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im from out of town, but had occasion to be in Flatbush recently, after a big snow. Due to the poor shoveling habits, it was exceedingly difficult to find a place to park. I was driving a rental and did not want to skid into somebody else’s car. I finally did find a spot, creatively parking on top of a snow mountain, but blocking a driveway. The driveway was not shoveled, and did not appear to be an active driveway, judging by the amount of old snow in front of the drive and the sidewalk. In the morning, I came out and found a note, berating me for the chutzpah of blocking their driveway. Seriously? IF you wanted to use your driveway, then how about shoveling the driveway and the snow in front of the driveway, including the sidewalk as a “siman” that it is an active driveway. And maybe you and your “kind” neighbors could find it in your heart to shovel your walks and your parking spots, too. You never know, the broken limb and/or the property damage that you prevent may just be your own!
a relative just applied. i have been told that the family looked into it deeply and were very impressed with the curriculum and the quality of the girls. i understand that it is a diverse student body and that the girls are “growthful”. the graduates qualify for a Torah Umesorah teaching certificate at the end of the seminary year, as well as being able to obtain college credits for the year. was also told that the girls are “busy” but that there is not “busy work” and that there is a balance between class work and extracurriculars. sounds like it is worth looking into!
There is hospice and then there is hospice. It is difficult to know the difference, and one must have a Rav who is qualified in this area to help support a family through a family member’s final illness. The concept of hospice or palliative care is a good one in theory, keeping the patient comfortable. In practice, however, it often means withholding food/water/medication and/or blood products (as well as giving too much pain medication which may lessen the breathing). And this can be problematic al pi halacha. We also went through this and had a great Rav, as well as a doctor who is a Yorei Shomayim, supporting us. Still, it was exceedingly difficult and we had to advocate ferociously for an IV, once our family member lost the ability to swallow and could no longer keep themselves hydrated. It is a balancing act which must be done sensitively and delicately.
writer’s soul: yes, the dor yeshorim can be retrieved with a social security number. BUT they are soooo not happy about it that they told me that they couldn’t guarantee that it was in fact the correct number. That is their disclaimer. That is their legal right, to make a disclaimer. I am confident, though, that the DY number that we used while my son was dating was in fact the correct number. Because I gave them the correct SS# (I also had a cancelled check somewhere with the number, but that was actually harder to locate in my not such great record keeping system). No sakana. If we were concerned about sakana, then we would go to a lab and find out our own carrier status and proceed accordingly. But heck, then that would defeat the purpose of DY. The only reason that we do DY is because this is what the gedolim said we should do. As pointed out, if one has gotten this info from other sources, then one cannot participate in the DY program. Calm down, writer’s soul, no worries!
My son lost his DY number. We were able to submit his Soc Security number and get a his DY number. BUT DY was adamant that they could not absolutely guarantee that the number that they gave us was in fact his correct DY number (even with the social). The only way to guarantee that it would be the correct DY number would be to have the blood work done again and a new number issued. That’s what we were told 4 years ago….don’t know if something has changed since.
Fasman Yeshiva High School, Skokie, suburb of Chicago. Small school, WARM and understanding, very savvy hanhala. Diverse student body. Extracurriculars….and lots more.
i heard about one in Crown Heights, run by Mrs. Rishe Deutsch. Sorry, I don’t have contact info.
So disappointed. I thought that this was a thread about Dr. Pepper soda.October 22, 2013 11:25 pm at 11:25 pm in reply to: Question for the nashim tzidkaniyos of the Coffee Room #983266
guilty as charged. Many skirts, all black. Some slinky, some not. All black. All the time. BORING but very very practical.Not a middas chassidus or a siman of tzidkus but rather a siman of practicality (black is slimming).
don’t know anything about Keser Chaya, but 4 family members went to Meohr. All were great girls, but with very different personalities and academic records. All had terrific experiences, the year was really special. The place is organized, the staff is on top of things, the girls developed a kesher with many of the staff members and still maintain that Kesher. The school is on the Neve campus. Rabbi Greenwald is an expert mechanech, with many years of experience. I would consider it for my own daughter, but we are going to do seminary in the States (for other reasons). Hatzlacha!
FYI: According to US News and World Report rankings, UMBC is a terrific college! They are very strong in STEM and in social sciences as well.
thank you, twisted pretzel, for emphasizing my point very elegantly. Yes, there is “energy” all around us. That is a scientific fact.
