be corrected.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267972
    ARSo
    Participant

    Menachem: ARSo, I’m very curious. How exactly does this play out?
    Like you’re on the subway or in shul or walking down the street, and a Lubavitcher bochur/yungerman/woman/child approaches you, strikes up conversation, and says: “By the way, I assume you know that the Lubavitcher Rebbe is Moshiach, because the Rambam says….”
    Is that what happens?

    That is one way it happens, although they don’t quote the Rambam. Another is when I pass a tefillin booth or similar, and the Lubavicher manning it apparently wants to make an impression on the people with him, so he calls out to me – an obviously chassidic non-Lubavitch type – and makes a comment ‘demonstrating’ how he and his cohorts are better than us lesser Yidden.

    I have NEVER been the one to start the ‘altercation’.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267746
    ARSo
    Participant

    sechel: moshiach told the baal shem tov that moshiach will come when his wellsprings will be spread outside – when all jews will learn chassidus. (see keser shem tov first letter) ושאלתי את פי משיח, אימת אתי מר, והשיב לי, בזאת תדע, בעת שיתפרסם למודך ויתגלה בעולם ויפוצו מעיינותיך חוצה מה שלמדתי אותך והשגת
    so chabad who follows the ways of the baal shem tov, try to spread chassidus to bring moshiach.

    Just a second. Are you insinuating that all the other talmidim of the Mezritcher Maggid did not care about that statement you quoted? Don’t forget you’re referring to Reb LY of Berditchev (a mechutan of the Baal Hatanya), Reb Zusha of Anipoli (who wrote a haskama on the Tanya) and all the other gedolei ha’olam who were talmidim.

    Clearly, the other talmidei Hamaggid understood the meaning of the statement differently to the way the Baal Hatanya understood it (if indeed that was the impetus behind his derech), and they spread chassidus in their own way without stressing the study of the kabbalah aspect of chassidus, as the Baal Hatanya did.

    i never saw ananswer whether you guys are chassidim, litvish etc?

    And I never saw the question, although I have mentioned a number of times that I am a card-carrying member of another chassidus which I’m sure you’ve heard of.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267745
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: Context please! This was in response to your claim that Chabad willingly lowers standards because of baalei teshuva.

    Please don’t put words into my mouth. I didn’t say that Lubavich willingly lowers standards because of baalei teshuva. What I said was that because of the baalei teshuva, and other reasons – namely concern with others, Mashiach, mivtzoim, and not enough with themselves – they overlook the vitally imporatant aspect of upholding tznius.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267744
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: Interesting you view it this way. For me, and watching a student as well, when we learn the sichos that clearly point out the Rebbe as Moshiach through obvious hints, it’s kind of like a quiet, “Oh really? Yah I guess that makes sense. The Rebbe is nossi hador and nossi hador is Moshiach shebador. Right cool…”

    That’s not the reaction I get when I get accosted by Lubavichers who try to prove to me that the LR is Mashiach, and I’m not talking about infrequent cases.

    Like I said I never saw the navi thing used in this way. More like the Rebbe is saying it as Nevuah/ stronger than regular ruach hakodesh- so it’s really real and happening.
    I do think the punishment aspect of navi which you are bringing up would only apply if the Rebbe was certified/ pronounced as a navi by others- whether in Beis din or whatever the protocol is.

    There are only two types of nevi’im. 1. The navi to whom all the laws of a navi apply, including, as yb mentioned, someone being chayav misa bidei Shamayim if he doesn’t obey the navi, and 2. A navi sheker.

    You can’t have “half-a-Navi” which is stronger than ruach hakodesh but not quite the full nevuah.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267743
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: I cannot put myself in the mindset of our people t throughout our entire golus. Maybe there was speculation (as there was by the third Chabad Rebbe) but nothing came of it, and it died out.

    Other factors: for much of our history, world Jewry was separated. Ashkenazim hardly knew of the Rambam, and Sephardim hardly knew of Rashi. Which would make speculation unlikely.

    Yankel berel wasn’t addressing whether there was speculation as to the identity of Mashiach he asked you: Was there no group of people thirsting for geula like you, in the whole 1900 plus years since the Hurban ?

    Note, thirsting for the geula, not speculating as to identity.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267669
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: Thanks for looking it up. I agree with you that if that is what the sefer says it is misleading in this context.

    Thanks for being intellectually honest.

    As to Karliner chassidim etc also running underground Torah study, I can’t give you any info other than I have read and heard about it from Karliner chassidim, and in a discussion not at all related to Lubavich’s activities in Russia.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267668
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: As if you don’t know that it was in continuation to that last one, and just wanted to clear up some possible misconceptions on posts that were approved before it was shut down…>

    But you could have just let the thread stay dead.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267385
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: I must protest your general denigration of an entire demographic of baalei teshuva…

    I denigrated the BTs?! I don’t remember doing that! I keep saying that it’s the kids of shluchim, and a number of shluchim themselves, who I am complaining.

