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Two short stories:
1. After a long day and finally putting the kids to bed I settled on the couch with my phone in hand. All of the sudden I’m being poked at and someone is calling my name. THE PARENTS! I totally fell asleep (like drooling sleep), phone in hand. Very embarrasing….they still called me though for other babysitting offers:)
2. It was before Pesach and the kids were up. I attempted to put the kids to bed, but they were a tough bunch. The oldest out of no where took a potato chip bag out of the snack department from the kitchen. Literally two seconds laer, after opening the bag the oldest dumped out the chips onto the freshly cleaned non-chametz carpet. He smiled, stepped all over the chips, and refused to clean them up “BEFORE MOMMY GETS HOME!!!”. I never returned there again. Trouble makers are not my thing…
Go for outdoor! Unless: it’s very hot ( you don’t wana shvitz while takin pics ðŸ˜‰ )
It’s very sunny ( the lens that your camera or the professionals camera may not be high tech. In scenarios with sunlight)
If there are too many distractions ( my best friend had pictures taken outdoor and there were many people and dogs not to far from where they set up to take pictures in a grassy area )
Goodluck! I’m sure they will come out great either way indoors or outside!
Shoshy5, I’m sorry if it was not a joke. I just felt others would start commenting on your post in a negative manner. I was trying to save you I guess!? Sorry, did not mean to say it was a joke otherwise. Thank you for the thought though you don’t really know me besides for here:) was really sweet of you! Hope the guy you are trying to set up will find his basket and may Hashem take your “not joke” as a wonderful attempt to bring people together.
I never said your world is of rainbows and sunshine ( though what a world that would be). Apology accepted and hope you did not take my post to much to heart. I am not comparing lives, and honestly hope that you are where you want to be. I am not because of my Tznuis struggle. That is why I originaly posted this thread. Hope you understand.
P.s. a life of perfection (rainbows, flowers, sunshine whatever would be boring. Hashem gives each of us challenges wether its shidduchim, Tznius, davening troubles, poverty etc. we all must e,brace these challenges to our best abilities and strive for what Hashem wants. I am trying to find a manner to do so and have seeked assistance from the coffee room. Hatzlacha with your own struggles and hope that you see sunshine if that is what you seek.
I am dating someone. He doesn’t pressure me about Tznius. I used to not cover my elbos sometimes. When I worked on that which I Baruch Hashem accomplished, he complimented me. Being with someone who will encourage you to grow is important. I think the comment about the guy was a joke from shoshy5….please let’s stay on the topic of the discussion I probed.
In addition, just because a guy is a learner (full time part time) doesn’t mean he follows all halachas. Tznius is for a woman more than a man. I’m not saying men don’t hav pe an obligation of it too, but this mitzvah and struggle of dress pertains more to a woman. If I dated someone who encouraged me to wear immodest clothes, it would be a lot more challenging, thankfully as I stated before, the guy I am current,y with understands I am not perfect and have a will and want to grow in this area.
Wow Machshiv Torah I read your post and wow is all I can express. I want to thank you all (Especially always striving for your post). Today I woke up with a more positive attitude. I am Currently in graduate school actually, so I have already went through 3 years of undergraduate college. (Shoshy5- I amm 22 years old).
I am going to find a friend who can work on this Halacha of Tznius firstly, and secondly I am going to see how many days (hopefully weeks) I can stay away from wearing my skirts above my knees.
Today is day one and the skirt is not tight, not very short, and it’s black ( a less ostentatious color). Thank you all! If anyone has any other suggestions I would greatly appreciate it.
I still though need to figure out how to explain my strive for Tznius to my parents.
P.s. to Shopping 613, if college is such a “bad place” I wonder what you think of the outside world. I don’t live in a box nor do I live in a land filled with rainbows and flowers ( though I wish I did). Everyday is a struggle to keep Tznius wether I have a college class or not. Coming from high school to college was a huge change. I don’t want to blame my education. It’s the real world.
I completely understand why it’s wrong. I know how imp. It is to be Tznius and how it can be detrimental to a girls/young woman’s/womans inner and outer soul. It’s not even the feeling of being pretty (not sure where you got that from to begin with…). It’s the fact that I feel uncomfortable wearing the calf length skirts. I either wear very long skirts or I wear skirts above my knee. I want to wear Tznuis skirts very badly but when I attempt to put it on I change my mind last minute. They don’t feel nor do they look the same.
Your right it is immature, that’s why it’s hard for me to do it. Same way a girl who is of marriage age needs to mature herself in order to deeply devote herself to dating. It’s tough. I’m legitimately asking and seeking advice. I know the Halacha. I need my parents to understand how hard this is for me and that I am trying. I have thrown out skirts that are considered too tight and fitting. It’s so unfortunate but when going on dates guys seem to have appealed to me not by just the company but also by the skirt. That is one reason as to why I threw them out ( besides the material being non- Tnius) ….sry went off tangent
With all due respect, I daven shachris daily as well as Mincha (hope u are having a wonderful Rosh Chodesh;) ) I give tzedaka etc. I do not feel the need to expose other wonderful Mitzvos I do. However, I feel like you are judging me (and others who may be in the same boat as myself). My clothes do not define me. I am trying hard to work on my knee length because I know I should and want to be on the Tznius madrigah. Believe it or not I went to a frum school, I have frum friends,I go to shuirim just like Tznius girls. Just because a girl covers her knees DOES NOT mean she is frum. You could go to not mixed colleges, come from a frum home, live in a frum area and yet still wear skirts that are not the most modest….I hope you understand where I am coming from. Also, if my co-Ed college would give me a credit for being Tznius I probably would not take that class. This is something personal, I don’t need a reinforcement.
It’s a non Jewish college I attended. However, there are many frum and not frum Jews who enroll. When I was there I hung out with a mix of Jewish “types”.
i kinda hav 2 agree with sac bec its like 6 girls for 1 guy, thats the current ratio…therefore realy it should be then a lot easier for the guys…for some reason though its not and just makes guys pickier
I think that for the first few dates (1 through 4) its typically and usually cheap ones like bowling,going for drinks ect. therefore th guy should pay….meaning dont take a girl out to eat at a resturant, anyhow as i have heard girls dont want to eat on a 1rst date especially infont of guys….the longer u date someone then the money does not matter anymore, so girls you can chip in as well, wont hurt you….i hope all of u find ur bashrets very soon (including myslef) ðŸ™‚
okay girls ans guys can we get back to the discussion?!