In my humble opinion

Being into the way you dress, is meorer taaveh, (think about this for 5 min before you argue) and therfore its ossur,

Look at these posts, what does in style mean,… tight pants, open buttons…. that proves my point

In slabodke it was not about style, it was about dressing well, looking good is not the same as looking in style… and also you should know even in slabodke they only did it coz boys weren’t finding shiduchim, the girls did not want to marry yeshiva bochurim, (it was a new concept)

While it’s true that people should keep costs low in order to invest more in their kids

You do have to recognise time and attention is not the only thing our kids need from us, one of the very important thing they need from us is a good chinuch, and yeah we can cut costs of our fancy homes, cars, vacations, weddings, food standards, coz those won’t help our kids for their future life, and instead spend it on their frum education, importance towards mitzvos and yiddishkeit, coz these will help them towards having a happy meaningful life, at least as much as sitting and playing games would help them towards a happy meaningful life,

It’s very interesting that all the people busy bashing our community that we need to spend more times with the kids, it always comes back to compromising on yiddishkeit, that is not helpful for our kids, you care about them? You want to spend more time with them? Compromise on your selfish spenditure, no adult is a better person coz when he was young his father drove a nicer car…….

You obviously don’t understand what a good meaningful life means, it’s not having money and fun… I can tell you that much

I have no problem that these ashirim are spending this ridiculous money on a 5 hour show off event, I actually think its a good thing, otherwise this money would sit in their pockets, as you can see from the way they spend it you see they are not very purposeful, and wouldn’t use it for real purpose like helping our brothers who are struggling, their view on money and life is if I can say very similar to a goys view on money and life, so I rather they spend it and not keep it in their pocket, and we rather they spend it on weddings where at the end of the day alot of this money if not all are supporting family’s, the caterer, the singer, the stores where the food is bought, the florist, and more, and not spend it like the goyim who as I mentioned they are not far from that, who would spend it on yachts planes villas, where most if not all money would then go to goyim….

The only issue in my opinion is the people who do more then they can afford due to pressure, and nebach think people look upto them if only people would more often tell them in their face what a fool they look, and how it’s only the little 10yo who is discussing the next day exactly how mad they went on their child’s wedding, the mature adults won’t spare a single breath to discuss a day later what flower exactly they spend on for abit of foolish attention

We need to start laughing at them in their face

Many people here have written very smart opinions and ideas, and many ideas how to tackle the problem, and as much as most of it might be true, I want to add one point…

I have no problem that these ashirim are spending this ridiculous money on a 5 hour show off event, I actually think its a good thing, otherwise this money would sit in their pockets, as you can see from the way they spend it you see they are not very purposeful, and wouldn’t use it for real purpose like helping our brothers who are struggling, their view on money and life is if I can say very similar to a goys view on money and life, so I rather they spend it and not keep it in their pocket, and we rather they spend it on weddings where at the end of the day alot of this money if not all are supporting family’s, the caterer, the singer, the stores where the food is bought, the florist, and more, and not spend it like the goyim who as I mentioned they are not far from that, who would spend it on yachts planes villas, where most if not all money would then go to goyim….

The only issue in my opinion is the people who do more then they can afford due to pressure, and nebach think people look upto them if only people would more often tell them in their face what a fool they look, and how it’s only the little 10yo who is discussing the next day exactly how mad they went on their child’s wedding, the mature adults won’t spare a single breath to discuss a day later what flower exactly they spend on for abit of foolish attention