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Wow. Youre really feeling bad about yourself. You feel like you were born a loser and youre destined to remain one for the rest of your life. But that’s not so! And by seeking advice, that’s not weakness; its the greatest sign of strength. As for shortness,that could be one of the reasons why you feel inferior. Many successful people were short… it didnt take away from their quality of life. In regard to children, genetics have a funny way of working out. I know many people who are short and have tall kids. Being shy can actually be a virtue. So many loud people get themselves into hot water by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. You obviously think before you speak. Trusting people is hard esoecially once youre exposed to people who have let you down. I would suggest first putting your feelings to paper and that would be good practice for getting it out of your system. Another idea is to imagine yourself in a few years from now. Where would you like to be? You want to be happy! The more you think about it and the more you turn it into a goal, the easier it will be to go about achieving it.

You should definity switch therapists. You need to be able to form a connection with your therapist in order for you to be helped. If there’s nothing between you, you wont feel comfortable and you wont open up.

Thats an awesome question and one thats hard to answer. I dont know why hashem tests us but when He does, you cone out a better person. what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. I myself have been dealing with anorexia for the last few years. Bh I got the help I needed in time and im much better. However, its something im going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. I often complain “why me” and why can everyone eat whatever they want and not gain weight but I cant and I would only enjoy life if I wouldn’t have this pressure… its a daily struggle. But one thing I know for sure. Since it all started, Im able to understand people so much better. Im not an innocent teenager anymore who doesnt know what the world is all about. I know that everybody has problems and i wish I can solve them all! Unfortunately I can’t. But I can be there for my friends when theyre going through hard times. And its not like im preaching when I encourage them because I know what pain is like. Life isnt about avoiding problems and pain; its learning how to deal with it. You emerge a better person with the ability to understand and help others and the ability to deal with any hardship life may throw you. I personally am of the opinion that a perfect life (which basically doesnt even exist) is not a life!!! Were meant to go through things to learn lessons and become better people. And if everything is going well for a while and then you fall upon hard times, show yourself how strong you really are. Pick yourself up and carry on!

Its so hard to trust people. Unfortunately life throws us situations which makes us believe that everyones out to get us. And its true that there are many, many people who do have only their own interests at heart. But therapists by law are not allowed to disclose anything they hear to anybody unless youre a threat to yourself or others. Life is not manageable if you hold everything in. Because when an opportunity arises for you to open up, youre going to explode.

@keep climbing. Many people have such questions. I do, at least. And I wish there were answers. I had a really hard year too with friends and other things and I can assure you of one thing. You will definitely come out a better and stronger person because of the hard times that youre having. Bill gates was considered the biggest nerd when he was in school! Hashem knew what he was doing when he created you because he saw what you can become. You still have your whole life ahead of you. Marriage, children, job/learning and hopefully wherever you end up youll be successful and happy. Each day of our lives is a learning experience. We need to take lessons from everything in order to become better people and at the same time not allow certain things to bring us down. You never know where people end up. All those who dont befriend you and see your virtues might not stay the type of person whos in a position to look down at others and. Try to believe in yourself and know that although times are hard, you mean the world to some people and one day, youll have a family of your own and youll see that they will never be able to imagine life without you

Its ok to feel like a fake when youre around other people.You would be surprised but many people who you may think are so confident, are really covering up for what’s lacking inside. Very often I also feel uncomfortable when im around alot of people and I tend to feel very self conscious. I have a strange way of dealing with that but it works! I find something in the other person that would make them uncomfortable. For example, if I were surrounded by a group of girls in school that are intimidating,I would notice messy hair on one, a dirty spot on anothers sweater etc. Its not so nice but its privatly thought and for some reason it makes you feel better about yourself. That said, dont ever let anyone convince you that you arent worth anything. Insecurity is terrible because you block out all your stregths, all the good things youve ever done, and all that youre capable of doing. I know; ive been there too. My own insecurities landed me in a difficult position that was hard to get out of. It isnt worth it. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself how wonderful and special you are!

You could go for a walk in a park or on a beach and have a table set up with roses, candles, and a cake that says will you marry me. You could make a scavenger hunt with any jokes you may have and that will lead her to you at the end. If I think of any more, I’ll let yum know. But in the meantime, good luck and may you have many happy and healthy years together! Mazal Tov!

ihear, I’m a girl but I agree with your post 100 percent! It was written exactly as it is. I give the boys who sit and learn all day lots of credit and they certainly deserve some “chill time”

Can’t wait for next shabbos and it’s only Sunday night!!

People don’t only say that when they speak about things others can be jealous of. It’s also part of an answer when one person asks a friend they haven’t seen in a long time how many children she/he has. Most people wouldn’t look for a way out of the question. They would answer and simply add the words bli ayin hara.

WIY, yes I saw sams post. Kol isha doesn’t apply since I’m a girl. My question now is what is the fine line between Jewish and non Jewish music is. I think it’s really something I need to poskin for myself because I don’t think it makes sense to bring a list of songs to a Rav to ask them which ones are okay. Any ideas?

I agree. I find that these days much of what is taught is fluff and irrelevant to our daily life.