Just my hapence: what I said was speak to a particular rav who actually knows this field AND the relevant halachos and hashkafos of healing. I even gave the name of such a person. The point is that IF a person is a shomer Torah u’mitzvos, then they conduct themselves accordingly and ask shailos, so why would one say that such a person is a machasheifa and an oved avoda zora, just because their work involves something that one doesn’t understand? I don’t understand electricity, but I know that it works! Is my electrician a machasheifa or an oved avoda zora? I don’t think so. Which is why I am offended that this discussion is avak lashon hora and/or rechilus/motzei shem ra! The books I listed indicate that “energy” is all around us, all the time. This is a scientific fact (thank you, Albert Einstein). When it was explained to me (in a mature and adult conversation) I understood that “energy healing” DOES NOT access “energy” from other sources, but balances what is already present. No chanting, no external sources, no mystique, no avoda zora. No agendas, either. Rational science.
superme: you are asking a good question, what is energy medicine, how does it work. What does this specific practitioner do and how does she do it? I would urge you to read my earlier response: Call her office, speak to her directly. Ask her about her training, credentials, experience. Ask for client references and testimonials. Explore any halachic/hashkafic issues with her as well. Chas v’shalom that we should be saying that a Shomer Torah u’mitzvos is a machasheifah or oved avodah zorah (lashon hora on the internet! moderators, where are you?) Don’t triangulate and ask here in the coffee room what someone else does. Ask the person directly. You can then ask intelligent questions for clarification during the conversation(s) and then decide if it is something that would be helpful to you specifically or not. And ask your halacha/hashkafa questions to someone who knows (I gave you a good resource for that). Oh yeah, and Quackwatch has an agenda, so I am unimpressed by that quote. There are many scientific studies being done at NIH and other places in the US and other countries (Europe, Australia) on all kinds of alternative/complementary medicine techniques. Why? Because it works! Read the Science of Energy Medicine by Dr. James Oschmann, or any of Dr. Lynn McTaggart’s books (The Field) or Dr. Candace Pert (Molecules of Emotion) or Dr. Caroline Myss (many many books) on this subject. Donna Eden (Energy Medicine, 10 million in print in many languages) has written many books with her husband, Dr. David Feinstein, a physician who was trained at Johns Hopkins. There is a lot of science, quantum physics and the like, that is part of energy medicine/holistic healing nowadays. If you are serious about wanting to know how someone/something can help you, ask them directly, and don’t ask the baalei eitza of the internet.
Superme,what is it that you want to know? If you want to know about somebody’s professional training, credentials, experience and client testimonials, what they do and how they do it, then one should speak to the professional in question. If one is asking on the internet, the discussion could devolve into Lashon Hora and would not be at all helpful. As to whether “energy healing”, if this is muttar or assur, again, are you asking the baalei eitza of the internet to pasken halacha shailos for you? Not appropriate. Reb Doniel, clearly, you don’t know the sugya. That said, Superme, perhaps you should consider speaking with somebody who does know “the sugya”. I hear that R. Refoel Szmerla in Lakewood is a “baki” on all types of complementary/alternative healing and the specifics regarding the halachos and hashkofos of these healing modalities. When one understands that there is documented scientific basis to much of “healing” work of various kinds, then one can form an educated position and have an educated and informed discussion as to whether this would be helpful to a particular individual’s specific situation.September 11, 2013 1:52 pm at 1:52 pm in reply to: How to respond to your eighteen-year-old teen who says this? #974341
LOL! Just asked my 23 y.o. “your 18 y.o. says this, what do you say”. Her response? The classic response: Well then, if you are an adult, get a job, get a car, get an apartment and pay rent, then you can make your own rules and do as you please. Just sayin….
I am so sorry that this happened to you. Someone here mentioned that this is unprecedented. Unfortunately, it is NOT. I am well aware of a situation that happened to a lovely girl in my community, more than 10 years ago. Very similar dynamic. She was “uninvited” right before she was to leave for sem, also due to a phone call from someone in her home community with some negative information about her. The information was not true, the girl was hurt. With lots of advocacy on her behalf by her high school principal, she was ultimately to another seminary in the States. Get someone(s) to generate some options for you and advocate for you, and I”YH all will be well, and you will have an amazing growthful experience. If you would like to “talk” I can be reached through the yeshivaworld mods and I can give you more specific support.