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CHOCOLATE!!
Does the person have good MIDDOS! if not, nothing else matters. Is the person kind and considerate? Is the home stable or dysfunctional? There are great kids from dysfunctional homes- i know- one married my son, but you should be aware of any issues!
MAZEL TOV! MAZEL TOV! May you have continued nachas from the entire mishpacha. This is really a special time. Enjoy!
Lego, games(Uno and Racko and Monopoly), matchbox cars and “mentchies”. Also, can never have enough crayons and markers!
We celebrate all immediate family member birthdays on the Yiddish date. Growing up my children could pick their “birthday” supper- every one had their same favorite year after year and now my children do it for their children and Bubbie and Zeidy celebrate with special Shabbos parties. A birthday is a time to show hakoras hatov to the Aibeshter for another year of life .The gedolim have always marked special birthdays. Iread that Rav Elyashav and his family paid special attention to his reaching the centennial mark. I always felt the birth of my children to be a special brocho from Hashem. Not everyone is zocheh- so we always made a big deal on their birthdays!
greatmom is right- I find the constant phone ringing to be very annoying- one call from an organization is Ok, but its never just one and with some of these computer calls if you don’t pick up- they just keep trying until you do- Sometimes the answering machine or voicemail gets totally clogged up from these calls. Computer calls are annoying, but talking to the telemarketers is even more frustrationg- they won’t take NO for an answer. We help our kids with tuition and have very little funds left for general tzedaka- I wish we had more, but if you are told that this year its not possible to give- say thenk you for your time and STOP ARGUING- I just hang up on these people and refuse to even have them send an envelope for the future. Ten dollars may not seem like a lot to you, but for some people its just not possible.
Sorry- Bed-Stuy- you’re wrong- A true friend of which i am zocheh to have- must also take at times- you have to allow the other side to give to you. I don’t “look” to take, but that’s how friendship works and sometimes there are extenuating circumstances, such as medical conditions when a person isnT able to give and must take
Rabbi Rosen at the star-k is an expert on all things alcoholic- Contact the star-k or whatever hashgacha you normally rely on for the answer
When you have always been there for another person and the time comes when you need them to be there for you and they aren’t- I was dan kaf zechus for a long time, but eventually the relationship does fall by the wyaside- Much like in marriage- friends must give each other their all- there’s no tit for tat or 60/40- Sometime you’re the giver and sometimes you are the taker= When one side always takes or gives- it won’t last
My grandchildren call their Elter Bubbie by the city where she lives- mfor example Bubbie Baltimore, Bubbie Far Rockaway, etcThey actually differentiate between their Bubbies and Zeidies with their own cute “isms” One grandchild calls Bubbie and Other Bubbie- At any given time we can be either one!
My son does Bar Mitzvahs, Vortes, etc and always uses Adorama to print his pictures- They’re a little more expensive than say, Shutterfly, etc, but the results are worth it.
Look in to Baltimore
From experience I know thet the children who are told what’s going on- in this case Mommy/Tatty- Abba//Ima are going away for a few days vacation- handle the situation far better than those children who are told nothing. Children, especially at this age don’t need long explanations. My grandchildren of these ages have been left before with their Bubbies and Zeidies and they do just fine. Just call them everynight before bedtime. I’ve always found that makes bedtime easier.
I love having my ainiklach, but since they all just had three days off and will probably have another day off tomorrow, why do they need another mid-winter vacation? My daughters-in law all work- they don’t have a mid-winter vacation- infact they don’t have nearly the amount of vacation teachers do and not all working mothers have Bubbies to rely on either or babysitters for the big kids- Actually, most of the bubbies I know still work full time to help their kids- Do teachers work hard= YES- But so does everyone else I k now whether they are in chinuch or not!