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  • in reply to: Shidduch Checklist #975565
    r9913
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    also heard of check boxes checked and miserable marriages.

    Best advice is go with your gut feeling, I’d stay away from any book or articles (have seen in previous thread called 1000 Questions before Marriage Book helped couple) it needs to make sence logically and even more emotionally.

    (your checklist is from the logical standpoint, I also read R’Lewenstein said he worries when the couple says they have no feelings, meaning it’s all checked off but the emotions aren’t there.

    in reply to: de Blasio v. Lhota #975556
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    now that we got the go ahead from the Clintons nomination, deBlasio is 80% winning…I’d put money on it!

    in reply to: Shidduch Checklist #975558
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    possibly, it just might be easier. but even if a single imagines a certain person. they can’t always know that the person exists or they’ll get to meet them. practically its hard to know if that person is really worth pursuing in the first place. I know my husband and I wouldn’t have agreed to date if we hadn’t met at my sister’s vort. our lists didn’t match up but we hit it off and the rest is history.

    in reply to: Talking to Cousins #976408
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    It sounds too strange for cousins to get married. I mean, if youre close with your cousins, it’s because youre cousins not because you have this connection.I know it’s done especially in some families to keep the yichus within the family. I don’t think it’s naive but with family you should joke, laugh, hang out and it’s all really normal to be yourself and chill. I could see it more of a problem if you’re into (no boy-girl interaction)when your cousin friends hang out with you. Cousins are family and staying close making those get-togethers fun.

    in reply to: Tznius or Shalom Bayis #977101
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    Maybe we should stay inside our log-cabins and warm the fire wood, and wear dresses with three layered petticoats underneath and don’t forget the bonnets!

    in reply to: de Blasio v. Lhota #975550
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    with a choice like this…. I’m leaning towards de Blasio, it’s not like either all great. We all miss Guiliani

    in reply to: Inspirational Music #975001
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    You’re right. it is a sensitivity,and “keep holding on” is stunning!

    in reply to: Tension based on spouse's change in tznius #975450
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    I thought covering hair is a Halacha

    in reply to: Inspirational Music #974999
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    Adele is irreplaceable, you can take inspiration from everyone, including secular singers. If they bring you closer. why not?

    in reply to: Inspirational Music #974998
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    Adele is irreplaceable, you can take inspiration from everyone, including secular singers. If they bring you closer. why not?

    in reply to: What Marriage means to you in 5 words #974958
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    “Knowing he knows you best”

    then you add: for better or for worse(SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING)

    in reply to: What Marriage means to you in 5 words #974954
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    WIY, lol

    (for better or for worse)

    in reply to: Advertisements for a Web Filtering Service #975794
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    The biggest filter is your eyelashes!!!

    If you want to look you will.

    If you stop and prevent yourself from looking you won’t look.

    Come on! What about self control?

    Okay, I know it can be addictive and perverted people will continue watching whatever they want regardless of having filtered internet.

    There are psychiatrists/psychologists who specialize with these specific addictions.

    The majority of men(or women) will not need these filters.

    in reply to: Yom Kippur and Atheists #974068
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    It’s interesting to me that someone who is an adult (it seems) needs to convey a message of clear disbelief in G-d and is wondering if they should fast on Yom Kipper.

    Please find a competent Rabbi to discuss the matter with further.

    A real intelligent atheist (whom I have had the privilege of being friends with) will feel the need to study religion (question it and make fun of it), but maintain mutual respect towards religious folk.

    You seem to be living a double-life. You go through the motions of Jewish culture, it’s not real!

    Please take the time to study and learn: Aish.com or Simpletoremember.com

    in reply to: Why Would a Girl Even Want to Learn Talmud? #974005
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    Men and Women were not created equally. Only a Feminist or Feminist Supporter would disagree.

    That being said, men and women have distinct characteristics which enable them to fulfill their roles in the world.

    As an erudite and distinguished science major.

    I would think you would be well aware of these differences (you’ve studied Bio, Psych., and a myriad of other subjects which should have given you crystal-clear insight into human relations(birds and the bees) and relationships.

    In a coed classroom guys will 9/10 be more drawn to stare at the girls then visa versa. Yes. Girls will be interested in guys but not the same way and definitely not the same nature as guys.

    The Gemara, in reference to relationships, was meant to bring out clear scenarios and if it does so in a very graphic way, then a girl who as LAB mentioned is squeamish won’t enjoy learning it very much -to say the least.

    Having studied the sciences and feeling the need to broaden your scope of ascertaining clear knowledge and understanding of Yiddishkeit. I would recommend you find a competent Rabbi that will assist you in your study.

    May you continue to strive for understanding and I think a trip to Neve Yerushalayim would be a perfect opportunity to study the Gemara in depth!!!

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