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im sorry, i meant to write at the begining that i am mochel everyone. however, i dont feel that one should keep putting themselves into a situations that makes them need to be mochel ppl constantly. so here i am for the last time saying “I AM MOCHEL EVERYONE!” however, i hope ppl took to heart what i said and wont talk the way they did to me to others. everyone has to remember that eventhough their screen name is hiding their identity from me, its not hiding it from Hashem, and He sees everything you write, therefore, you should be careful. averyone who replied so far, it wasnt you who made me want to leave ywn coffee room, but thanks for your responses.
oh you know.. girls talk about sem and how much fun it was and how amazing eretz yisroel is.. (just dont sound too high up in the clouds) and guys talk abt yeshiva and his yrs in eretz yisroel.. (as if either one of them is interested in what the other has to say) and then theres always ppl that you both know so you talk abt them (only nice things obviously..no lashon hara) and just kinda go with the flow.. if its near a y”t .. talk abt that and what your fam does for it.. girls are more lucky cuz the guy is the one who usually starts up the convo.. but if its a shy guy.. GOOD LUCK!
if its your cd that your copying just to have it in a diff location.. then i would think its fine.. of course one should not rely on their own chachma and go ask a rav!
smartcookie: yes i was talking abt goyish movies.. of course there is an exception to every rule.. but i think that most movies out there are innapropriate.. and once a kid starts off watching movies.. do you honestly think he/she is gonna stop?
no one should regret their marriage..even if it ended up in a divorce b/c everything that happens.. happens for a reason.. obviously Hashem wanted you to go thru that so you could grow/learn something that you would never have done any other way! i know someone personally that went thru a HORRIBLE marriage that ended up into a divorce and to this day they still dont regret it b/c obviously they had to go thru that nisayon and came out a diff person..
to watch a movie = big no no!! i dont think there is a single movie out there that is appropriate..no matter which age they say its for.. even for little kids.. they always put something in it.. and as for jewish movies like tisha ba av movies.. those are fine b/c they are produced by G-d fearing jews who want to help klal yisroel.. there is nothing inappropriate in those..
i dont think this is appropriate.. people who have gone thru divorces have their own feelings of regret for diff reasons.. one cannot talk for others..
whoa sac.. what im trying to show is that i dont judge ppl.. the people that i was talking about are people that i actually know and know the whole story..k? maybe you should try not judging other ppl either..
i think that each placement in the family has its pros and cons.. and obviously Hashem gave us the position in the family b/c thats what is best for us..
i think the oldest does have alot of responsibility.. but they are able to boss around the younger siblings to do alot of things for them..
i think the youngest has it the hardest b/c everyone thinks they are the most spoiled.. therefore the older siblings make sure that the parents give them less then normal just to make sure that they arent spoiled.
and the middle basically has it very good. they arent weighed down with tonz of responsibility like the oldest and they arent bossed arnd like the youngest..
so basicaly the middle is the best placement according to me.. and hterefore they should help their older and younger siblings!!
ok.. first of all.. apushutayid: little tip for life.. you cannot write sarcasm without putting quatations or things like that.. obviously i knew that u werent actually serious abt the number 1 and 2 but the concept was clear that you were stating that more boys come out less than more frum..
and i was not making a generalization.. i know for a fact alot of mbc boys who came out very great and very yeshivish.. the funny thing is is that i think we are all talking abt the same boy.. but anyways.. i dont want anyone thinking that i have something against mbc/ybc… i just think that the facts are that that type of attention (of being a rockstar/singer..) is very bad for the boys.. however.. if the boys are stable enough.. then it wont affect them.. but unfortunately alot of the boys that i know are personally in there b/c they have a low self asteem.. that attention has done nothing but harm to them… HOWEVER I AM REALLY NOT MAKING A GENERALIZATION.. i am talking abt the boys that i know what happened to them.
apushutayid: just listen to what you just said.. yeruchmeil who had been doing it for 30 yrs.. so obviously he dealt with HUNDREDS of boys.. he MAY be able to point out 1 or 2 boys… it just sounds like most boys end up going down in frumkeit.. i dont want to sound mean.. cuz i do know of a couple boys who ended up AMAZING eventhough he was in mbc.. but what i was saying is that i know more boys who ended up worse than how they started..
dunno: why would you get bashed? i dont think you would! its a great thing that boys in mbc/ybc actually came out for the better.. no one will bash you!
sac-me and s2021 are NOT the same person..DUH!! someone would have to have an identity crisis to have two different screen names! 🙂 anywyas… yea i do know that the boys became less frum BECAUSE they were in mbc/ybc… its SAD BUT TRUE!
dunno-can u give some examples… i would love to know that there has actually been an opposit affect! its just really hard to beleive!
observanteen: true! but when i wrote popularity over brains.. i was talking about book smart 🙂
well.. since i value friends over test marks.. i would have to go with POPULARITY!! which B”H i have (bli ayin hara) so im good! :)oh yeah.. and im modest too! 😉
coke, try it again without all-caps
i agree 100% with s2021! its not right for a guy to put himself in such a situation! i also have seen first hand of innocent ybc/mbc boys becoming totally less frum then they started out as (if frum at all anymore) and i have seen older singers changed also!! of course its true that Hashem gave them a talent and therefor they should use it.. but Hashem never said “use My talent that I gave u by putting yourself in a sakana!” ok.. the profession of being a singer is a HUGE sakana that not everyone can handle!
a guy looking for a girl thats size 0-2 obviously is very immature and doesnt have his priorities straight!! you are allwed to say that you dont want to marry a really fat girl b/c you would feel uncomfortable with such a large person etc… but to say a specific size.. thats just not right! why do guys think they could be so picky!! ok.. so girls should say “we wont go out with a guy thats larger than a toothpick or older then 23”??.. i mean its all just rediculous! all i could say is DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS! everyones basheret was made for them.. and you’ll find them.. but if your gonna be so picky.. you just may not! lesson in life maishe dovid: NO ONE IS PERFECT.. NOT EVEN YOU! no matter what your mother tells you! 🙂
GO OUT WITH THE GIRL!! NO ONE IS PERFECT! OK.. SHES OVER WEIGHT.. YOU DONT KNOW EXCACTLY HOW BIG SHE IS AND IF YOU FEEL RLY UNCOMFORTABLE THEN YOU WILL END IT AFTER THE FIRST DATE BUT ATLEAST GIVE HER A CHANCE. THE FACT THAT YOU DIDNT KNOW HER AGE IS QUITE ODD BUT THAT COULD HAVE HAPPENED FOR VARIOUS DIFFERENT REASONS. EVERYONE DESERVES A FAIR CHANCE IN LIFE.. NOT TELLING YOU TO MARRY HER, BUT JUST GIVE HER A CHANCE..
to all those with diabetes.. you must all remember (and rebetzein im especially talking to you!) Hashem loves you and you are all His children! Hashem wouldnt do anything that would harm you.. however everything Hashem does is for our benefit. Hashem has your bashert out there and you will find him/her! the fact that you have diabetes doesnt make you “damaged goods” however makes you even greater and more sensitive than you were ever b4! take this nisayone and surpass it and show Hashem that you beleive He can do anything.. cuz He can! and Imy”H we will be hearing a mazal tov very soon from all you diabeticers who are on the market!! AMEN!