    I have close relatives who run a Chabad house – official shluchim, not mushrooms (yankel berel et al, have you heard that term?) – and who regulary post pictures of what goes on in their institution. Forget the (not-yet-)BTs who are there and are doing what they are doing, although in my humble opinion there’s no need to post pictures of that, I’m talking about the shluchim themselves. Shomu Shamayim! Because of tznius issues I won’t elaborate!

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267384
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: Agreed, however this doesn’t define communal yiras shomayim or even tznius for that matter. Shaul hamelech and kimchis were called tznuim because of what they did in private out of a real sense of tznius- yiras shomayim.

    Shaul Hamelech and Kimchis were called tznuim because they went over and above what was required lehalacha.

    Dress is only one factor, an important one, but cannot be used to define the communal level of yiras shomayim when done for external reasons.

    Totally untrue! When a community – say Toldos Aharon in Meah She’arim – is extrememly tzniusdik in dress, it definitely defines the communal level of yir’as Shamayim. Sure there may be individuals who stray in private – we’ve all heard many times the anecdotal stories (which must, of course, be true) told by Lubavichers about Satmar chassidim who do disgusting things when they’re out of Williamsburg – but the public level of tznius definitely shows, and leads to, high levels of yir’as Shamayim.

    A lack of tznius, even if it were only among newcomers to Lubavich (unfortunately that is not the case), leads to a downfall in the entire community. As Chazal say העין רואה והלב חומד….

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267380
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: I think every community and individual have their areas that can use strengthening, and this is not unique to lubavitch. /em>

    That’s like saying that an orthodox community could use strengthening in their Shmiras Shabbos because so many of them use their phones on Shabbos. A community like that is not orthodox! Tznius in Lubavich needs more than just “strengthening”. It is by ALL accounts – and I am including the small number of sane Lubavichers with whom I discuss this type of stuff – atrocious. And the reason – those card-carrying Lubavichers agree – is because the main thing is Mashiach and influencing others. Thereby turning a blind-eye to “our own”.

    I have been to both kinds of homes. I haven’t seen bochurim/ girls at the same table, but have seen marriageable age at the same table separated by married couples. Could be these families are operating in guidance I don’t know about. I try to focus on my own decisions

    You’re right for focusing on your own family. But stop defending the way others are because they “cherish” mitzvos and hiddur mitzvah in their own way. I could handle your posts more if you would come out clearly and say, “They are wrong! I wish they would behave in a more appropriate manner. Furthermore they are giving Lubavich a bad name.” But you can’t say that because everything is so rosey in Lubavich.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267365
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: a Lubavitcher was trying to shop for her daughter in boro park and was surprised at the lack of selection for her three year old. When she asked the shop lady, she was told, “we’re not lubavitch.”

    Another anecdotal proof that shows that Lubavichers are far better than others! Well done! (And don’t worry about the fact that even if the story is true it’s the exception to the rule. Who cares? As long as we can continue claiming that the tznius in Crown Heights is of the highest standard.)

    We take pride in upholding the top standards in yiddishkeit and valuing hiddur Mitzvah.

    …except in internet access for youth, the things bochurim talk about, tznius and the mixing of the genders. (You won’t convince me otherwise because I witness it firsthand numerous times each week. And I’m talking about sons of shluchim, not just BTs.)

    Btw even with all your explaining of the how engaged couples act etc, it’s still well below the tznius level of other chatzeiros. Actually, that makes it sound just something not as “hiddur mitzvah” as us. I had better clarify. It’s called nevalah in other chatzeiros.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267358
    ARSo
    Participant

    I just think it would be mentchlich for CS, who cited this Chabadpedia footnote, to admit in this forum that she was mislead.

    CS, now that you’re back posting I was wondering whether you are going to address the above.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267303
    ARSo
    Participant

    Menachem: If anyone thinks that majority of Lubavitchers wear yechi yarmulkes or majority of Chabad kovtzim say yechi on them – they are plain ignorant.

    You may be right numerically, but not as far as publicity goes. Wherever you go in Israel you see Yechi signs and stickers, and in the most annoying places. It is also the ones with the Yechi yarmulkes who put out all these crazy videos etc.

    in reply to: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe #2267302
    ARSo
    Participant

    Menachem, thanks for clearing that up about Chabadpedia, and I fully accept your explanation.

    I just think it would be mentchlich for CS, who cited this Chabadpedia footnote, to admit in this forum that she was mislead.

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