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i know as rabbi kuliks minyan guess its no longer
never heard of shovai mayim. do you mean shaarei shomayim
dating etiquette isnt all about opening a car door. its knowing how to behave during the dating process.last week my daughter went out with a boy,she was his first girl.she didnt think it was for her and we told the shadchan that right away. the shadchan called us about 10 minutes after my daughter walked into the house after her date.the boy had called him immediately and was interested in going out again.we told the shadchan it wasnt for her. a day later one of my daughters close friends and a neighbor, tells her she heard my daughter was “DUMPED” by this boy.apparently he went over to his next door neighbors and regaled them with his date experience.he must have forgotten their son in law was our neighbor and his sister my daughters close friend.for heavens sake-pretend you are really 23 years old and have a tiny bit of class and some maturity.
if you are moving from new york or even another big city in the states toronto will be a hard adjustment for you. i dont know about thornhill but the frum area of bathurst from wilson to eglington is not the most friendly place on earth.the cliques are hard to crack.the weather is horrible and the shopping pathetic.food staples that are kosher in the states are not kosher in canada.many groceries are not even available in canada.the garbage is only picked once every 2 weeks and you are only allowed 6 bags.the healthcare is poor and good luck finding a doctor/pediatrician who will allow you to join his patient list.tuition is quite expensive and there is no bussing unless you send the kids by public tranportation or hire a private company.school lunches are not included in tuition neither are books or supplies.all the good stuff other people will tell you im sure-life isnt as hectic,the kids behave better,the streets are cleaner,etc.if you need a shidduch be prepared to travel.if you need to travel be prepared for for the taxes on you airline ticket to be the same amount as your ticket.taxes in toronto on food,clothes,manicures…EVERYTHING is 13%.
in todays day and age money speaks louder than words.if the shadchan knows the girls father is loaded those girls are a priority on her/his list.we are comfortable thank gd but we are not up there with the 50 most wealthy frum families.i had one shadchan ask me to email her my daughters seminary class list(while my daughter was in sem) so she could have a look and see the whos who in the class. i was so naive.i thought i would get my daughters name on her list by doing her this favor and so would have a top shadchan looking out for my daughter. forget it-never heard from her,she never replied to emails,and has never redd my daughter a single shidduch.i think im beginning to sound like a whiner,kvetch so this is it for me.i know everything will work out the right way in the right time its just frusterating.
i dont care if you call it a bribe or a payment-im willing to pay it.i was looking at another topic in the CR-boys who learn and go to school at night-thats what we are looking for.if any of you out there in the CR know a smart,ambitious,tall,clean shaven,davens with a minyan ,laid back with a great sense of humor,from a heimish home boy- let me know and we can arrange a payment schedule.can it be there is a serious shortage of this type of boy? there seems to be no shortage of the boy that wants to sit and learn in israel for a year or two.is totally comfortable with the idea of my husband fully supporting him and his prada shoe,hermes tie and belt lifestyle.doesnt mind if my daughter has a closet full of luboutins,because as ive been told repeatedly-sitting and learning in kollel doesnt mean you have to live in poverty-hes just preparing himself for the next few years when he will be in school-he needs those couple of extra years of learning to be in the right place.oh please.
i was actually wondering about members that seem to be commenting on every topic in the coffee room.how do you have the time? BP Totty whats your secret? every few days (when i need a good laugh)i check in
it has nothing to do with laziness.i love the kitchen some people dont. she could grow into baking and cooking or she might never develop a feel for it.im just saying in todays day its not the worst thing if a girl cant cook. can every boy fix his own car?of course not, thats why there are mechanics.
agvania in israel-on yaffo in jerusalem and they have a store in tel aviv.to the person who loves sarahs pizza in nmb-you probably havent been there for at least 18 years.
in my daughters seminary-now closed down-not only did they not learn how to cook-actually they didnt learn anything at all-but the school didnt even have a kitchen so the meals were ordered in from a restraunt every day. my daughter can make scrambled eggs,macaroni and cheese from a box and baked chicken with potatoes.when she gets married i have no problem paying the couples pomegrante bill.they make delicious food.home cooking is highly overated
my daughter is looking for a boy that is working or/and in school but still has learning as a priority.he has to daven with a minyan,be fine and frum but doent have to wear black and white.all the shadchanim seem to come up with are bums who are working because either they have some sort of ADD,or because they are the black sheep of their family etc.the shadchanim that dealt with our family when it was time to marry off my son-who sits and learns-do not have any ehrlich in school or working boys to offer us.